tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30469130665952949962024-02-21T09:59:18.576-06:00Interracial love and spice.....by SaraInterracial love and spice is a forum of discussion and sharing for black women to celebrate and share their love,attraction and marriages to non-black men..... My email is: asktaylorsara1991@gmail.comTaylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-580394634802953892012-05-31T06:11:00.000-05:002012-06-01T21:29:05.747-05:00<br />
<strong><span style="color: #8e7cc3;"><u>The Train is picking up speed, and more and more bw are jumping on board!!!!</u></span></strong><br />
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Arpil and Ron, Bill and Dee, Sandra and James, along with Patra and Andrew. All recently married between January 2010- January 2012 </div>
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Remember that train I always warned of, well as you can see it has taken off in the last couple of years- just as many of us foresaw that it would! Did you know that in the past couple of years the number of bw/wm marriages have skyrocketed and nearly doubled!!!! Did you know that Bw/Wm marriages are the FASTEST growing of ALL IR MARRIAGES!!!! With Bw/Hm men in second place!</div>
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Yay!!!! Bw are really waking up and finding the love and compassion they so richly deserve! And the best part of all this is that as more and more bw wake up their family and friend sisters will as well, and stop settling for men who are so far beneath them.- they need a periscope to see them! </div>
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Don't listen to anyone trying to tell you that you are a traitor to the race for dating, mating and marrying out!<strong><span style="color: red;"> You are a traitor to yourself if you don't find the very best man you can to love honor and cherish you and the offspring you bring into this world!</span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #073763;">You owe it to yourself and your children to bring a great husband/father into your lives. Nothing sets my blood boiling like the lies that are constantly fed to bw in regards to romance and relationships. or should I say in the case of most blk relationships- about-to-be-used-er-ships. Because that is what most blk relationships are or become. Most blk women who are dating or married to bm are dating or married to men whom they should not have allowed to cross their path. You cannot stop a man from looking your way but you can certainly stop it from going any further. This is why you see so many bw living in pure hell now. Because they did not want to be a traitor to their race, so they rejected all the non-bm who looked their way and settled for some high school drop out, hanging on the corner, weed smoking or selling fool who uses her for a maid, meal ticket, and/or sexual toilet!</span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #073763;">I know someone now who just graduated from nursing school and is just starting a brand new RN career. She's beautiful, young, and ambitious, yet she is dating and talking about marrying some loser who just got out of jail for drugs! He has absolutely NOTHING to offer her, yet everyone around her is encouraging her to marry him! Now think for a minute why these bp would be encouraging this young lady to marry someone so far beneath her. I will tell you why. The hospital where she has just begun to work is TEEMING with handsome young white doctors, many of whom I have seen giving her very appreciative looks. Some have already worked up the nerve to ask her for a date. So the KBWE (keep a bw from escaping) patrol has gone into high gear! They follow her around now, and make sure to remind her that she is "black" and belongs to bm. They wholeheartedly push her at the 'loser' and shut her down quick if she ever complains about him, or expresses reservations. They 'watch her' for the loser and report back to him when wm get to close. They are her supposed 'friends, and family, and she confided to me that she cannot understand why they are doing this. Hmmmm, I certainly can. She is a grat resource. She is a first yr RN slated to make upwards of 65,000! Do you really think they are going to let all that money/prestige simply 'walk' out of the BC? Not on your life! Even her pastor, whom she met with for couples counseling, advised her to "stay and work it out" Lord have mercy! Of course the 'loser' is trying to push her into marriage before she has a chance to come to her senses......Quel domage...(what a shame). If this young lady marries this man, she will join the legions of miserable bw who are now being used for money, sustenance, job title, maid service, sexual services, etc. In a few years if things continue on this course, I predict this yw will be a burned out, used up, sad and defeated replica of herself. Then the ppl around her now who are encouraging this idiocy will laugh and say </span><span style="color: #76a5af;">" I done tole her dum ass not to marry that fool- he done stuffed the drugs in her purse, now she goin to jail 'stead a him!-she so dam stupid!"</span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #073763;">Or it will be something like him getting violent and hurting her, as he has been getting more and more agitated/angry by all the wm MDs sniffing around her. After all she is HIS meal ticket! He has NO intentions of letting her live on a wm's easy street as a Doctor's wife in the suburbs. He has every intention of keeping her in the hood, 'tending' to him, and paying his bills!</span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #073763;"> Scenarios like this happen everyday in the bc, and bw who make the wrong choice will lives of suffering and silence (as will any unfortunate children born into these unions)The suffering will obviously happen at the hands of the loser, but the silence will happen because every time she tries to express her pain, the community (incl fam and friends will shush her and tell her to be glad she has a husband, and that bm are just under tremendous strain cuz the 'man' has his foot on a bm's neck. 'Puleeez!' SMH....</span></strong></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #073763;">Ladies you MUST take your future in your own hands. NO ONE can live your life for you, or knows better than you what kind of life you are looking for. It is up to you to go get it. Your unborn children are helpless, t</span></strong><strong><span style="color: #073763;">hey cannot choose the kind of father they have, but you can, and you must with great consideration for your happiness and theirs...</span></strong></div>
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<br /></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-31222000569285192442012-03-02T20:26:00.002-06:002012-03-02T21:26:39.649-06:00When Sex inpersonates love and committment....<strong>The other day a group of friends and I were at the mall. We were just hanging out enjoying the early spring weather and taking a much needed break from hubbys and kids. Well since I'm a people watcher, I was silently watching a group of young black women at the table next to us. I watched as they talked about their boyfriends and which man had the most sexual prowess. They sounded almost desperate to fill the voids in their lives with sex. Their faces were young but growing old before their time, and their smiles did not seem genuine. Like an old "Smokey song, I could almost trace the tracks of one girl's tears', though outwardly she grinned continually. They were loud and uncouth. Soon it was obvious people at other tables were listening, mostly ww. You could almost feel them trying to pretend they weren't. We grew uncomfortable at the vulgarity and gutter talk that spewed from them and finally moved. But people around were moving in closer and snickering in derisive tones. I wanted to shake these young women and tell them they were not only making fools of themselves, and that the ww around them were laughing at them not with them but the attention only seemed to fuel their fire, and they grew louder and louder as well as more and more lewd. Soon one young fool was bending over the table giving graphic displays of her behavior the prior night. It was at this point that mall security asked them to leave. ...</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>First of all I want to point out that the trash fish always takes the bait. The men around them smiling and nodding had already put them in the category of "week end screw" Ladies if you choose to display this type of behavior, you WILL no doubt attract men, but they will be the kind that use and abuse you. Good husbands and fathers you will NOT attract, and you will end up like many women who have tried to "outscrew" other women to get male attention. Used, angry, and soul-depleted. Good men will almost NEVER see this type of woman as anything worth pursuing. She will be the one they call at 3 in the morning, asking her to 'come over'. Usually this type of fool will actually go to, all she needs is a pair of red heels, a rain coat over her naked body, and hood ornament for her car that reads "we deliver!" It's really quite sad because most women really want love, and many women try to use sex to get love, yet it almost never works. Many bw, who are accustomed to being used and abused by the pitiful spectacles the hood calls men, (like the girls in the mall) have stopped trying to get love and are simply trying to get anything that resembles love. Ie, attention, appreciation, gratification etc. If you read some of the so called romance novels written by and for black women you will see this dynamic in action. You can even see it play out in public forums like facebook where bw will often brag non stop about their sexual exploits and rejoice like kids in a candy store over various parts of the male anatomy. A good example of this is J hudson's sister going on and on in overtly sexual tones over the man who eventually murdered her family. He was deranged and damaged beyond repair but all she saw was muscles and good 'sex', which she described in graphic detail....</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>My hope and prayer for bw is that they come to see how wonderful, and beautiful they truly are. That they come to give themselves the appreciation and chance at happiness that they deserve. All women (like men) enjoy good sex, but when sex becomes your primary focus, and you try to use it as a hook to land the man of your choice, then you need to work on YOU. Your self esteem, your emotions, your logic, your view of the world, and especially your view of yourself. You deserve someone who sees the 'real' you, and is capable of loving her fully. If he can only appreciates you when you wear a teddy, with wild hair on top of an overly made up face, then do you really see this man as your soul mate? Do you really think he's a keeper? Don't sell yourself short. Sex is only great in the <em>context</em> of a loving relationship. It cannot be used to obtain one....</strong>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-45136736864988044532012-02-14T09:24:00.004-06:002012-02-14T10:06:31.646-06:00Rest in peace Whitney-may God bless you.....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNE8nN4LUq4VjrLgCNotfASXnebkfnNRZpOhG_G9ws-igp3PhcWEe9ae0TcpH0oE2cQ7y8FJ4mqLaXiv20EjAClPfSPQ4UnsqL83cuVWyM-4PDFRZmAX0m-NXgqqVH2qwGiZoc53AeR7yC/s1600/whitney_houston.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5709012711172274962" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhNE8nN4LUq4VjrLgCNotfASXnebkfnNRZpOhG_G9ws-igp3PhcWEe9ae0TcpH0oE2cQ7y8FJ4mqLaXiv20EjAClPfSPQ4UnsqL83cuVWyM-4PDFRZmAX0m-NXgqqVH2qwGiZoc53AeR7yC/s320/whitney_houston.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVe5NZBwdZKJNbLlStcT1R-OK6FXN73a4J77bxUJsoa8jIOPpEjTbs5g2tkhzbb0Pw3szasTZBAhWaOAuH5lcQwleh_9FCh7wJHnHeqNMOKM_en-4hwVpPgEIN1PMCiKZsNKTpujGmTGMk/s1600/whitney-houston.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 278px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5709012644024300178" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhVe5NZBwdZKJNbLlStcT1R-OK6FXN73a4J77bxUJsoa8jIOPpEjTbs5g2tkhzbb0Pw3szasTZBAhWaOAuH5lcQwleh_9FCh7wJHnHeqNMOKM_en-4hwVpPgEIN1PMCiKZsNKTpujGmTGMk/s320/whitney-houston.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>Evia has already done a wonderful piece on Whitney so I will just add a few comments... I cried when I found out about her death. Talk about a beautiful woman wasting herself on a ghetto crumb... It's soooo sad but I hope and pray you young women take a lesson from this musical icon. That no matter how much beauty fame, talent, money or anything else you have -a damaged man can tear it all away. I'm well aware that she made her own choices. And yes I know that she is ultimately responsible for those choices, but as with soooo many lovely -have it all black women, she was trying desperately to "keep it real" I wish she had been true to herself instead of worrying about what the bc felt or said. Notice the minute she married this man her life spiraled out of control and plummeted into an abyss from which she never really recovered. Time and again I saw her defend this man while he went to prison, ran afoul of the law, and demonstrated time and again that he was not "gentleman or husband material". In my eyes she wasted a great life. I could see the toll this horrendous marriage choice was taking on her every time I looked at her. But black people seemed to love that she has married so far beneath herself. Yet did anyone notice the moment it became palpably clear that she was suffering from substance abuse, how quickly the bc turned on her and began to call her "crackhead " and such? The pressure must have been horrible for her, always trying to keep up this sham of a marriage, always trying to smile though the pain, knowing that the minute they smell vulnerability -they will attack. And they did, they ripped her to shreds time and again. Yet notice how A. W always received sympathy and support-while being one of the biggest junkies in Hollywood! </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>If this sad sad tale does not move you young ladies to make better choices, I don't know what more I can say. Whitney was so talented, and so beautiful, and so loved. She had EVERYTHING</div><br /><div>going for her! Yet it only took one very damaged man to tear down a career she has spent years building, and turn turn a once vibrant lovely woman into a cracked out shell. Take a lesson from the dead, get away from these damaged men as fast as your legs can take you. Don't listen to bc they are doomed and want to take you down with them (misery really does love company). Whitney, who was brought up in a good home with class and manners was practically coerced into dating and marrying a man had multiple OOW children, numerous drug arrests, and many other offenses. Bobby was someone she should have not given the time of day to. And yet she allowed him into her life because she desperately wanted bp to 'approve' of her! They were never going to approve of her- many of them were mired in jealousy over her money, talent and fame! They rejoiced when she married him because subconsciously they knew she, and her red hot career were terminally doomed from that point on, and that is exactly what happened. Her demise began long before that unconscious fall to the floor. It began the moment she smiled back at Bobby.......