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Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Protect your children-or stop having them!











This is exactly the kind of story I hate to have to report....


Take a look at the face of this beautiful perfect baby. He was recently murdered by his 17 year old mother's boyfriend. Apparently the young lady had an altercation with her severely damaged, evil, predatory boyfriend (22 yr old monster) who assaulted her and her 3 month old baby at her apartment. He actually slammed the poor baby onto the concrete! The police were called by the mother, but by the time they located this monster, he had thrown this precious baby on the expressway from a moving car! The baby (Emanuel Wesley Murray) did not survive.


It's beyond sad, how horribly these damaged pieces of dog feces calling themselves men, will prey on the most innocent, and vulnerable victims. When I read the original story I sat down and cried. We IR bloggers warn women all the time about letting any old man in their lives, and that they must be vigilant, and carefully vet any man they allow into their vicinity. But it seems the young are the hardest to reach. I don't even understand how a 17 year old was living on her own in her own apartment! Who the hell allows a 17 yr. old baby, to have a Baby and live ALONE!


I keep thinking, where was her mother? Where was the baby's father? Why was no one protecting him??? Do these young girls really think that damaged men who will abandon their own children won't hesitate to harm, main, or kill offspring that isn't even theirs? My heart goes out to this precious child, and the fact that he looks just like my four month old nephew just makes it so much worse!
Women for God's sakes- if you are too stupid to protect yourself, and you choose to get involved with these damaged, parasitic, morally bankrupt, monsters- At least have the compassion to give your child to someone who'll love and take care of him!! IOWS, Don't keep your child, you have at this point, proven yourself UNFIT to be a mother-give him/her to someone with more sense, logic, and compassion than you...

Don't have children if you plan to procreate with monsters, who will only prey on them!
Don't keep children that you plan to let other monsters, father! (Monsters make horrible fathers, and often kill or abuse the offspring that was NOT sired by them)

I'm so angry about this baby! This is so unnecessary. Any fool could have predicted this mess. The clues were all there.

A. The girl was young and stupid

B. The biological father is in jail (So she was already messing with jailbirds before she meets this monster)

C. The girl is living alone with her son (thereby giving monster access to the helpless baby)

D. There is no family to protect child or mother (just the way the monster wants it)

= Poor Baby is a sitting duck.....


I guess the question is: How do we reach these young vulnerable girls/women and let them know that no matter how lonely they are, or scared they are, they CANNOT just allow unknown men into their children's lives! That is a horrendous mistake, that could easily cost them and their children their lives! This precious baby did not deserve this. I don't' understand what this young girl could have found so appealing about this CONVICT!! Who is convincing these girls to go off with these damaged predators? Why would she think her precious baby would be safe? I don't mean to pin all the blame on a 17 year old, it's just that my sister had a baby at 17, and I never saw a more protective mother. She worked, and finished school, went to college and got a good job with the state, while the baby went to daycare. She eventually married the father, and they are still together. But to illustrate a point. One day (back when she was a teen) He, (the father) got loud in the house and the baby grew frightened and began to cry. My sister jumped up and showed him the door fast. My mother and step father were right behind her, they told him to never come back unless he knew how to act. He never tried that mess in front of us again, but the point is, she let him know that she was not going to put up with it. This probably would not have worked with a very damaged man, but then that's the reason you NEVER allow a damaged man in your life in the first place!
If you won't protect yourself-FOR GOD'S SAKE PROTECT AN INNOCENT BABY!!!
Stay away from convicts (most of them will never be reformed!)
Vet ALL men, and carefully screen for damage long, long before you let anyone NEAR your children!
It's probably best to refrain from dating when children are this young, as they cannot even tell you if someone is hurting them.
Watch carefully, not what a man says, but what HE DOES! How does he treat ppl when he thinks no one is watching?
Follow your instincts -It's knows more than you ever will!
Some warning signs of damage:
Does he curse excessively-and/or have a very dismal view of life in general?
Does he grow impatient, and anger easily?
Does he think all women are hoes and bitches-except his momma?
Does he get into fights easily over every little thing?
Does he act overly possessive or jealous over innocent encounters?
Does he come from a battered home?
Does he always have something spiteful to say about ppl in general?
Does he criticize you for small things?
Does he express outrage toward your children over trivial things -Get away fast!!!
Does he use drugs, sell drugs, or defend those who do? -Get away fast!!!
Does he have a record of even one serious offense? -Get away fast!!
Does he get angry, and for ANY reason you are suddenly afraid -Get away fast!!!
Does he try to force team, or move the relationship much faster than you feel comfortable doing?
-force teaming is when he might say "We need to take care of these kids"-And the KIDS ARE NOT HIS. IOWs He's making the two of you a team and you may have just met! This is a very effective manipulating tactic often used on women, because many men know that women don't want to be rude, or to seem rude....
Does he use guilt, manipulation, or pity to get you to do things you don't want to do? -Get away fast!!!
Are your children uncomfortable or fearful of him-regardless of whether you've seen any reason for them to be? -children have very good instincts (Be on high alert!) -Personally, I would never let someone near my children that I had not thoroughly vetted, and hopefully you ladies would not either. These are some of the clues, I'm sure you guys will add more, but we need to come together, and get these naive young girls away from these predators before more beautiful babies are thrown from moving cars!!!
....May God bless and keep this little angel...........

