Please, Please, Please, if you know you harbor racist tendencies or feelings-please do not bring innocent children into it!!
I wrote this post in response to several young women who have written to me begging for help. All of these young ladies are the product of ww/bm relationships/marriages. I am only enclosing one story as the others do not want to discuss their plights publicly. Please read the following story and give this wonderful young woman your insight and compassion... and please tell your ww friends to please think about the children that she might bring into this world before she lays down with bm because it seems to be in fashion.....
Hi Sara,
I really love your blog. I'm writing to you to tell you of my experience with a neo hip fake wannabe down -white woman. She is also my mother. Twenty five years ago, she decided to try the black experience and she seduced some young 17 year old black kid into bed with her (she was 25) She wound up pregnant and my nightmare began. She came from a very racist family and they called me every name in the book! I won't begin to try to count how many times I was called n*gger, jungle bunny etc. It went on and on. Her mother would hide me in the closet when company came and beat me if I cried. She, my womb donor was weak and uncaring. She told me to tell her white boyfriends I was the maid's child. Except this trailer trash family never had a maid! I hated this entire family and wanted nothing more than to get away from them. But the father did not know me and I assumed, he did not want me either. But God is merciful, one day he met us at the park. He and my mother began to talk( I think he was just being friendly) but he looked at me, and I knew, that he knew I was his. His eyes got big and he asked my 'mother' about me. She said that he had knocked her up and messed up her life. He ran back to the car and told his family. That night they all showed up at the house. I was in the closet crying because mom had some white people over so I could not come out. I heard shouting and swearing and my mother lying about where I was. I started to cry in terror. Suddenly the door was yanked open and my father stood there. When he saw me in that dirty closet, wearing rags and eating three day old bread, he began to cry. My black grandma snatched me into her big warm arms, then she turned and cursed my white family out. My grandma took me that night, and I have never been happier. I now have a real family that truly loves me. I cannot tell you how wonderful that is. I'm grown now but I still remember that scared little girl on the closet floor. I still remember being told if I had been white I would be good enough to eat with them. I still remember the pain. I just want to say to ww who want to try something new, PLEASE think about the children you will bear. I have 2 friends who have black moms and white fathers and they had warm wonderful lives, I also have a friend like me with a white mom who was ashamed of black and she had a horrible life. Unfortunately for her, her dad was no better than her mom. He did not care how horrible her mom treated her, he just wants to sleep with white women. He has left two other young girls in similar situations. She told me, her mom actually tried to paint her face white when she was young before she took her out with her! Candace, my friend still cries when she thinks about it. We both think WW should not have black children unless they are really, really, ready and not racist at all. If you have a black mom and your dad is a racist pig at least you have your mom to love and protect you. But if you are like us, and you have no dad and a racist or uncaring mom, then you have nobody. And it's a sad lonely world when you have nobody. Thank God for my black family. I try to be a family to Candace because she has nobody. Sometimes she seems so sad when we are with Megan, and Julie, their moms would take a bullet for them (so would their white dads) but she only has us girls... Please Sara, tell ww not to sleep with bm if they don't want black babies.....
Dear ________________
I am so very sorry for all you have endured. But I am eternally grateful you could count on your father and his family. I know the blessing that family is, yet I also know how much racism can hurt. I remember a time when my baby brother, Pedro was about 3, and a half years old. He is half Spanish and my sister was angry at his father. She called him a spic, and said that Puerto Ricans could not be trusted. I want to point out that she was really, really angry and normally did not talk this way. Anyway, I remember it like it was yesterday because my precious little baby brother began to cry! He looked up at us and said "If you hate Spanish people then you hate me because I'm Spanish too! With that he buried his curly little head in his hands and cried. Both my sister and I began to cry. We both love him dearly and hated to see him hurt. She apologized profusely and told him that she was wrong. She has, to my knowledge, never made another racial slur against Spanish people.You see she hurt someone she loved dearly, and that's enough to stop most people in their tracks. Most of the time love does concur all, but I guess not always. I'm so sorry about your mom, but it truly is her loss because you sound like a fantastic person and she has really missed out. Pray for her and pity her because you were a precious gift and she was too foolish to see it...
May God bless you.....Sara