</div><br /><div>I know sometimes I seem over blunt but the time for subtlety has passed. Bw you must save yourselves! No one is coming to rescue us because they see us as the fools who fight to drink the kool aide and then wonder why we're slipping away. You must leave these damaged men on the corners where you find them. Stop dragging them home trying to make "real men' of them. It's not going to happen they are too far gone and they will only drag you into their own personal hell holes. We were watching a movie the other night, and a young girl was possessed by a demon. and the social worker (who had not believed it at first) was now scared of her -as the girl had murdered her friend. She asked the father, "what does she want?" </div><br /><div>He responded, "To know what your version of hell is-and force you to live there!"</div><br /><div>It seems to me that is exactly what a damaged man wants. To destroy everything you've worked hard for all your life. to bring you down and prove to you that "You are not all that!" To make you feel so low and lifeless that you are just another corpse without the sense to just 'lay down' Run ladies, don't walk run from the places and these people. Run for all the women who felt they could not get away despite numerous resources, like the late Ms Houston. And run for all the little children who if we don't get them out, will be slowly slaughtered. So as I cry sad tears for Whitney I will still call the women I love stuck in these places and beg them to leave....Rest in peace Whitney- and may the lord wrap you in the love and tranquility denied you on this earth...</div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-27070825615748642342012-01-20T11:44:00.005-06:002012-01-24T13:08:49.259-06:00Happy New Year Ladies- Know that You deserve the best!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqTJrvP6AqJd5Jt2A_pTFoXa6lCDF-B5XbbHQGPWjZwmeP8Y3BrJUNYZojDDvkQxLms95psK_PTfxYBta_ru73ZkopTrwzYtrKjHHEpIlSNgzZKnoYZMQ0xl4YpmhVEukh_kV4H7crH6Xt/s1600/couple-man-in-sensual-kiss-and-hug-undressing-woman.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 214px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5699781749715180066" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqTJrvP6AqJd5Jt2A_pTFoXa6lCDF-B5XbbHQGPWjZwmeP8Y3BrJUNYZojDDvkQxLms95psK_PTfxYBta_ru73ZkopTrwzYtrKjHHEpIlSNgzZKnoYZMQ0xl4YpmhVEukh_kV4H7crH6Xt/s320/couple-man-in-sensual-kiss-and-hug-undressing-woman.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqLI76SHMjxgTVj7egOqqdCfRxO9oQLRRoFL-iJN0dWs2kF3DLNcQ38CuHnUyt2J1GYr75ptPUp3FwGylLVa7FgA7sDT09LVjm0jou_1EEOqATrfyNsmHCA2uav9RDU3AGi1AQysld2LRG/s1600/blwhit.png"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 254px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5699781449616046162" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgqLI76SHMjxgTVj7egOqqdCfRxO9oQLRRoFL-iJN0dWs2kF3DLNcQ38CuHnUyt2J1GYr75ptPUp3FwGylLVa7FgA7sDT09LVjm0jou_1EEOqATrfyNsmHCA2uav9RDU3AGi1AQysld2LRG/s320/blwhit.png" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;"></span></strong></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;"></span></strong></div><br /><strong><span style="color:#000066;">Time for you all to go for what you really want and not what the bc considers acceptable..... </span></strong><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;">Like I was saying about Ms Scott. and others like her. She's a lovely lady and very classy and sweet. I definitely like her, but I take exception with anyone trying to tell black women to engage in a suicide mission! Regardless of how much they might want to believe in black love. The truth of the matter is that black love is deader than the dead sea scrolls and NOTHING can bring it back. It is nothing short of emotional, continual and eventually almost physical suicide for bw to continue wanting a a black prince who is NOT coming! Most bw are all too aware of the bm in their environment, and Im sure most have noticed that when he does have himself together (rare) the first thing he will do is run post haste, and find a non bw to set her up in the good life. I have news for everyone out there who thinks only ww deserve the good life- Black women deserve the good life too! In fact I would venture to say we deserve it more than most other women because most of us have been through more than other women, and suffered more than other women....</span></strong></div><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;">So that being said, I just want you ladies to follow your own thoughts, desires and dreams. There is no reason why each and every one of you cannot have a good man and a really good life. Think about the stats for a moment, Even discounting the racist or gay wm, the overwhelming numbers of wm (who are the largest segment of men btw) is still so astronomical that just by opening yourself up and allowing it to be known that color is NOT a deterrent to your heart-you put the odds overwhelmingly in your favor to get exactly the kind of man you are looking for.</span></strong></div><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;">Women like Jill and Sherry (the view) do all bw a grave disservice, regardless of whether or not it's intentional. Think about how the bc has for years encouraged and steered bw to ONLY bm regardless of the fact that many bw secretly did NOT want a bm, and regardless of the fact that bm were and are dating the whole world while letting everyone know bw were last on their list. Who benefited from this dichotomy? It was bm. They had their cake and could eat it too, while marrying and ww and giving them their names, their homes, their hearts and their money. They gave bw their used up penis, and threw a few kind words her way on their way out the door! But because of the refusal the bc to even entertain the notion of bw dating out, many bw (but definitely not the ones like me!) felt compelled to take the crumbs they were being dished by bm ( a used up phallic organ) and try to pretend to be happy. This is why songs like " Freak in the mornin" came out and were such big hits. Many bw needed to pretend that a big penis actually meant something. Ask any woman who has a man with a big penis and nothing else to offer if she's happy- and see what answer you get. And if she tries to lie-look in her eyes and see the truth. A penis is nothing but a body part- almost all women want much more. We want his heart, his HELP, his compassion, his monetary value, his love, etc etc. We want the whole package, and for most of us sex is a minor part of our happiness or lack thereof with him...</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;">To convince bw to settle for being sexual toilets is unfair, unacceptable and just plain cruel. Every woman deserves to be some one's queen, and the light of his life not just his bed-warmer. Remember how ppl spoke about bw being forced to be wm's bed warmers in the old days.? Remember what a painful memory it seemed to be when the elders would bring it up? Yet today black folks seem to have no problem coaxing bw to be bed warmers for bm and it's more destructive and pernicious than ever because of stds and babies left behind with a nation of stressed out mothers on the brink of a break down. " Never trust a man to help you get out of a ditch - if he benefits from you staying in it........."</span></strong></div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-32539300417579327822012-01-20T10:18:00.003-06:002012-01-20T10:48:46.290-06:00<strong><em></em></strong><br /><strong><em></em></strong><br /><strong><em><span style="font-size:180%;">Happy New Year!!!! 2012!!</span></em></strong><br /><strong><em></em></strong><br /><strong><em></em></strong><br /><strong>I know I'm soooo late with that. Please forgive. It's been a whirlwind year for my family. Besides a new baby, we lost a home in a horrible storm a few months ago, (luckily we had the resources to get another-many Americans currently don't.) .... I don't want to get into it all but we're blessed and happy to be here. Hope you ladies are as well.....</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>I think it's important to DECIDE to change your life. Whatever you are unhappy with you must make the change. The best way to get going is to write it down and really admit to yourself this is making me unhappy and I want it to change.</strong><br /><strong>For instance many bw more and more are wanting to break away from</strong><br /><strong>the antiquated acting black crew and date/marry out. Many want to start businesses, and many just want general changes. These may consist of losing weight or engaging a hobby they truly enjoy. The point is these things don't just happen. You must make them happen. The weird thing to me that I have noticed in my life is that I can dwell on something and seemingly bring it into my life! It's been the most awe-inspiring thing I've noticed in my life. For instance I can think of a friend I have not seen in quite a while and if I dwell on that person sure enough someone will mention her or tell me how she's doing, or she'll call. </strong><br /><strong>Why is this signifigant? Because you do this all the time too. Everyone has this power. And this is the key to having the life that you want. Most of the things in your life ARE under your control! Let me say that again. Most of the things in your life ARE under your control. You think about them repeatedly, and then you draw them into your life. It happens all the time. Try this the next time you go somewhere where you typically have a hard time finding a parking spot, picture that spot the before you leave and before you arrive. Really think and believe you'll have a great spot, and nine times of ten you will! </strong><br /><strong>My point with all this is that black women are calling their own shots. We don't have to respond like pavlov's dogs reacting to the stimuli the outside world tries to direct us with. We can and do control our own lives...</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>Although I notice frequently ppl who don't have our best interest at heart will often use ppl who look like us to influence us. Don't be fooled follow your own heart, and never trust those who benefit from you being in the ditch, to help you get out of it. Or even those who may not have malevolent interests but simply can't see the light for themselves. I've told you ladies many times ppl who cannot see it for themselves, will almost never be able to see it for you!</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>Take for example, Jill Scott. who is a wonderful lady and a beautiful woman. But if all she sees for herself is a bm, (and feels strongly about it) then she will impose that view on every woman in her emotional vicinity. Not because she is vindictive, but because she is seeing the world through her own ideaology. Many times well meaning ppl are blinded by their own beleifs and shortcomings. This is why the bible says "Without a vision the people perish" You must have your own vision for your life and not let others lead you....... To be cont'd</strong><br /><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong></strong>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-33033892769619692002011-06-09T10:28:00.004-05:002011-06-09T11:35:01.300-05:00Be careful what you wish for.....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghMl35CkeKxIvxJaYFi2vmDAEUKuwUyP5mJzJ_A9bAe7Sze1XFNwM6WJpG99gz3dQ3vKnUMRx6EMg8OmYY9cjBRiCJgMiLfMqzRiDngWzbpYwljFk6JZHL0NKuS5qtd1jUIlscGwoRKpx5/s1600/veronica-blakely.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 267px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5616247081097016610" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEghMl35CkeKxIvxJaYFi2vmDAEUKuwUyP5mJzJ_A9bAe7Sze1XFNwM6WJpG99gz3dQ3vKnUMRx6EMg8OmYY9cjBRiCJgMiLfMqzRiDngWzbpYwljFk6JZHL0NKuS5qtd1jUIlscGwoRKpx5/s320/veronica-blakely.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiUS5uLuNWtJPWxd2O3bZAva8xvJu0KjwpeivU7uOmlbVGFGGMnvnGcpsNL34ArdbN7O7cP3_l_-N6TDOKyiBE6I1_Vhz5yVRcZIrXrDbYfeP01kGsyO3CwPoeL-fKlqOk3oEwWQMCciA3/s1600/blackmancover.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 194px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5616246986367907890" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiiUS5uLuNWtJPWxd2O3bZAva8xvJu0KjwpeivU7uOmlbVGFGGMnvnGcpsNL34ArdbN7O7cP3_l_-N6TDOKyiBE6I1_Vhz5yVRcZIrXrDbYfeP01kGsyO3CwPoeL-fKlqOk3oEwWQMCciA3/s320/blackmancover.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><span style="color:#330000;"><strong>This is a new book by Veronica Blakely (to the left) This is the reason why so many bw cannot find good (other) men. They have not pulled their eyes away from misogynistic, women- using bm.....<br /></strong></span><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">All you ladies out there wishing brothras would come back home, take that nightmare and shove it on other women! The last thing most bw need is for bm to come back! And yet here we have another silly lady begging them to do just that.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">..</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">It really steams me when another one of these silly, useless, Brotha-come-back-home books come out. And it seems they always get alot of press and attention, making the problem even more prevalent. The truth is the last thing most bw need is a bm! Most bm are as good to bw as a hole in the head. Not that there are not some good ones, but even most of the good ones are Not looking at bw are wife material. Most are using bw for money, sex, shelter, or other benefits. With no benefits for her except pain and frustration. Most bw involved with bm are NOT in relationships. They are in Userships. And are being used on a regular basis, for whatever the man needs or can get.....</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">It is utterly ridiculous to write a book that expands the already over-indulged ego of these men-boys in an effort to show them you are in their corner. Someone who is NOT in your corner does not give a damn whether you are in theirs or not-can't these women see that? I'm always amazed at the depth of naivety when it comes to these issues. I'm amazed because bm make it very very obvious how they really feel when they disrespect bw through song. When they harass, main, rape and kill bw on a regular basis, and when they use bw for baby holders while wifing other women with abandon. And still silly little foolish women refuse to believe their lying eyes and choose instead to believe the constant lies these men feed them. Sad......</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Ladies when books like these are written the only thing that changes is the egos in most bm grow larger and larger. They know these silly women are out there begging for their time and attention, and that she will foot bills, and make herself available sexually and otherwise to gain mere scraps of attention from him. They are the reason most bm are so under motivated, and lagging so far behind other men as it is. They are a primary reason the average bm will have nothing to brag about in his lifetime, other than his sexual prowess! -which is soooooo overrated-it's almost a joke.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">I know someone quite close to me who wanted to marry her child's father desperately. He was not interested (for years) until she suddenly got a good job with the state. All the sudden he was more than ready to get married and could not wait to get her down the isle. Now seven years later. She foots 90% of the bills in the house. He is on HER medical insurance/dental. She takes care of the kids, has to rush home and clean, cook, and run everyone everywhere they need to go. She is hurried, stressed, overworked, and miserable. She confessed to me that she no longer even enjoys the sex because he wants it's constantly whether she's in the mood or not, and wants her to do "things" to "keep a brotha happy!"