42 comments:

Gloria said...

Sara from what I read, the baby's biological father is sitting in prison somewhere. I think the women who bring these monsters in their homes should be charged right along with these "men".

Taylor-Sara said...

I agree Selena, I def. think some of these women who do not protect their children should be charged. But in this case, his mother was only 17! How in the world is a 17 yr old allowed to live alone with her child??
I remember watching some show a few years ago, where a young mother (ww)had allowed her (bm)boyfriend to beat and kill her son. 2 ww had started an organization to prosecute mothers who failed to protect their children. They read her the riot act! They were interogating her to determine if she fit the guidelines to be charged, and in minutes they had her in tears as they screamed and ranted at her. Then they forced her to admit to the entire panel that she had not lifted a finger to protect her son while he was being beaten to death. At the end, the panel jumped up and demanded that she be charged before they could even recommend it. And if I remember correctly, she got 8-10 years, while the bf got 25...

Jewell said...

Like you, I was horrified by this story. I was sadden by the loss of a such precious life. However, I am angry at the mother and the monster. When children are involved, I have zero sympathy for the woman (or the man) that ACCEPT abuse in their life and ACCEPT the abuse of their children.

Enough with the excuses. The monster needs to be charged with 1st degree murder and jailed for life. The mother needs to be charged with failure to protect and jailed for life. Both need to be sterilized.

Emanuel Wesley Murray deserved better!!!!

Anonymous said...

The man shouldn't be in jail he should be in a mental hospital.THey stick these men who are freaks in jail with scumbags and release them thinking they are just dark looking thugs but are really sick people.


These people need help.It's a sad story.

Tori C said...

I read this story when it FIRST broke....truely sad. And to put a face with the tragedy is heartbreaking!
You hit the nail on the head on this one. I really cannot think of anything else to add. Just makes no sense now adays...truel truely sad!

Tori

Tori C said...

....and to ANONYMOUS..I have to dissagree...JAIL IS THE PERFECT PLACE FOR HIM!!!!!! AS A MATTER OF FACT PUT HIM IN GP (GENERAL POPULATION) and with all those men in there who are MISSING AND WISHING they could see and hold thier OWN CHILDREN will JUMP at the chancew to get at hime for what he did to this poor poor defensless baby!!!!!

T~

bwdb said...

Anon May 7th 0308 hrs said...
"The man shouldn't be in jail he should be in a mental hospital."He should be in front of a firing squad!

Gloria said...

"His (the baby's) mother was in foster care and in a transitional home because she was abused and neglected. His biological father was LOCKED UP for being a FELON with a gun and drugs. He’s currently fighting to get out of prison for little Emanuel’s funeral, but for what purpose? The accused Killer McTear has a long history of brutalizing women and children and apparently has several children by several other women. One as old as 5 years old. One of his old girlfriends took years to get away from him, but not before he brutally beat her. McTear got started early when he beat up his own mother at the age of 14 because she wouldn’t let him go stay with his Daddy in the projects."- WAOD


No words...just damn!