</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Her life is a living hell now. She has no time for herself. They have 3 children and all of their care is on her. She is constantly working, and trying to take care of everyone, is forced to have sex an average of twice a night with only 6 hours to sleep, and has to pay almost all the bills! In seven years this beautiful woman has gone from a dark luminescent beauty to looking like someone run over by a truck! This is why I say be careful what you wish for....</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Only a fool wants someone who does not want them! Bm have made their feelings clear. And yet you have silly women like these begging them to reconsider, begging for time and understanding! How stupid! That's like someone smacking you down, and you jump up crying </span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">" But baby I love you, and you love me-I know you didn't mean to hit me!" </span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">IF he hit you then he meant to hit you! And only a fool wants that kind of dysfunction perpetrating as love. Bw must wake up! Why the hell would ANYONE want bm back? Think about it. Were they ever a great asset? Maybe once upon a time they took care of their children but look at them now! Over 80% of blk babies are being born out of wedlock (with over 90% left on the mother) and most of those women are struggling mightily to bring them up on their own. Most of those fathers are gone and don't even bother to look back-it that man behavior? I can't think of why in the world anyone would want these men back! But maybe I'm missing something... like the joy of being a baby momma, paying bills alone... having someone use me for my body, my money, my nice house-Gee what could I be thinking</span></strong>.......</div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com66tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-62597746202776257032011-05-31T13:38:00.005-05:002011-06-01T17:19:12.136-05:00Reading the signs to know if he's a keeper....<strong><span style="color:#330000;">Some of this is a no-brainer ladies. And some of it is less obvious. For instance, if a man is hanging on the corner with his pants hanging off his butt, and drinking out of a paper bag, obviously this man is NOT husband material. Some of you bemoan the fact that you attract one loser after another but refuse to open your eyes and see the signs. Hopefully the man I just mentioned is young, and with time will pull up his pants and get his act together. But so many times I see women expecting a pauper to turn into a prince.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;">It simply will not happen. Psychologists say that by the age of 2 a boy's personality is already set. So obviously by the time he's old enough to date, he is what he is. Stop thinking that you can change him, you cannot. The only time men change is when they want to. By the time boys reach adolescence, they stop listening to the females in their environment, and begin to emulate the males around them. However misguided and damaged those males may be. This is why it is so imperative to live in good areas where your sons will have a minimal amount of exposure to the most vile and damaged men. This is also why a good strong father in that child's life is almost the very best gift you can give that child.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;">But back to the signs.... Many women feel that the ex-wife or gf of their man is instantly their enemy, or opponent. This is usually not the case. Unless she is catty, or malicious, an ex can be a font of great info and content regarding your intended. She can tell you what makes him tick, if he's commitment phobic, or has other issues, don't take her word as law, keep your eyes open and take everything into consideration. Here are some qualities you definitely want to look for if you are in the market for a husband</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;">. Responsible, Amiable, Kind, considerate, honest, sincere, loving, romantic, common sense, gentle, well off, financially solvent, ambitious, generous, clean, sexy, Intelligent, attractive etc. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;">It's important to know what's most important to YOU. Write down the qualities that you know you must have and make your your man has them. Some women want a man who looks like Brad Pitt or Morris chestnut. For my taste, they're both beautiful, but that would be at the bottom of my list. I would be far more interested in his intelligence, and relatability. Before I married, I knew exactly what I wanted. You have to do the same thing. KNOW what you want. It's very hard to obtain a vague or undefined goal. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330000;">It's really easy to know exactly what's going on with a man. All you have to do is listen and watch. Men will give themselves away every time. They just don't have the sophistication to obscure their true intentions for long. Have a getting to know you period with any man you think would qualify as a potential mate. And for God's sake, do NOT sleep with him during this period. Men will pretend to be anyone they think you want to see, in order to bed a woman! Also, sex blurs a woman's defenses, as well as her vision. The man will start to immediately look alot better to her if she has slept with him. This is natures attempt to protect procreation. This is why the old timers used to say," you lay on your back, you lose your head." Be sweet as a Georgia peach, but keep that strong inner core, and watch him.... </span></strong><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">GETTING TO KNOW THE REAL 'HIM'</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>In order to really get to know the man you're interested in, you need to observe him in a variety of settings. How does he interact with his family, his friends, what is his stance on politics and other controversial subjects. Is he truly a 'good person' or just faking it to reel you in? Listening to his family is another great way to truly see the inner him. How is his temper? Is he ready to curse someone out for cutting him off, or is he more laid back and mellow. If a tempermental man is a turn off for you, then don't bother to continue dating a man who angers readily. Btw, that's a bad characteristic anyway, given a world in which ppl often antagonize each other on a daily basis. You really should seek a more even tempered man. A man who is NOT a slave to his emotions. A well rounded adult is always slow to anger, and even slower to rage. These are not sexy qualities and many misguided women claim. These are warning signs of trouble!</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">DO YOU SHARE HIS VALUES</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>This is probably the MOST important characteristic of a good relationship. Couples who achieve longevity inevitably share common values. They may be different races, and backgrounds, but inevitably they have common values and this serves to bind them into a meaningful and long lasting union. For example, she comes from a small family who has struggled strenuously against poverty. He comes from a large well off Jewish family who has never known lack. On the surface it would seem they have little in common. People are actually amazed that they stay together. But what they don't see behind the outer veneer is that they both strongly believe in family, togetherness, and have a strong commitment to unity....Trust and believe that ppl who have opposing values have very little chance of remaining together for long....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">HIS SEXUALITY...</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>It is very important for a man to control his sexuality. This is something that real men automatically do. He may desire a women tremendously, but he will wait until he is permitted into her inner lair before anything happens. And even then he will take pains to protect them both. He will never allow his loins to 'lead' him. Not being able to control one's loins is the hallmark of children or brutes. Think about the poor defenseless women of many African countries being routinely raped and brutalized by the animals they call 'men' Real men ALWAYS control their sexuality and would NEVER <em>take </em>what a lady refuses to give him...</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-50736024822768952572011-04-05T13:39:00.008-05:002011-04-09T09:10:05.212-05:00And they call BW -GOLDDIGGERS!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiQCaeumyJxcIGoFyT36s19ICDBgjUXVXuWTdJebFo4dZdD2N2DPwXkZQSA-WRoH9jv2gkPH1Pm8GJWx_3TWGiq6-MzcmkKGVSYPItJs0Md2Luufwf66fZUgnMHYbk4cBOiCfR7KWSxJFvC/s1600/Tigerwife.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 242px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5592171745629797314" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiQCaeumyJxcIGoFyT36s19ICDBgjUXVXuWTdJebFo4dZdD2N2DPwXkZQSA-WRoH9jv2gkPH1Pm8GJWx_3TWGiq6-MzcmkKGVSYPItJs0Md2Luufwf66fZUgnMHYbk4cBOiCfR7KWSxJFvC/s320/Tigerwife.jpg" /></a> <br /><div><span style="color:#3333ff;">Tiger and Elin in days gone by....</span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#3333ff;">The former nanny hit the big one for sure!</span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><span style="color:#cc0000;"><strong>ELIN TO RECEIVE 750 to 833 MILLION DOLLARS IN HER DIVORCE FROM TIGER!!!</strong></span> </div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>It's absolutely incredible to me that this woman (so called super model because she's white, pretty, and took a few pictures) can legally extort this much money from this man! I mean this is better than the best robbers in the world could ever plan. She is set to get an whopping 75% of his money!!! The most bothersome part is everyone is so hush hush like she deserves it! It reminds me of the Michael S. case where the judge assigned more money to his ex-ww than he was worth! My point is ww have been doing this as long as bm have been becoming successful and then finding a ww. Yet ppl were up in arms because because Kelis asked for spousal support (temporary) to support her new child after her divorcefrom Nas. Many bp called her a gold digger and accused her of trying to take her rapper ex-hubby to the cleaners. For asking for temporary support! </strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>It's unbelievable the amounts of money ww often take these foolish bm for while everyone shakes their heads and remain silent. Yet I think we all know if bw ask for ANYTHING-she's immediately labeled a GD. The point is Nobody needs this much money! There has never even been a lottery this big! Think about it. This little NANNY can marry this man, and literally take him to the cleaners and nothing is said, yet all hell breaks lose if a bw asks a bm to support his children!</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>In case anyone is clueless to what I'm saying, I'm saying un-equivocally that this woman is a TRUE GOLD DIGGER, and has the help and support of the lawyers and others to rob this man of his hard earned largess. I think it should be illegal to get a divorce settlement of this magnitude. It absolutely reeks of rampant greed and uncontrollable excess. </strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>But of course this is what Lionel Richie's ex ww did to him after SHE was caught cheating on him! It kind of hard to feel sorry for men who are enamored with white that they'll put up with anything. I guess Tiger the (I hate anything black) learned the hard way that the the grass is not always whiter on the other side... But truthfully though even though he was a fool, it still sickens my stomach to think of this nanny being legally able to rob him so easily, and with the blessings of many significant people. I think it's outrageous, but that's just my opinion. I remember when he married her and everyone had the nerve to saying how HE WAS LUCKY TO HAVE SUCH A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN! To me this translated into beautiful WHITE WOMAN, which even the white media seems to know is secretly the dream of many bm. I couldn't understand how they could say that HE was the lucky one because as a billionaire, I'm sure beautiful women are like leaves on trees for him-IOWs- everywhere!</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>I mean far be it from me to stick up for this sexaholic, that is not the point of this post before some of you lose your mind, I just don't think ANY man should lose 75% of his livelihood in a divorce settlement!! Can you imagine being a man and working for years to lose 3/4 of your resources in 1 divorce! That's just unbelievable! He originally offered her 70 million which the former nanny had the nerve to turn her pretty nose up at,-just unbelievable! Anyway, I've got to ask you ladies what you think of this situation-do you think this was fair in any way???</strong></span></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">Sidenote:</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#666600;"><span style="color:#3333ff;">Well it's all said and done and her take is 750 mil, said to be the largest settlement of any Celeb couple. So I guess next time he'll definitely 'keep it in his pant</span></span><span style="color:#3333ff;">s. It's just interesting to me because I think we all know that if their races were reversed any bw asking for even one fourth this type of money would be crusified in the media as well as the BC (think Robyn Givens) so it just goes to show that ww are definitely on that pedistal, and many ppl have a vested interest in keeping them there.....</span></strong></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com51tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-37446105237673657362011-03-23T12:40:00.002-05:002011-03-23T13:19:58.783-05:00Now the trash in our community spills over....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjW9Mr6LZeQM8EXfEDR094PbL8V6YhHGM1Lgxe4zDwF3ZlexjgXUMcrrdB0pdGB-IYikjumS1qk_0iGyQ3r7M_lVv6l4F6zMCuYMiXDISAAq_I8QNopbWypmpieOp6Ybd_ZsqYRgwY3yne3/s1600/18-rape-11-year-girl.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 319px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5587333206423486978" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjW9Mr6LZeQM8EXfEDR094PbL8V6YhHGM1Lgxe4zDwF3ZlexjgXUMcrrdB0pdGB-IYikjumS1qk_0iGyQ3r7M_lVv6l4F6zMCuYMiXDISAAq_I8QNopbWypmpieOp6Ybd_ZsqYRgwY3yne3/s320/18-rape-11-year-girl.jpg" /></a><br /><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>These are SOME of the monsters who raped and violated an 11 year old Hispanic girl....</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div> </div><div> </div><div> </div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>I'm horrified this happened (of course) but I'm glad the world will now have a chance to see the horrors that ordinary, everyday <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> have been dealing with.</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>As you can see some of them look like angry damaged men. But some of them don't. Maybe the ones who don't are twice as scary because they look so harmless. Take a look at the guy at the bottom (middle) He's attractive and even intelligent looking yet he's right there with the other monsters who did this to this poor young girl. Make no mistake about it. The Hispanic community is NOT like the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">bc</span>, in the sense that they will NOT simply say she asked for it and let it go. Unlike the sick deplorable <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">bc</span>, they actually PROTECT their women and children, and heads WILL roll over this travesty. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>The worst part is the the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">bc</span> trying to come out and make excuses once again. "She asked for it" " Do you know how she was dressed?" "She looked more like a grown woman than a child!" </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>These are some of the comments coming from the acting black crew and their perpetual protectors. These men should be locked up and thrown under the jail, but instead you have these sick perverts being protected by equally sick other blacks and mammies. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>There is NO justification for raping ANY woman but to rape a child puts you in the category of demons as far as I'm concerned, and you should be treated as such! I'm so horrified that they would try to pass this crime against a child off as typical male behavior, I'm speechless. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>Now the black panthers are getting into the act with <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">Quanell</span> X claiming <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> are being singled out and that other men probably took part in this gang rape as well! This is his response word for word....</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>"I believe that every man who had sex with this child should go to prison, I don't care what his color is. But I don't believe that black men are the only ones who had sex with this young child.</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>It appears there's been selective prosecution of one <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">community</span>, which is African American....</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong></strong></span> </div><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">This is nothing but <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">obfuscation</span>! Throw the dirt in every direction and hope it lands on someone else, thus making you look a little less dirty in the process! The truth is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> have been the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_9" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">victims</span> of <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_10" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> stalking, them, cursing them, assaulting them, raping them and killing them for so long, that when they turn their damaged eyes toward other females, the world is actually shocked. But my grandmother always told me, If you don't say anything to billy <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_11" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">Joe</span> when he attacks your neighbor, don't expect anyone to say anything when he attacks you! I've found this to be very true in life. Garbage rolls downhill. When <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_12" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> were under constant attack by <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_13" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> at every turn, and other races felt it did not concern them, I knew it would be just a matter of time before <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_14" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> became their problem as well. Mark my words <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_15" class="blsp-spelling-error">ww</span> as well will soon be their targets. Evil unchecked becomes evil in <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_16" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">totality</span>. <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_17" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">Victimizers</span> are always looking for NEW <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_18" class="blsp-spelling-corrected">victims</span>. </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong> </div><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Did you know that when the Nazis took over Germany and began to eradicate the Jews, (6 million+) they also began to kill Gypsies, Hispanics, blacks, Homosexuals as well as everyone who did NOT resemble their ideal Aryan German? That's evil unchecked. That's what happens when good people say nothing, and that's all it takes for evil to grow...</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong> </div><div><strong><span style="color:#003300;">I'm so sad about this little girl, but I hope you all can see the danger in saying nothing and hoping these monsters simply stay away. They won't. By remaining silent we give them more power. <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_19" class="blsp-spelling-error">Bp</span> who still have their faculties and can see how horrible this is have got to stand up and separate themselves from the monsters now and not coddle them. They deserve whatever punishment they receive. Don't feel sorry for them. Don't tell me how misunderstood they are. Let them face the consequences of their actions! I don't really care how their childhood was or what might have caused them to do something this horrible to a little girl. I just hope they all rot in hell very slowly........</span></strong></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com25tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-7130285398804711482011-01-14T14:28:00.005-06:002011-01-14T15:38:29.864-06:00Ugh! How can you love a white man?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfJbEcVKAQ65n_rZfvLxOROXcJ9BbrqJYurj5kIrOHKKsTMzBF9n-Bcw4Pv8ESm41crX5je1CvAFQ5aJIvgywH2XOuboqPzz3x-nzzeALMam55AzlMtAh1RmP5jn2nLwufUBxLiw4xrYqj/s1600/princessangelafamily2.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 231px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5562158492849479842" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjfJbEcVKAQ65n_rZfvLxOROXcJ9BbrqJYurj5kIrOHKKsTMzBF9n-Bcw4Pv8ESm41crX5je1CvAFQ5aJIvgywH2XOuboqPzz3x-nzzeALMam55AzlMtAh1RmP5jn2nLwufUBxLiw4xrYqj/s320/princessangelafamily2.jpg" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6e42JIsoL2UfgbFAQXVzMa-L1G-2ay24jzoTmmEN_L2rGN8hW6U8jn0PZ2K0J7LhcbR4zVLSX-1BbTI0EibsVmNbrChVchgZ_LYKhpZwY7aQfJeVdLOA4fe12MvJtrcpSowcU_IEcgZSh/s1600/0.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5562158361867313458" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6e42JIsoL2UfgbFAQXVzMa-L1G-2ay24jzoTmmEN_L2rGN8hW6U8jn0PZ2K0J7LhcbR4zVLSX-1BbTI0EibsVmNbrChVchgZ_LYKhpZwY7aQfJeVdLOA4fe12MvJtrcpSowcU_IEcgZSh/s320/0.jpg" /></a><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong></div><div>Princess Angela with hubby (the Prince) and son.</div><div>Handsome Hispanic man and his lovely bride...<br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong></div><div><br /> </div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">I was showing family pictures to a total stranger when I got "the question"</span></strong><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">I just stared at her because we were standing outside a mutual friends house, and she and I barely knew each other!" Excuse me!" I finally managed to stammer angrily. I shot her a look that shut her up fast. How dare a total stranger question me on MY LIFE!</span></strong></div><div><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">Have any of you ladies ever gotten this question from friend and family? I love I have, and it's one I really despise. First of all it's asinine, and second it's ridiculous. A better question to me is:</span></strong></div><div><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">Why would you worry about his color instead of his heart? That's a question many bw need to ask themselves. Far, far too many good men are going to waste looking for women who are tying themselves to losers and settling for nothing. </span></strong></div><div><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">But I've noticed that many people will try many tactics to keep a bw in her place. And I'm sure you've all noticed that sometimes those ppl share a color or even gender with you. I remember being at the library staring at the computer (which featured the gorgeous David Beckham) A bw nearby made a gagging sound in her throat and then murmured angrily in my direction, that I should be looking at Denzel. I replied calmly that although I like Denzel very much -he's not really my cup of tea. You would have thought I committed a crime! She turned pale and practically ran away with a horrified look on her face ( like she was about to faint) I just calmly kept looking at what I was looking at....</span></strong></div><div><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">Ladies NEVER let anyone tell you who you are ALLOWED to be attracted to or in love with. That's ridiculous. If any of you caught that Oprah show a few years back where a ww declared to an audience of predominantly ww "We sure love the brothers don't we?" The audience clapped and cheered. They really didn't give a damn if the bw there took issue with their comments. They were not about to let bw or anyone else dictate who they were allowed to be attracted to. Oprah just shook her head, and smiled. She was used to ww declaring themselves open and unashamedly. </span></strong></div><div><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">If only bw would do the same. I know something many of you ladies don't know. I know that where ever you are right now, there's a wm near you with his eye on you. He's just waiting for some kind of go sign from you. So many times I've instructed women on ways to let a man know she was interested and watched their love bloom, so I do know what I'm talking about. Many of my post have referred to this time and again. As I've told bw many times, because of the sordid history wm have had to live down, as well as the mistrust that has been spoon fed to bw about wm since baby-hood, many wm are very weary about trying to date bw. </span></strong><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">This is why you MUST let him know that there is an interest there. He won't move in if he feels for a second that you're going to start screaming " White boy please!" and laughing your ignorant head off. This I've actually seen happen! The man turned red, and walked away, and I'm sure it was a long time (if ever) before he asked another bw out....</span></strong><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">So when I get that stupid question, I don't answer. It's just too stupid to require a reply. I always look at the person calmly and wait for them to feel as stupid as they sound. It almost always works. The truth is I've been attracted to wm since my teen years, and I just don't feel the need to explain myself to anyone. I'm sure you ladies have noticed on Evia's site the numerous wm who loving and snatching up the darker bw, that bm often leave behind. It's really exciting to see these women looking so happy, and realizing they finally found someone who thinks their ebony hued skin is beautiful (which it is) and finally feeling loved, desired and appreciated....</span></strong></div><div><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">If you haven't been there in a while go check it out. Those wm are snatching up those dark women like gold nuggets out of the ground! I love it!</span></strong><br /><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;">So how can you love a wm? I can't figure out how you can't!!! I love the looks, the sense of sefl and the intelligence that many wm seem to emit effortlessly. And their talk goes so much deeper than "Hey shortie, can I gecha number?" So tell me ladies -what do you love about them, and how do you respond to that silly question???</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330000;"></span></strong> </div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com75tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-70936043302851542182010-12-10T14:27:00.007-06:002010-12-14T15:26:55.274-06:00How to save your daughters from the boys in the hood....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkHb400ZMeTbxkiWnkft9yHl6fMtOeReUojs4K2Mc_Bsg76t87N1Fe3r1Wwpl6Vi83Tlw1grl7Ea9eT54780oo00lUYfH5YiHWRuRIc_Tyq6PyJc20Z8BYhLemqpdJxzFFDpIkYv9fcGsD/s1600/gorl.bmp"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 318px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5549170528592155890" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhkHb400ZMeTbxkiWnkft9yHl6fMtOeReUojs4K2Mc_Bsg76t87N1Fe3r1Wwpl6Vi83Tlw1grl7Ea9eT54780oo00lUYfH5YiHWRuRIc_Tyq6PyJc20Z8BYhLemqpdJxzFFDpIkYv9fcGsD/s320/gorl.bmp" /></a> lovely college student killed for her refusal to date a damaged man<br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>We've all seen it. The young girls dragging strollers as they trudge along in the hood. Looking scared,and desperate, or sometimes trying to put on the mean face to discourage would be combatants. We've all seen the desperation on the faces of young women trying to hold on financially or spiritually as these predators get their fill and move on to more promising targets. It's horrible but it's a sad fact of life. The truth is palpable, but ppl who are NOT going anywhere are out to drag you and yours down with them. </strong></span></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;">So how do you protect your children? </span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>To me this is pretty obvious. You should not be there! Don't let your children hang in the hood. Severely limit their time even passing through, and definitely discourage their friendships with ppl who would be described as hood- identified. </strong></span></div><div><strong><span style="color:#990000;">Now first I need to put in a disclaimer because I do not wish to be mis-quoted.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#990000;">There are a lot of good ppl in the hood without question, I am in no way disputing this obvious fact. But I feel it is an equally obvious fact that the worst place in the world for any young woman to look for a husband is in the hood or other black enclaves. The men in these places (MOST) are low skilled, deviant, angry over forces beyond their control. Most have been conditioned to hang on the streets, indulge in activities which exceed the bounds of legality in order to get funds, or use women in multiple ways in order to augment their paltry incomes or satisfy Their sexual and non sexual needs...Most of these men are very detrimental to the naive women they become involved with, and sometimes the results are even deadly as many of these men are involved with illegal activities and dangerous characters which are then visited upon the women involved.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#990000;">I strongly believe one of the worst things people can do is to allow their daughters COMPLETE freedom as a young girl to date indiscriminately anyone she chooses. I know this will be a very controversial subject and I certainly empathise with the passion this line of belief will undoubtedly raise. But young girls are quite vulnerable, and naive. And they must be encouraged, educated, protect ed, and steered to a better class of men! They cannot be allowed to simply bring home the first fool who winks at them. They must be guided and made to see that dating and marrying the wrong man can influence and negatively affect them and their offspring for the rest of their lives. I'm sorry some of you are pulling out your hair right now in anger, but someone has to say it. Most of the boys in the hood are NOT husband material and most never will be. I just want to post a few scenarios to explain why I know this to be true, and then we can discuss it en mass....</span></strong></div><div><strong></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000099;">I know someone who has young teens whom she fought arduously to remove from the hood, but problems had already surfaced before she could get out.....</span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>She had fought hard to get herself and her children out of the hood, but her daughter had fallen for some gang member before they left. She immediately had to contend with her daughter sneaking back at (16) to see this 20-something year old thug. He encouraged her daughter to lie to her, and to sneak off as often as she could. I advised her to take her daughter deep into the old neighborhood. Show her how those women and girls really lived. Rip off the veneer of glamour and reveal the real ugly truth behind ghetto life. Show her the baby daddies who run off and leave those women struggling alone. Show her the little children trying to get themselves off to school because mom is already at a job she's struggling to keep, and cannot take them. Show them the loss of hope, and utter despair that permeates these type of environments.</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>I told her to show the despair and pain behind gang-affiliated life styles and the wake of bodies left behind. Sometimes scaring a child straight can be a very effective deterent. </strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>I remember being a child in Hawaii. We were in class one day and our teacher showed us a film on drug use. I remember being totally horrified by the lifestyle portrayed by the film. People were shooting up, having bleeped out sex scenes with strangers throwing up in the streets and more... I immediately associated drug use with losers and lower forms of life in my young mind. This one film kept me from ever even smoking a joint all these years. I could not conceive of being addicted to any substance, and therefore was unwilling to even try any of them. To this day, I have never tried any drug, not even cigarettes. This is the power of scaring a child straight. So many girls do not know where they are headed as they travel full speed toward a cliff! You must let them know. My associate did not take my advice. She thought I was overreacting and that her daughter would come to her senses. Her daughter is now pregnant by a loser who is the father of 3 other children and is now incarcerated. Her daughter has dropped out of HS, and thrown away all of her youthful dreams, as her baby-daddy told her they were silly and for white girls. She also is being hunted by one of his other baby mamas as he told baby mama #2 she had seduced him to get pregnant...</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong></strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>She has tried to talk to her daughter about leaving him alone but she is a now a fool in love, and will not listen. This is what happens when you allow the bc to get into your child. Ladies you must do EVERYTHING within your power to keep this scenario from happening. These girls are throwing their lives away! You all know about my young cousin and how she was kicked out of one man's bed because he had another young girl coming to the same UNCHANGED bed with the SAME condom and SAME sheets. Well that same cousin is now the mother of 3 children by 3 different men. She just gave birth again last week. None of the fathers will step up, she is mired in poverty and desperation, and is one of the saddest young women you have ever seen. I tried to talk to her for years but she always told me to mind my business, and could do as she pleased. Well I guess she certainly has done as she pleased. The saddest thing is her story is SOOOOO common in the hood. She has two friends who both have babies by the same guy. They constantly fight each other for his crumbs of attention. He does not take care of theirs or his other children and encourages them to fight over him.... sad but common... </strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>I can only tell you ladies what we did. When my very young teen was trying to date a ne'er to do well boy from the hood(where much of my family still lives) We made life very hard for her. We forbid almost every date on some technical reason. We imposed unreasonable time limits. We made it clear he was not welcome anywhere near the house and we increased her chores so she would not be able to go. Was that fair? I don't know. I was fighting for my daughter and did not really give a damn about fair. We just did not want him anywhere near her, and we made it very clear. It was not long before she got tired of fighting us and began dating someone far more suitable....</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#003300;"><strong>So I would love to hear your stories ladies and your take on this situation for all the mothers who do not want their daughters to be left behind baby mommas and sexual toilets to the damaged predators out there....</strong></span></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com57tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-11554094151075350302010-11-18T14:59:00.008-06:002010-11-22T14:37:42.437-06:00BW-stop deferring to bm's egos, and simply say what you mean!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJqqoHXa4i5QTWcSa_6H8IOcjEebK2b_P51U8Zdw6m98KaE_g8WgPFBB5K37O75bHdhOEG7du__nQciSLcXEHuVjb30vKXzK4vmqgIJynDHYq4a-EL4fVWcjto_1z8iMkbkBrcMCiXA4eR/s1600/interracialdating.png"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 214px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5541009550268566498" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJqqoHXa4i5QTWcSa_6H8IOcjEebK2b_P51U8Zdw6m98KaE_g8WgPFBB5K37O75bHdhOEG7du__nQciSLcXEHuVjb30vKXzK4vmqgIJynDHYq4a-EL4fVWcjto_1z8iMkbkBrcMCiXA4eR/s320/interracialdating.png" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjChIrWE0uBcCBxLKj6dE4kpTfD41TPpKSjhVEu0K69q9GgizI9asxsg5pPEGNFNI6UbOWozckVP81Nyw3LJCbtwt94aOqIJFwjp3tfWkkWTOmuU63vBzMR1DZ-hmbXueSZHYbCMXy998lG/s1600/reginaking.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 240px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 320px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5541009433785635170" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjChIrWE0uBcCBxLKj6dE4kpTfD41TPpKSjhVEu0K69q9GgizI9asxsg5pPEGNFNI6UbOWozckVP81Nyw3LJCbtwt94aOqIJFwjp3tfWkkWTOmuU63vBzMR1DZ-hmbXueSZHYbCMXy998lG/s320/reginaking.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div><strong></strong></div><br /><div><strong>Regina king caused a stir recently when she wisely advised <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_0" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> to stop waiting for their black knight in shining armor (who is probably out chasing Ming lee, Chelsea, or Maria) and simply date out. Some sites tore her apart, but some seemed more open minded, and fair. </strong></div><br /><div><strong>One site in particular, I felt gave a fair and accurate perception of IR dating, but I still found it rather disturbing on another unfortunate level.</strong></div><br /><div><strong>I noticed that many of the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_1" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> who responded to the article, prefaced their comments with soothing words like, "Well I love my brothers but...." or "I prefer a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_2" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> but...." </strong></div><div><strong>This seemed to </strong><strong>be a common theme, or tag line. </strong></div><div><strong>Now I truly care about and want the best for <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_3" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span>, but I swear sometimes their (collective) obtuseness confounds me!</strong></div><br /><div><strong>First of all, I simply am not, and never will be crazy about anyone who has made it painfully clear that me, and women who look like me are not even on their list! That just plain silliness, and utter stupidity. That's like someone screaming in your face; </strong></div><div><strong>"You're ugly, stupid, lazy, and fat!" While you respond "Baby please don't say that! -I love you <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_4" class="blsp-spelling-error">soooo</span> much!!!" Wake up and get a clue! If <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_5" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> are out there upholding the beauty, femininity, character, and attractiveness of WW, while throwing you under the bus, why in God's name would you be walking on eggshells, and doing everything but a tap dance to protect his pathetic ego!!! Let me ask the question in another way, because I don't want to be accused of inciting <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_6" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span>-hatred. That's not what this is about. I don't hate <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_7" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span>, and I hope you don't either because that's a lot of wasted time and emotion. </strong></div><br /><div><strong>What I am saying is that if someone does not give a damn about your feelings and your ego, stop being so damned concerned about his! It's really that simple. I believe very much in treating people in like manner to how they treat me. Now I believe very much in having class, and fighting with your wits as much as possible (instead of your fists) but I also believe in calling a spade a spade. </strong></div><br /><div><strong>All this equivocation is dangerous ladies. It derails the real conversations we need to be having, and it forces people to cover up, and privatise their true feelings. When is the last time you heard <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_8" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> put in all these qualifiers when engaged in conversation about <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_9" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span>? Think about Ice T's comments when he was asked about how he felt about the fact that many <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_10" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> were angry about his marriage to a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_11" class="blsp-spelling-error">ww</span>. </strong></div><br /><div><strong>"I don't give a damn what <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_12" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> think about my white wife" He quickly retorted. The truth is this is an honest response. Why do <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_13" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> hem and haw, and become sickeningly servile when asked similar questions. Think about <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_14" class="blsp-spelling-error">Halle</span> being asked (in an annoyed voice) by a reporter.</strong></div><br /><div><strong>"So why did you decide to date a WM? " Her body language became almost apologetic, as she nervously laughed and said. " Well, I tried black men over and over -I really tried!...." She seemed almost to be begging for understanding. With nervous laughter, gestures, and near pleading eyes...</strong></div><div><strong>Ladies, you have a right to love ANYONE YOU CHOOSE! Stop posturing, and wallowing in servility. Hold your love up proudly, the same way you would demand he hold you up!</strong></div><br /><br /><div><strong>It is dangerous and detrimental to your relationships for many reasons to preface your comments with qualifiers, apologies, and false compliments to <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_15" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span>. The most salient problem being; YOUR WM CAN FEEL THE APOLOGY OOZING OUT OF YOU!!!</strong></div><br /><div><strong>He's not stupid. If you become unsure, nervous, and penitent about your relationship with him, it's only going to cause problems between the two of you. (DUH) Think about how you would feel if a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_16" class="blsp-spelling-error">ww</span> were in the vicinity and be began to walk away from you, pretended he didn't know you, or worse yet, when asked if you were his wife/<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_17" class="blsp-spelling-error">gf</span>, turned red, and began to hem and haw! </strong></div><br /><div><strong>I think we all know there would be hell to pay. Well I would like to ask<span style="color:#000000;"> you</span> how do you think <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_18" class="blsp-spelling-error">wm</span>/non- <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_19" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> feel when you do it to them? And if you were a non/<span id="SPELLING_ERROR_20" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span> trying to ask a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_21" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> out, and you heard her saying things like "I loves me a beautiful <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_22" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span>!" -" I really wanted a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_23" class="blsp-spelling-error">brotha</span> but..." or the worse one of all (AND A TOTAL LIE) "You know no man can satisfy you like a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_24" class="blsp-spelling-error">brotha</span>!" </strong></div><div><strong>Ask yourself.<span style="color:#cc0000;"> Would you still ask this woman out, or would you cross her off the list?</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong>So I would hopefully ask all the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_25" class="blsp-spelling-error">Bw</span> on the fence, and all the totally off limits to anything but a <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_26" class="blsp-spelling-error">bm</span>, <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_27" class="blsp-spelling-error">bw</span> (you poor fools) that you keep your silly and inane comments to yourself. </strong></div><br /><div><strong>You've probably already destroyed your chances with all the <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_28" class="blsp-spelling-error">wm</span> who know you. Let the women who have enough sense to be open, get their man. Stop discouraging their prospects and chances with your silly comments..... </strong></div><br /><br /><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>Here is <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_29" class="blsp-spelling-error">RK's</span> statement below; followed by some comments which illustrate my point</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>Regina King says, Black Women Should Date Other Races<br />Regina King recently released an article on Vibe.com about Black women and our need to explore our options in mates. She believes that black women should stop limiting ourselves to Black men. According to her, dating only Black men lowers our likelihood of finding love.