Tam said...

More and more of these stories are surfacing. I live in the Cleveland area and there was a man who decided after being high on PCP to bake his baby:

http://blog.cleveland.com/metro/2009/05/euclid_man_put_baby_in_oven_pr.html

Thankfully, the child survived and the mother was OK, but how many more of these stories do we need to read / hear about before we get it together?

Kay said...

I have to agree. He deserves the death penalty.

Anonymous said...

Sadly some young women feel any kind of man is good enough for themselves...they are simply looking for love.
At seventeen years old the only thing she should have been concerned about was her studies. The guy is in deed mentally sick.
He was so nonchalant and yes, I know he had a very turbulent childhood. It's so sad around.

a.

Anonymous said...

I'm very hurt at the moment...I'm without words here. I cant stand this!!!! I hear so many children, babies murder by monsters seems like everyday now. What is really going on here??? I cant stand this! It's so much stuff going on in this world that sometimes I just want this world to end. I dont know man...I dont know!

Anonymous said...

A BM who attended my mother's church murdered his wife and then committed suicide in front of their toddler this week.


I too saw this when the story first broke. I have no words. Everytime I read headlines like this they make my skin crawl. I just don't understand.

Anonymous said...

The sad truth is that many AA males are not even worth being bothered with when it comes to building stable loving relationships leading to marriage. Young women, especially should avoid entanglement with bm; and finish their studies and start careers before even considering romantic involvement.

But young black women have emotions, needs and desires like everyone else. Hoping for the best, they often knowlingly get involved with damaged males simply because they see these types all around them, and feel they have no other option other than a lonely celibate life. In steps the devil....

TC said...

Do you know why these women/girls keep finding these trashy kind of men who hurt their kids? It's b/c no one really wanted these women when they were children. They grew up in foster homes or bounced around, were neglected and abused, and it's really what they've come to expect in their lives. They don't have the education to find decent jobs. They don't have anyone pushing them to do better. They don't have the self esteem to stand up for themselves, and when these predators come around, there's no one to protect them. They're the girls whose "moms" accused them of trying to steal their husband when the man tries to rape them. They're the ones who have no boundaries set for them. And when they're preyed upon, you can almost forget about charges being filed. This story is tragic, and not just because the woman's baby died. It's horribly sad that she didn't know how to love and protect her baby because she had never experienced parental love herself.

Anonymous said...

I found a nice site today in reference to bw/wm.

http://www.blackisbeautiful.se/

a.

Welcome said...

and finish their studies and start careers before even considering romantic involvement.

Isn't that what's got bw in the 70%singleness rate already?

Girls need to learn about relationships, dating etc. when they are young and how to vet men. The later they wait the longer it will take for this to happen. They like many will end up with and having kids with the first man who says I love you etc. Not to mention studies are taking longer and longer these days.

Anonymous said...

I agree coolsplash.

I think if women told girls the real about men and relationships early - not just the sperm fertilizes the egg - then women would be a lot more shrewd.

And you are right- it is not good to postpone, delay, or wait.

Anonymous said...

Isn't that what's got bw in the 70%singleness rate already?

Girls need to learn about relationships, dating etc. when they are young and how to vet men. The later they wait the longer it will take for this to happen. They like many will end up with and having kids with the first man who says I love you etc. Not to mention studies are taking longer and longer these days.
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You might be right, it's just that I know many black women who aren't degreed and are in low paying jobs, yet they too are single. I think there's a lot more involved in our high singleness rate than the emphasizing of education and career. Many Asian and Indian women do this and most still manage to find husbands.

I do, however, agree with Aphrodite that bw need to be a lot more shrewd in dealing with bm.

Welcome said...