<br />King says:<br />Of all groups of people, Black women are the least likely group of women that will date outside of their race. When you have everyone else who is willing to explore but a Black woman is like, “I want me a brother,” well, if the brothers are out and they’re open to date everybody and the majority of Black women <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_30" class="blsp-spelling-error">aren</span>’t willing to look twice when a man outside of their race is sending them messages, then that makes our percentage rate lower and the chances of finding love, because we’re only looking in one specific place for finding love—with Black men.<br />She goes on to state:<br />Every single one of my girlfriends won’t date men that <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_31" class="blsp-spelling-error">aren</span>’t Black…I think Black women need to open up. A lot of Black women still carry a lot of pain when they see Black men with women who <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_32" class="blsp-spelling-error">aren</span>’t Black and that’s really unfortunate that that could make us so upset. It has to do with self esteem.</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong><span style="color:#000099;">Comments from the readers:</span> </strong></span></div><div><br /><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>I don’t know about that. I just can’t see myself with a white dude. But I do get her point. Maybe its time for us to stop complaining and just branch out.....</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>Up until a few weeks ago my mantra was “I only want to date, marry a black man” but I find my views changing towards that. If we only date black men we are limiting ourselves of an opportunity to find love. I would prefer a black man but...</strong></span></div><br /><div><a href="http://blacklovespeak.com/2010/05/08/regina-king-says-black-women-should-date-other-races/#comment-109"><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>May 8, 2010 at 11:08 am</strong></span></a><br /><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>My <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_33" class="blsp-spelling-error">highschool</span> sweetheart was white and we were together on and off for about 5 years. I would prefer to to have <span id="SPELLING_ERROR_34" class="blsp-spelling-error">alittle</span> brown family but..... </strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>Very interesting dialogue. Has anyone every thought about the fact that there just are enough black men to go around? I mean, I love me a beautiful black man, but the reality is that we (black women) out number them and if the majority of us don’t open up our options, we will join the already 70% or more of black ....</strong></span></div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com56tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-22110620414145404382010-10-19T11:52:00.009-05:002010-10-19T13:28:42.184-05:00The simple truth is-children DO need fathers-and his color is irrelevant!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgigdVNfDBJd_6gMFpP4bZJ2N5PoU19XCIREq0fdw3egvddTEvQ6qpyZbbI5imGRNvdwv26_fEWGHB_rhA6N9UQDzvoxSAsrj1lRySllVFFDvXuGdSuKpv6ScgG48GtyqUguRfW-I7Re3Td/s1600/334257736_3e17821e35_o.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529824725787042594" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 302px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgigdVNfDBJd_6gMFpP4bZJ2N5PoU19XCIREq0fdw3egvddTEvQ6qpyZbbI5imGRNvdwv26_fEWGHB_rhA6N9UQDzvoxSAsrj1lRySllVFFDvXuGdSuKpv6ScgG48GtyqUguRfW-I7Re3Td/s320/334257736_3e17821e35_o.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVl7UgF4xxg-Qgkw1aqlfwLPhmc8K4TnXF1jBa9Zot7E8tDr7qGFJhE3Nu3wt-62jVCrqyxnx_gxASLjZqFnaAXbdTPTU80bXJz9wVAzf6LAVz4kGDoINRZkDEuMjrmg0eGpawMo_v63qs/s1600/070821_frankb_dsc_69191.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529824542420700434" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 282px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiVl7UgF4xxg-Qgkw1aqlfwLPhmc8K4TnXF1jBa9Zot7E8tDr7qGFJhE3Nu3wt-62jVCrqyxnx_gxASLjZqFnaAXbdTPTU80bXJz9wVAzf6LAVz4kGDoINRZkDEuMjrmg0eGpawMo_v63qs/s320/070821_frankb_dsc_69191.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6KFQdhq_JOlfas9gWUfhtBNSQUNkb4Vlhm31lzD570tNpF0TAcUDS_IC8YTnjdG-xWB7Dg0Zcr7SpP2mlhw9EL7GnckD-xN5nx1LluZLRlRe_gHGwaKkgCDLbwWBgnrayOP_o0rFpFH89/s1600/450black-leahy-family_.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5529824423873003250" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 227px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg6KFQdhq_JOlfas9gWUfhtBNSQUNkb4Vlhm31lzD570tNpF0TAcUDS_IC8YTnjdG-xWB7Dg0Zcr7SpP2mlhw9EL7GnckD-xN5nx1LluZLRlRe_gHGwaKkgCDLbwWBgnrayOP_o0rFpFH89/s320/450black-leahy-family_.jpg" border="0" /></a>So sorry ladies, We've had 2 deaths and one very catastrophic illness going on in the family, and I've know I've neglected my blog horribly. I apologize, I've been grieving and very distracted. But I've missed everyone something fierce though-and I hope all is well with all of you......<br /><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>Moving on.... </strong></div><div><strong>I think the importance of fathers is without precedent. I think it's so very important for children to have fathers in their lives. I truly believe the black race is in the horrible state that it's in right now because of the horrendous LACK of fathers. It's definitely time for most <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">bw</span> to move on. </strong><br /></div><div><strong>I remember when Pres. Obama tried to address this in a poignant speech to thousands of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">ppl</span>. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">Bp</span> immediately became miffed and accused him of pandering to his 'white side'. They protested, stomped, and made such a fuss, he let the issue lapse, but his face looked tortured and concerned at the 'stupidity' of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">bp</span>. Now I know I'll offend some with that statement, but lets call a spade a spade, Anyone who cannot see that innocent children need fathers (even if they seem <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">ok</span> with just a mother) is either disillusioned, or out of touch. Let's face it . You may be the best mother in the world, but you're children will secretly long for and NEED a father!!! </strong></div><div> </div><div>Look at this quote from:Source: Wade Horn and Andrew Bush, "Fathers, Marriage, and Welfare Reform,"Hudson Institute Executive Briefing, 1997, </div><div><span style="color:#660000;"><strong>CHILDREN NEED FATHERS, STUDY SHOWS Most states have focused almost exclusively on welfare-to-work strategies in response to 1996 federal welfare reforms. But this doesn't address the greatest danger to the well-being of children in the United States, says a Hudson Institute study: the fact that nearly four out of every 10 children are being raised without their fathers.The states should restructure their programs to promote fatherhood and marriage, say researchers Wade Horn and Andrew Bush. Building strong families would improve the life chances of children and help rebuild low-income communities.*Among long-term prison inmates, 70 percent grew up without fathers, as did 60 percent of rapists and 75 percent of adolescents charged with murder.* Fatherless children are three times more likely to fail school, require psychiatric treatment and commit suicide as adolescents.*They are also up to 40 times more likely to experience child abuse compared with children growing up in two-parent families....</strong></span></div><br /><div><strong>This is an excerpt from Pres. Obama in his speech to fathers that caused such an uproar....</strong></div><br /><div>Father’s Day not just as a father grateful to be present in my daughters’ lives but also as a son who grew up without a father in my own life. My father left my family when I was 2 years old, and I knew him mainly from the letters he wrote and the stories my family told. And while I was lucky to have two wonderful grandparents who poured everything they had into helping my mother raise my sister and me, I still felt the weight of his absence throughout my childhood. As an adult, working as a community organizer and later as a legislator, I would often walk through the streets of Chicago’s South Side and see boys marked by that same absence—boys without supervision or direction or anyone to help them as they struggled to grow into men. I identified with their frustration and disengagement—with their sense of having been let down. In many ways, I came to understand the importance of fatherhood through its absence—both in my life and in the lives of others. I came to understand that the hole a man leaves when he abandons his responsibility to his children is one that no government can fill. We can do everything possible to provide good jobs and good schools and safe streets for our kids, but it will never be enough to fully make up the difference. That is why we need fathers to step up, to realize that their job does not end at conception; that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one.<br />As fathers, we need to be involved in our children’s lives not just when it’s convenient or easy, and not just when they’re doing well—but when it’s difficult and thankless, and they’re struggling. That is when they need us most. And it’s not enough to just be physically present. Too often, especially during tough economic times like these, we are emotionally absent: distracted, consumed by what’s happening in our own lives, worried about keeping our jobs and paying our bills, unsure if we’ll be able to give our kids the same opportunities we had. Our children can tell. They know when we’re not fully there. And that disengagement sends a clear message—whether we mean it or not—about where among our priorities they fall. So we need to step out of our own heads and tune in. We need to turn off the television and start talking with our kids, and listening to them, and understanding what’s going on in their lives. We need to set limits and expectations. We need to replace that video game with a book and make sure that homework gets done. We need to say to our daughters, Don’t ever let images on TV tell you what you are worth, because I expect you to dream without limit and reach for your goals. We need to tell our sons, Those songs on the radio may glorify violence, but in our house, we find glory in achievement, self-respect, and hard work. We need to realize that we are our children’s first and best teachers. When we are selfish or inconsiderate, when we mistreat our wives or girlfriends, when we cut corners or fail to control our tempers, our children learn from that—and it’s no surprise when we see those behaviors in our schools or on our streets. But it also works the other way around. When we work hard, treat others with respect, spend within our means, and contribute to our communities, those are the lessons our children learn. And that is what so many fathers are doing every day—coaching soccer and Little League, going to those school assemblies and parent-teacher conferences, scrimping and saving and working that extra shift so their kids can go to college. They are fulfilling their most fundamental duty as fathers: to show their children, by example, the kind of people they want them to become. I came to understand that the hole a man leaves when he abandons his responsibility to his children is one that no government can fill. We can do everything possible to provide good jobs and good schools and safe streets for our kids, but it will never be enough to fully make up the difference. That is why we need fathers to step up, to realize that their job does not end at conception; that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one.<br />As fathers, we need to be involved in our children’s lives not just when it’s convenient or easy, and not just when they’re doing well—but when it’s difficult and thankless, and they’re struggling. That is when they need us most. And it’s not enough to just be physically present. Too often, especially during tough economic times like these, we are emotionally absent: distracted, consumed by what’s happening in our own lives, worried about keeping our jobs and paying our bills, unsure if we’ll be able to give our kids the same opportunities we had. Our children can tell. They know when we’re not fully there. And that disengagement sends a clear message—whether we mean it or not—about where among our priorities they fall. So we need to step out of our own heads and tune in. We need to turn off the television and start talking with our kids, and listening to them, and understanding what’s going on in their lives. We need to set limits and expectations. We need to replace that video game with a book and make sure that homework gets done. We need to say to our daughters, Don’t ever let images on TV tell you what you are worth, because I expect you to dream without limit and reach for your goals. We need to tell our sons, Those songs on the radio may glorify violence, but in our house, we find glory in achievement, self-respect, and hard work. We need to realize that we are our children’s first and best teachers. When we are selfish or inconsiderate, when we mistreat our wives or girlfriends, when we cut corners or fail to control our tempers, our children learn from that—and it’s no surprise when we see those behaviors in our schools or on our streets. But it also works the other way around. When we work hard, treat others with respect, spend within our means, and contribute to our communities, those are the lessons our children learn. And that is what so many fathers are doing every day.....</div><br /><div><strong>I think he says it all. The importance of fathers is unmitigated. It's so sad to me to see so many women convincing themselves that their children do not need one. I pray that my sisters wake up because in the <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">bc</span> over 80% of black babies are being born OUTSIDE of wedlock! And many if not most of these babies will NOT have a father in their lives, and yet we have the audacity to wonder why our children are running wild, and reeking havoc...</strong></div><div><strong>Ladies please wake up. If <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">bm</span> will not step up, and I think we can all see that they won't. (probably because most of them are still little boys themselves) give other men the chance-for God's sake! stop waiting for <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">bm</span> to act like men (It will prob-never happen) move on and find men WILL be fathers to your children, who WILL love them and WILL care for them. You deserve a better man, and your babies certainly deserve-and Need- REAL fathers.....</strong></div></div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com42tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-15875962107903878582010-08-10T17:46:00.004-05:002010-10-20T10:06:39.979-05:00Why they try so hard to convince everyone-we don't want other races...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjesDOfJGa31N1SiEDAjy5DlQtdOLBs4dBQwdNPvAG39c4n8FYgas9hi56suV56S2o-0q8XkyBN-oLkyL8isJmerlBtyVDmO8A2WRZ9LW6Nsf0PVsIKXuhEGIAAJtuMxNhF19EYgIHFhfFJ/s1600/onlyif.