Many Asian and Indian women do this and most still manage to find husbands

You can't compare Asian, Indian, WW CABW, with AABW, because the others have a support system that AABW don't have.
They get married or engaged because while they are in college they are either looking or have family who are looking for them. Most know that they will have someone during or after college, because their families will be looking for someone. These folx are hardcore. check out sites like Shaadi.com and you will know what I mean.lol WW do the same thing. They are looking while in college while we are waiting. You have those in the same state as bw, but many are dating for marriage. I was surprised at how many were married or engaged when I started college.

Lorraine said...

There is so much wrong with the entire picture here. I posted more than a mouthful at WAOD so I won't repeat it here, but suffice to say that the young mother was failed by every adult in her life that contributed to it taking such a drastic turn.

On the other hand, there are young girls determined that they want better than foster homes or care, projects and the 3 to 6 baby daddy nonsense. But this young mother may get a second chance since she is in the spotlight now.

Some group may reach her through intensive counseling and help her to realize what the problems are and not to repeat the mistakes she made that led to chosing her degenerate men. Maybe there is hope for her in the future.

RIP little Emanuel. He is with God.

S said...

I think the problem is BW keep putting BM on peadestals and making them out to be gods when really they're not.
For years "we" have told young black girls that black men are great and that there are no other options and BW have bought into the hype and now other women have also bought into the hype while SOME BW have started to see the light (Finally!).

We need to talk to younger BG that there is nothing wrong with dating out.
We as BW have obligations to teach the younger BG that BM now a days are damaged and that the safest option is to avoid them at all cost.
Now i know there are a few good BM but the majority are not and we need to wake the hell up to that and understand that they are DBR all the way into their bones!
I'm a young black female myself (20 years old) and i have never EVER dated a black guy because, besides personality wise, i am not attracted to them physically.

I don't want someone who hates themselves, like many black guys do.
Some of these black guys are so damaged and want nothing more than to be the white man they so much hate.
And let me tell you something,they hate us BW, trust me, most BM hate BW.
I know there are good BM but do we hear them? do they speak up for us when BM degrade us everyday in the media? Nope. And i almost think that is worse.
Remember the rihanna/chris brown incident? Will smith defended chris brown!! the only BM celebrity i thought had some sense to him! boy was i disappointed but it only goes to show how much they really do not care for BW.
They are the first to defend another "brotha" even if that same black guy did something as horrible as chris brown.
She got beaten up for gods sakes! this is the time when BM and the B.C and al sharpton,jesse jackson and the whole damn black panthers society to step in and defend us! but no, yet again, we hear nothing just another "Blame the victim" aka the black girl who did everything to deserve it because,well...she's black aint she!
Those damaged negroes can kiss my ass because they're not worth a damn! and why BW keep defending them is beyond me.
Honestly, i do not see the appeal in DBR men at all.
Time to wake up and see the light people.

P.S When I see a young black girl with her stroller, pushing two babies and looking miserable and alone ( no man in sight) i want to scream! what the hell is wrong with you!? While often you see asian women and white women, heck, even hispanic women with their partner by their side + baby.
What the hell is wrong with BW these days? it's like being a single mom is the norm for BW.

Halima said...

There is so much wrong with the entire picture here. I posted more than a mouthful at WAOD so I won't repeat it here, but suffice to say that the young mother was failed by every adult in her life that contributed to it taking such a drastic turn. Yes lorraine, one of the things that kept me real umcomfortable on how the discussion of the tragedy has gone so far, is how this young bw of seventeen is somehow expected to act with the wisdom that even some of us 'educated older and wiser bw' struggle with.

it is hard to remember what i was up to at 17 but i can tell you that i needed the 'wall of protection' of my family to keep me from falling into a pit.

see this is how you know a 'civilised society' by the protection put in place for the vulnerable and feeble. Most communtities that 'get it', provide a bulwark of protection for their young ones even up to 25 and these are never seen as mentally full blown adults responsible for astute judgement about life that even eludes people in their 30's.

The constant refrain of 'shouldnt lie down with wrong man' etc etc is a testament to the fact that many black folks, do not care to do 'society' with the commonsense that underlies and undergirds thriving communtities. it is also testament to the fact that we have signed up fully to the clause of apportioning at least half the blame to the woman involved regardless of the situation.

As an aside I am very encouraged how bw are beginning to understand and recognise their specific circumstance such as revealed in this response by coolsplash

You can't compare Asian, Indian, WW CABW, with AABW, because the others have a support system that AABW don't have.I want bw to know (and this has been a constant drum banging one for me) how the situation applies to them specifically. Only them can we put in place the most effective solution to what ails us. its gladdens my heart each time i hear bw get right down to how things are for them as opposed to the disastrous tendency to presume 'ww reality is our reality' or every black person shares the same situation with relation to their society.

Supposing I wanted to Date a White Guy...?

Lena said...

I feel bad for the young woman and her child. I hope the monster who killed that child never knows freedom again.

Anonymous said...

"Remember the rihanna/chris brown incident? Will smith defended chris brown!! the only BM celebrity i thought had some sense to him! boy was i disappointed but it only goes to show how much they really do not care for BW."

Will Smith wasn't defending Chris Brown as much as he was trying to defend BM in general. It's the same old wagon circling idiocy which AA's have always used to keep BM from having to answer for their misdeeds.

Anonymous said...

"They get married or engaged because while they are in college they are either looking or have family who are looking for them. Most know that they will have someone during or after college, because their families will be looking for someone."

They get married, not so much because they have family scouring the landscape for husbands for them, but because they ACTUALLY have plenty of marriageble men in their own communities. BW DON'T. Sticking to the "BM ONLY" philosophy has been a MUCH bigger culprit in keeping us single than putting education and career first before the type of relationship young BW often find themselves in -- the type which has ZERO potential for marriage.

I take no issue with young bw looking specifically for *husbands* while they're in school...it's when they look for Da'Quan with the sexy swagger to pass the time with, and so she can have a 'boyfriend' while she's in school, which has caused so many problems.

So, what I was trying to get across is, if ybw insist on running after "SWAGGER" at she should get her education behind her, and a career established, so at least she can take care of Da'Quan and all the babies, they most assuredly will have, in style!

Anything more and we'll just have to agree to disagree.

Anonymous said...

Tori C:

It's easy to say kill him.Stone him would seem about fair.But normal people steal,kill and break the law.When you kill babies that is as far gone as you go.He's brain needs to be study.As much punishment that he should get,the man has problems and jails are filled with mentally ill people who later get released then go back on the steet.


He needs to stay in a padded room all he's life waiting for whats coming to him.

Lena said...

Yes I agree putting black men on a pedestal is very much the culprit for singleness amongst black women. It's funny how they criticize black women for being single when a lot of black men don't even want to get married anyway!

I believe Al Sharpton is only there to defend black women when it's an opportunity to demonize white men and not necessarily to protect black women.

I find the black love cult to be pathetic especially because reality reveals that not too many black men are worth marrying!

Welcome said...

Yes, but women also have to be seen what marriageble men look like. And if all you see is dbrm that's what bgs will see as relationship material.

And Asians/Africans etc. are hardcore when it comes to finding their kids mates. They vet the person before they even mention them to the kids. Hell their vetting process is crazy these people don't play.

Still they have a support sytem that we just don't have. Because seriously if most of these girls had dads mentally an physically in the home who where reliable good role models there would be no way many of these guys would make it through round 1 of meeting them. That and many girls would probably know a loser or dbr because of her fathers example of what a good man/father/husband should be.

Welcome said...

Hey I just saw an article mentioned at Zabeth's that came from Alphanista. Anyways it's modern day Lysistrata.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/africa/8028337.stm

Anonymous said...

Hi Sara,

I hope it's okay that my post is off-topic. I really appreciate your blog and I’ve been recommending to others. I’m happily married to a black guy, but I do think bw need to expand their dating pool beyond bm. I remember when I was single that some of the professional bm could be so arrogant because there was a shortage of them.