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5503926713411202050" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 214px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 320px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjesDOfJGa31N1SiEDAjy5DlQtdOLBs4dBQwdNPvAG39c4n8FYgas9hi56suV56S2o-0q8XkyBN-oLkyL8isJmerlBtyVDmO8A2WRZ9LW6Nsf0PVsIKXuhEGIAAJtuMxNhF19EYgIHFhfFJ/s320/onlyif.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1HCwYqZTPA5uAwHzlc2Uliyf6B9joMXbnkJ6nCOac1Q9oZCTF5s2vMTM_C1N7AvNzV9l_Jji5qxOla1jmle3NswYxp5fucEiu-vVLW-BRKZ-gLaVHFfWi6BALM9gcJVi2Cqm8qEdVREgs/s1600/Sexy+Asian+Man_thumb%5B2%5D.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5503927951351118610" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 244px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 213px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1HCwYqZTPA5uAwHzlc2Uliyf6B9joMXbnkJ6nCOac1Q9oZCTF5s2vMTM_C1N7AvNzV9l_Jji5qxOla1jmle3NswYxp5fucEiu-vVLW-BRKZ-gLaVHFfWi6BALM9gcJVi2Cqm8qEdVREgs/s320/Sexy+Asian+Man_thumb%5B2%5D.jpg" border="0" /></a>Black woman looking with obvious interest at handsome wm....</div><div></div><div>Very attractive, and well endowed Asian man poses for camera.....</div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div>Why do people feel that they have the right to speak for bw? Why do they feel that they have the right to tell us what we feel and think? Or for that matter, what we want? It's incredible to me the number of people trying to mold and manipulate bw. I'm not only speaking in regards to Chris Rock, saying that bw were not attracted to wm, and would only "sleep with pretty white boys, but did not really want them". How would CR know, is he a black woman? No, he is not, and yet he proposes to TELL us what we want, and what we DESIRE! It's outrageous to me that men like him continue to try to control and cajole us into submission....</div><div></div><div>But more to the point, I'm speaking of a recent "committee" that was formed to decide if it was ok for bw to date out! Since when do we need anyone's permission to do as we please! Every time you turn around it seems that people are trying to tell bw what we can and cannot do, almost as if we don't have minds of our own. Case in point.... My sisters and I were at the mall the other day, and we watched a blk couple get into a disagreement because the woman told her (bf?) that she didn't like to kiss in public. After trying to no avail to change her mind, he simply grabbed the back of her permed head, leaned her backwards, and forced a rough, sloppy, wet kiss on her mouth. When he let her back up, it was obvious that she was angry and embarrassed. She angrily adjusted her clothing, and swiped roughly at her mouth. She seemed visibly upset but he smiled smugly at her, and smirked: "Now you like that sh*t -didn't you" She stalked angrily off, and when she failed to return in response to his calls, he began to curse at her. Security threw him out, and he continued to call to her. He simply could not believe that she was really angry. In his mind, he simply had the right to do what he wanted, and she was overreacting.... </div><div></div><div>So many people just don't seem to understand that bw are real live human beings with thoughts and feelings of our own. It just seems that many people have created a whole industry on our backs, while trying to convince us this is what we want. From TV shows that feature the oldest and most unattractive bw they can find all the way to commercials where bw are shown clucking like chickens and rolling their necks -lord have mercy! (that's one of the most hated images for me) I remember talking with a bm in college a few years back. We were all discussing sociological influences of different types of music. When I was asked by him what type of music I liked. I answered honestly that I loved country music, and that Alan Jackson, Tim Mcgraw, and Trace Atkins were my favs. He immediately became enraged, and began to furiously tell me that it was not possible for me to like that type of music since "Black people don't like country music!" I held my ground and told him that I could like any type of music I damn well pleased, and that I did not give a damn what "other bp liked!" The only other bm in the class joined in, and they tried to intimidate me into "liking C-rap-" music. When I saw that they had no intentions of listening to me, I began to ignore them. They immediately turned to a girl wearing a rock shirt and asked her. She said that Kiss was her absolute favorite, and that she had a crush on the lead singer. All hell broke loose, and our teacher had to have them removed from the class. It was almost as if we were not "ALLOWED" to have minds, and opinions of our own. </div><div></div><div>I see this being done to bw on a constant basis. When that committee went on the radio, they did not convene to decide if BM had the right to date out. Or if WW had the right to date out, or even WM. They were ONLY concerned about BW dating out, and IF we had the right to do so. They threw the issue back and forth as if they were the owners of bw. Their speech was filled with worn out platitudes, and tired stereotypes, and in the end they (of course) decided that bw should stay in our place, and not try to escape anywhere.... </div><div></div><div>I have a friend who loves to surf. She goes all over to find the best waves, and she's really good at her craft. Wm are always pleasantly surprised to see her riding the waves, and this is where she met the love of her life. However, she has had to stop telling bm about her love of the sport because they often want to argue her down about how: "bw don't surf!" The truth of the matter is that no matter what occupation you mention, there is a bw there, doing exactly what she wants to do, and we should all follow these leads.....</div><div></div><div>We are not all born of the same cloth, nor are we a homogenized unit. We are individuals -much like everyone else. It's beyond irritating to hear people trying to tell us what we're about and what we're "allowed " to like, and be like. A reader wrote me and told me that she and her family were leaving Great Adventures when a group of bp approached her and asked her who was the Chinese man she was with. She immediately replied: "Why, he's my husband, and these are my 3 children" "Then you're a sell out! One bm sneered at her. "Because bw ain't allowed to be with no Chinese!" Not wanting to raise their ire, she simply got in the car, and left, but she said the comment about not being "ALLOWED" burned her. But this is common. The community, the church, and even Hollywood is so used to manipulating bw, that they have lost the inherent ability to see her as a separate entity.........</div><div></div><div>But ladies, make no mistake about it, you do not need anyone's permission to do, be, or have anything you want in this life. The only one you owe your allegiance and loyalties to-is you...</div><div>I guess the real question here is why? <span style="color:#330000;"><strong>Why</strong></span> are these people trying to control and manipulate bw? What's in it for them.</div><div>The truth of the matter is that bw are the glue that bonds several industries. Without bw the blk church would collapse in record time. Hollywood would have to find a new low-class scape goat. Hollywood would have to find a new sexually deviant scapegoat. They would also need a new non-sexual un-appealing, colorful, -willing to throw her mammyfied self to the wolves-for the ww-best friend scapegoat. Bm would go crazy because their sisters, mothers, ex, and current gfs, daughters and cousins would stop running to save them from their constant messes. They would have to bail themselves out. They would have to pay their own tickets. They would have to protest their own problems with the police, and get ww to give them emergency money. They would have to do their own laundry, and cook for themselves. There would be no women there to boost their tired, overinflated egos by fighting over them. They would actually have to drive their own raggedy cars, and buy their own sagging pants. And there is no way they could stand on the corners all days inhaling those 40s because they'd have to pay their own rent, so this would necessitate them actually working! (heaven forbid!) They'd have to pay their OWN child support!, and pick up their own checks! </div><div>No, there is no way bm intend to give bw up. We are far to valuable as a commodity. And this is why they will try to convince bw that she is not attracted to other races, or that other races don't want her. This is why CR told that lie, because he and most other bm want desperately for it to be true-but it's not. The truth is ... Wm are some of the hottest, sexiest men on this earth, and for the life of me I cannot figure out why every bw does not snatch one up-but don't tell them I said so, because as a bw, I'm not allowed to think that........</div><div></div><div></div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com75tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-12108094596281821722010-06-30T11:41:00.005-05:002010-06-30T13:12:48.426-05:00Ladies, make sure your GREEN LIGHT IS ON!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8mQU7w7Px_BaT5inSC-tyAUG_vb0fGZGkffZOzAYmrzBbnb4dHTBNCuGqXQy27nRoku0SAcBewYho6HVZ4_hRbLdKQwUQLchDtqTpVP_MLnMz75CRl61uAU18IYffT4nPKkOSPgDh_YOd/s1600/exampleImage-2.gif"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5488627708346298658" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 308px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 274px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh8mQU7w7Px_BaT5inSC-tyAUG_vb0fGZGkffZOzAYmrzBbnb4dHTBNCuGqXQy27nRoku0SAcBewYho6HVZ4_hRbLdKQwUQLchDtqTpVP_MLnMz75CRl61uAU18IYffT4nPKkOSPgDh_YOd/s320/exampleImage-2.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">So many times I hear bw saying they don't think wm are really interested in bw. However if you watch these same women in their day to day interactions with wm, you will see them tense up, appear uncomfortable, ill at ease, and noncommunicable (many times) when they engage in conversations with wm. Let me ask you ladies a question. If a man claimed he was open to dating you, yet seemed uncomfortable, ill at ease, and even looked around( as if scared of who might be watching!) would you continue to see him, or even continue the conversation? I know I would not. I have definitely dropped wm in the past I definitely could have been interested in, because I felt they were too concerned with what other people would think. He has to be resolute in his feelings for me to feel comfortable.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">Like John Wayne, he needs to have a devil may care, I'm going to be with the woman I want! type-attitude. '</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">Unfortunately many of you ladies are suffering from the old "But what will bm think syndrome! Get over it!! Do they EVER bother to care what any of you think? To me it's just so silly to waste time worrying about ppl you don't even know. That's insane. Those ppl have never cared what you thought, and they never will. </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">Many of you have no idea why wm are not approaching you, but at the same time, when he tries to engage in light conversation, many of you are giggling like silly school girls, and then running away, or snapping back an answer. I watched in the market one day, as a wm followed a bw who was scolding her small child. He finally worked up the courage to approach, and make a light remark along the lines of </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">" Well, don't worry- one day we'll be getting on their nerves" I could tell he was trying to make a joke to lighten the mood, but the irate mother immediately turned, and snapped.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;"> " Excuse me, but could you mind your own business! " </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">The man turned red with embarrassment, and slid away. This is so common, it's almost a daily occurrence with many bw. I don't think many of them even realize they're doing it. The truth of the matter is that many of you have a bright red light on (a STOP LIGHT) blaring, and then you're wondering why no one is trying to come into your intersection. Many men are very intimidated to approach bw, not because we are the mean witches the media portrays us as but because so many bw have made self annihilating remarks such as: Nuthin but a brotha! I need a strong bm! He's too pale for me! etc etc. </span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">I don't believe for a minute too many bw actually feel this way. I strongly suspect they've tried to ameliorate bm's flagging egos with these remarks, but they've backfired, and many bw are alone,or seen as unapproachable because of them.</span></strong><br /></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>Read this quote from one discouraged white man.....</strong></span></div><br /><div>I think the bottom line is that men of all colors fear rejection. Black women are the least likely of any group in this country to date outside of their race. This is something that has been proven through various studies. If you cruise through a personals site, you will see black women more often than any other race cite that they are looking for black men. I remember watching an episode of Oprah several years ago where there were several single black women sitting around talking about dating interracially where half said they would, half wouldn't and then of the half that would, a few said something along the lines of "but when I marry, I want a strong black man" as the other women nodded along. You don't really see or hear that with Latinas, Asians and white women (although some may think it admittedly). As such, many non-black men feel that they will get shot down if approaching a black women so they don't even bother to try. It's not something that is exclusive to race. It's similar to how many men would not bother approaching or asking out an Angelina Jolie clone if they were to see her in a bar, regardless of whether or not after a conversation they got along well with her, simply because they would view her as out of their league and a near certain rejection that they'd rather not hear. I remember one instance where I was in a bar and talking to a black woman, and when I more or less asked her out, she looked at me like I was crazy and then didn't even say anything but just started cackling. When she composed herself enough, she managed to say "you're a little too pale for me if you know what I'm saying." This woman was not representative of the black race and should be judged on an individual basis. She was just a beeyotch plain and simple, regardless of her race. I could have been rejected in the same manner by a Latina, Asian or a white woman, but in terms of statistics, more black women refuse to date outside of their race than those other groups, so this sort of reaction is the sort of thing that I think a lot of white men fear and makes them second-guess themselves when it comes to approaching black women. I think white men will approach an Asian or Latina woman without a second thought of "does she date white guys?", whereas the same doesn't hold true a lot of times for black women. I'm not sure if I explained that correctly but it makes sense in my head.....</div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">When I read his comment, it reminds me of the Sherl Underwood incident. When she was on a panel, and showing off for the numerous bm there. A wm said to her, "Now if you and I were to go out-" </span><span style="color:#cc0000;">(he was putting out a feeler to see if she was interested)</span><span style="color:#000066;"> She immediately snapped: "You and I ain't goin nowhere!!!" All the bm on the show began to clap and stomp gleefully, while cheering this fool on. Then after the show, they hugged up with their ww, and headed happily home! </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">She went home alone.......