If I may, I‘d like to suggest future topics for your blog. There are many bw for whom the idea of having an intimate relationship with a white man is just too hurtful to imagine. They may have school- or work-related friendships with white people, but they don’t hang out with them when they aren’t at those locations. All their friends, save maybe a few Latinos are black, they go to a black church, black night clubs, etc. Many may have experienced racism, perhaps even recently, and can’t bring themselves to fully trust someone from the same group that has caused or is causing them pain. If you could write a blog post on how these women can get past these emotional obstacles, it would be very helpful.
Could you also write about how bw should handle racial issues when in these IR relationships? One example is if the two of you have differing opinions on affirmative action. Another is if you talk about a situation in which you thought there was racism at play and the guy thinks you’re being too sensitive. The black Christian singer, Nicole C. Mullen, who is married to a wm, has talked about how important it is to have a dialog with your non-black guy about racial issues. At what point in the relationship should bw be bringing up racial topics? I would imagine bringing it up right at the beginning of a relationship would put too much of a focus on race before you even get to know the guy. Is waiting 1 month too long? Thanks for all you’re doing.

Traci said...

BW need to look at the mental LEVEL of a person that is trying to have a relationship with you.

For example, my doorman (yes, doorman) wanted to take me to a baseball game last week. When I immediately refused he had the nerve to ask WHY NOT and wanted an answer. He has told me he has been divorced 3 times, no kids (that he claims), twice my age and hangs around my DBR uncle (small world, huh?). Those qualities ALONE tell me that there is absolutely nothing to explore there and to move on - We aren't on the same mental level and never will be. (Because if you are hanging out with a DBR person - my uncle, chances are you are probably the same...or at least have no problem with the mess he does)

BW need to identify what level the person is on before you let them in your life. Just because we the same shade means absolutely nothing.

brightstarr said...

I have dated quite a few white guys and my current partner is as well. I would never date a Republican/super-conservative because those aren't the viewpoints or values I hold.I have found plenty of progressive/liberal white guys who hold most of the same viewpoints I do on affirmative action, reproductive rights, etc. I met them in classes at college, poetry slams, protests, etc. I met my current bf at a neighborhood bar popular with young professionals and law students in our area. So look for a man of any color who shares values and interests with you.

I understand that some black women have been injured by racism, I was a victim of a hate crime at my small, Catholic high school so I know. I also have been the victim of virulent colorism and rejection because of my dark skin, but I don't refuse to date men of color even though this was very hurtful. I take people on a case by case basis, and vet their behavior for signs of latent or overt racism. So that's what I tell my friends who refuse to date out for fear of racism. I found lots of these reasons are just excuses to stay "in the box" for black women. They say things like "he (a white guy) will never bring you home to his mama" when no black man has ever brought them home either. Every guy I have dated has brought me home, including the current one. The only mother who was cold or rude in a way that made me uncomfortable was the mother of a Jamaican boyfriend who frowned at my natural hair and later told her (beautifully dark brown) son that I was too dark. My current boyfriend's Mom is an English teacher like me and we had brunch yesterday for mother's day as both our mothers have passed. I share this because a lot of us fear rejection from the families of our non-black partners but overlook the same in our black ones.

ValeriesWorld said...

On this blog, and many other enlightened ones, we are the only ones that can see that there is problem, with many of these young men, and it has been going on for years!!

I really think that women should engage with men who are worthy of them. When you don't have anyone to talk good things into your life, you become like a train heading to nowhere, a ship heading for the rocks.

All three of them are tragic victims, the mother, the boyfriend and the baby.

At such a young age, already a mother, while she should be preparing for college, she is a mother. The boyfriend already a murderer, killing a defendless baby, a beautiful boy, if we feel so upset over this, how must God in heaven feel! We are really lost God help us. Our daughters need a lot of protection and the sad thing is the black community fail to see that!.

The only black important person, who defended Rihanna was Oprah and after that, have you noticed all discussions about Chris and Rihanna has almost finished.

That is why it is important to keep speaking the truth constantly, which we are doing, we will get prosecuted for speaking the truth, but we cannot lie, our lies have COST US OUR LIFE!!!,

These young girls, many are so misguided, there needs to be change in the female black mindset.

I strongly believe words are and have power and we talking about it. We will eventually bring a change.

Angelina said...

While I was shopping at a Target store the other day, I kept hearing this little girl scream for her mom. I decided to see why and saw the following. The little girl [she's 2 years old] was being mistreated by the mom's boyfriend. He kept hitting the child while the mom said nothing. I intervened when I heard a sharp slap being given to the little girl while the mom still did nothing to save her child from being abused. I must have scared the crap out of the guy, because he kept his hands to himself after that. That piece of crap bm never so much as smiled at the little girl, nor did he try to play with her. The contempt he had toward that little girl was so obvious that Stevie Wonder could have seen it--yet the mom didn't care because she was just happy to have a black man at the expense of her own kid.

Ann said...

That poor baby. Didn't even live long enough to discover the world and himself. Jeezz, I mean, I don't even care what happens to the family anymore, I just wonder where is this boy soul now?? Is he in Heaven or in Hell for not being baptized?? Ohh, I'm 17 and this would break my heart!

Anonymous said...

Some BW have said they’ve had good dating experiences with WM in Canada, so ladies, why not expand your dating pool to include our neighbors up North? It’s not going to be so different from dating someone in another state in the U.S. I know some people don’t like long distance dating, but my cousin and her husband did, so it’s not like it's impossible. PlentyOfFish dot com is an international website, so you can browse profiles of Canadian guys there. Match dot com also has a Canadian version – just go to ca dot match dot com.
P.S. If you hook up with a Canadian guy, try not to giggle when he pronounces “out” in that special way :-)

Taylor-Sara said...

To the Anon. who wrote in telling me that I am single handedly ruining the black race, you give me far too much credit! Bm are doing a fine job of that all by themselves! And can you tell me why you are more concerned with bm than with an innocent baby thrown from a car by some animal calling himself a man? Ppl like you make me sick! A baby is murdered and you are more concerned with the image of bm! Bw are beaten and killed everyday! -yet you are concerned for the feelings of bm! Well I'm NOT concerned for the feelings of black men! I don't give a damn about their feelings! I care about their VICTIMS!!! The subject of this post is this precious baby, if you are not interested in discussing ways we can save precious innocents like him in the future- then please leave!

Taylor-Sara said...

wow angelina, that's horrible about the little girl! I hate when when weak ass women let animals hurt their children! She's a sitting duck with no one to protect her. And he knows it. Her mother should be held accountable for any harm he brings to that poor child.

I remember years ago when my baby was 3. We were at the mall in the video arcade. I explained to her that mommy only had 8 or so quarters, and that was all the games she could play. (I figured 4 games was enough) Well, when the quarters ran out, she began to scream and cry, and ran out of the arcade before I could stop her. I ran out looking for her and discovered her with two ww. They were comforting her, and asking her if someone had hurt her, while assuring her that no one had the right to hurt her. She told them that her mommy would not let her play the games, and they gave her money, and a quick hug, after telling her, that she was adorably cute. I was so shocked that they cared so much about some kid they didn't even know, that I just took her back, and let her play some more. (After a lecture about running off) But the point is, white ppl seem to get INVOLVED when they think a child is being harmed. That's something too many bp don't do. And that's why so many of our children are sitting ducks. Thank you for saying something to that no good bf, but God, I wish someone would take that poor child from them, so she can be safe....

NicoleLorraine80 said...

Sometimes they don't even wait to start the insanity before the baby comes out:
http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/Pregnant-Woman-Found-Dead-near-Forestville-School.html

This is in my area and as surprised as I am, at the same time I am not. There is a lot of violence geared towards pregnant women and the media barely covers it when pregnant bw are 'missing'. I'm mad at how everybody feels sorry for the bm, but nothing is said about the victim, nor her accomplishments.

Lena said...

Dang I feel scared for black women and especially for little black girls. When little white girls go missing the whole community is up in arms but when a little black girl is missing there isn't so much as a whimper of concern.

It's like the black community sees us as an extension of the men rather than women.
Aren't I a woman too!

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