</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">BW, beauty really does fade, but dumb really is forever! ( a quote from one of my fav. judges) Don't be stuck on stupid. Only a fool pays homage to ppl who would spit on them. Bm are trying to get as far from anything black as they possibly can. You all can see this. So don't ever close the door on good men, to uphold the egos of men who don't give a damn about you.... WAKE UP!</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">When you see a nice guy smiling at you, or trying to make conversation-think green</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">. Open body language</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">. Turn TOWARD him</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">. Give a hint of a smile, but don't overdo </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">. Definitely look him in the eye even if it's brief</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">. Ask open questions that require more than yes or no</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">. Leave little doubt that you are interested, but never appear needy.</span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;"></span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#000066;">Ladies, I think you all know exactly what to do, now do it and stop complaining that wm don't want you. They def. do, but you have to let them know that you are interested-so put that green light on.....</span></strong></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com59tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-41675893154576811642010-05-10T18:45:00.010-05:002010-05-11T09:48:00.030-05:00The bw's guide to finding a better man......<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8FDV-Zyl7qadS4xn_j-2ZaWmpwbA7yD0qRT3ZmsENZTKU4lIz3vpkH9y6_JoSv4GFaEVgqOcyCfVkxS6M6x3p9vY8__wLBEtqOFQT4u_n4wBJeVsw7V8CujVMSc-r2xGSG93zj2dzbn69/s1600/6a00e554e3a2a5883401310f873fa7970c-400wi.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 197px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5469792324726861522" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8FDV-Zyl7qadS4xn_j-2ZaWmpwbA7yD0qRT3ZmsENZTKU4lIz3vpkH9y6_JoSv4GFaEVgqOcyCfVkxS6M6x3p9vY8__wLBEtqOFQT4u_n4wBJeVsw7V8CujVMSc-r2xGSG93zj2dzbn69/s320/6a00e554e3a2a5883401310f873fa7970c-400wi.jpg" /></a><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">This is a couple from the discov. channel. This lady married this millionaire and had a million dollar wedding-and as you can see, she's cute but no Gabby U......</span></strong></div><div> </div><div><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>This is my personal theory, but I believe the reason most bw end up with bottom of the barrel men, is because that's where they hang out.....</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>In the bottom of the barrel! Now don't get me wrong. I assure you all, I am not a gold digger. But I do believe in working toward betterment in all things, and that certainly includes men. The man you look for should definitely bring more to the relationship than a heartbeat and a ready penis! Bw have got to raise their standards. Stop settling for men who have nothing to show for themselves and have no paths for their lives except to latch on to you, and ride your coattails. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>I'm aware I'll be accused of being a gold digger for this post, but I'm not one to let personal opinions stymie me from speaking my mind. I simply believe every woman should be looking, finding, and marrying the best man she can find. And that includes the most financially stable man she can find. It's truly just as easy to fall in love and marry a well off/rich man as it is to love a poor and struggling man. And the poor man is much less likely to marry you anyway, unless you have significant assets yourself!</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>So how does a woman go about meeting the really good men, and avoid the ones who would only drag her down? This is pretty much common sense, but the easiest way to meet the well off, is to live or work among them. So many women live in poor areas, work in poor areas, and socialize in poor areas, and then wonder why all they meet is poor men! You MUST be around people in order to meet, get to know them, and eventually marry them! It just doesn't work any other way. Next (And some of you will deeply resent this) You MUST get in shape! Very few well off/rich men are looking for fat, out of shape, slovenly, and unkempt women! I'm really sorry if </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>I'm offending anyone, but truth crushed to earth, has a way of rising again and again. You can all see that very few slovenly, out of shape, or obese women are on the arms of the most desirably men...</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>Another super plus for women who want the top quarry is: Education</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>Lower quality men are often condescending of Educated women, but higher quality/better off/intellectual men are usually intrigued, and captivated by a women who can stimulate his intellect as well as his loins. You see intellectual men desire intellectual conversations, and you are unlikely to be able to give this to him if you greatest claim to fame is that you've made it past the 10th grade. Even if you are intimidated by wealth, and only want a man with a good job, and a decent credit rating, you must always elevate, and improve yourself. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>Here are some other things you need to consider to raise your stock (Yes, you do have stock)</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>a. Learning another language. This is always a plus. It raises your self esteem, raises your intellect, acts as a social, and prestige magnet, and is extremely useful and functional.</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>b. Travel. There is something about a travelled person, that although you cannot put your finger on it, they often have an easy air of sophistication that precedes them. And they always seem more confident and magnetic because of it. I've rarely travelled outside the US, but I've traveled extensively inside the US, and even with that, people often tell me<em> </em>I have an air of someone special about me. Imagine how much stronger yours could be with some European travel!<em> </em></strong></span></div><div><em><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></em></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>c. Keep learning. You should always be improving, and learning something. Knowledge is too precious to let it pass us by unnoticed, And the weird thing is, as you learn something you are interested in, you will find more and more chances to use the knowledge that you study in your private hours. I study and read 2-4 R E books per month, and<em> </em>I cannot tell you how much that private study helps me in my dealings. Find something that interest you, and study it until you find others coming to you whenever the subject comes up, then you'll know you're on the right track, and see if this knowledge does not offer tremendous advantages to you in your everyday life. There is a saying. What is practiced in private, is rewarded in public. See if this does not come true for you....</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>d. Read, read read. The biggest mistake most bp make in their lives is refusing to open books!!!</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>I have no idea why many people do not read because it's one of the greatest ways to open your mind and expand your life. Many people complain about the price of books but think about it for a moment. Someone takes years of experience and puts it in a book for usually less than 25.00! I think that's a fantastic bargain. And you can always buy used books on Ebay or from used books stores. I think it's ridiculous for anyone to claim books are expensive and then spend hundreds of dollars per month on alcohol, cigarettes, and junk food!</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>Some other things you can do is to remove or eliminate your bad habits. The best way to remove bad habits is to trade them for better habits. This is known to be far more effective than simply trying to eliminate a habit without a replacement. Exp. walk instead of smoke, read instead of overeating etc.. Please remember, if you want to meet top quarry, you must go where these men congregate. Attend high end shows, plays, sports etc.. Visit nicer upscale neighborhoods as often as you can if you cannot afford to live there yet. Absorb the atmosphere, and let it soak into your psyche. The more you spend time in these places, the more you will belong......</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#000066;"><strong>There really is no reason for any women to have to settle for some of the pitiful specimen of men, so many of you lovely ladies have been settling for. You can have any type of life you want, but you must be willing to work for it.......Good luck ladies, and you can always write me for add'l information. My email is at the top of the page......</strong></span></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com27tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-18384807901612034392010-04-25T20:49:00.006-05:002010-04-28T13:03:56.125-05:00Believe what he does, not what he says....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeCLC4-vXsgpVsOKbAPeMRX9zfElj-jWnisZVOzHqhuVuUjek4KAHFAszkZ2hB04LqJjHjthwqp9hgx7vm0FkIhp6AICOM-P_K-w-eKHzH70kFlU-d2BARHFbpA9K7WDywblYfd4WYEDre/s1600/untitled.bmp"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 211px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5465250402403595106" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeCLC4-vXsgpVsOKbAPeMRX9zfElj-jWnisZVOzHqhuVuUjek4KAHFAszkZ2hB04LqJjHjthwqp9hgx7vm0FkIhp6AICOM-P_K-w-eKHzH70kFlU-d2BARHFbpA9K7WDywblYfd4WYEDre/s320/untitled.bmp" /></a><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;">J. Hudson begging her man (through song) not to leave.....</span><br /><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span><br /><br /><br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">So sorry ladies, I realize it's been a long time. I've missed you all terribly, but I've been working super hard on this R E project, as well as being a full time mom. And I was simply too tired to write after 12-14 hour days..... But I do apologize and the worst of this project is over -thank God.....</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Moving on......</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">I saw dream girls for the 10th time last week. As I watched it, it reminded me alot of what goes on in the BC. I watched Jamie Foxx's character hide his attraction to Beyonce, and only reveal his true intentions when he no longer needed J. Hudson's character. He knew all along he did not want her, yet he allowed her to believe that he was her man, and that they were on this great path together. The minute he no longer needed her, he carefully maneuvered her out of the picture, and took up with the one he really wanted. And no amount of her crying, singing (great), or begging would change his mind. She was totally blindsided because she believed his lies and distortions, instead of opening up her eyes and facing what was happening right under her nose.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">This is exactly what happens in the BC. I see bw everyday who refuse to see what's right in front of their eyes. For instance. I know someone who began to see someone on her job. He immediately moved into her home, allowed her to foot all the bills, and refused to have anything to do with her children. Yet, she was shocked when he got a raise, and took all the money he had saved and married a white woman from the same company! Now it seemed blatantly clear to me what his intentions were all the time. I just could not understand why she was silly enough to think this man cared about her. We could all see that this was surely not the case, but she had such a case of Pollyanna reasoning, she was unable to see what should have been evident to all. This is clearly a case of unconscious-consciousness. Where a person does not know what they don't know, only because they have not taken the time to really see it. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">This reminds me of the young cousin I have, whom I've mentioned to you all before. She is now on baby number 3 by a third man who has no intentions of being any kind of father to the child (nor will the other two). Yet, she cannot see how ridiculous her actions are, and still thinks these men are worth pursuing. I keep wondering how anyone could be so silly. Her life is a wreck! And this is something many bw do to themselves because they refuse to see what's before them and engage in an illusion instead of reality. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Think back to dream girls, remember J. H. begging him through song to "stay with her" remember how he looked at her with pity, and then ran for the exit. He knew he had gotten everything he needed from her, and had no intentions of staying with her. Yet, she had not allowed herself to see him as he really was. Instead she had only seen what she wanted to see, and it was to her own detriment. It's always to a woman's detriment not to face what's really happening, and to lull herself into a false sense of complacency. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Picture a wife who's husband is spending an inordinate amount of money on partying. The bills are not being paid on time, and their credit is suffering, and she's worried. But she's been raised to believe that a good wife does not question her husband. As a result, she worries quietly, and has many restless nights because she knows all is not well, although he claims he's paying the bills. But she knows he's not because he's spending it all on parties, nights out, and having a good time. Her heart slams against her chest one day as she opens the door to someone handing her foreclosure papers............</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">The truth is no woman can afford to play ostrich. We cannot afford to keep our heads in the sand. It's extremely important for women to face whatever is happening in their lives, and not</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">play the fool. The truth of the matter is that today it's more important than ever to "know what's going on with the man in your life. Never has it been as important as it is right now. I cannot stress enough how imperative it is to see him as he is, and not as you want him to be. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Today so many bw cannot see that bm are using them in various ways, monetarily, sexually, physically, and even emotionally, and then running to other women the moment he feels he has everything he wants. Even then most bm will still string this woman along if she's obtuse enough to keep believing him. They may never know when they may need her, so if at all possible they will put her in the closet for a rainy day, while they go off with 'other women'. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Ladies, don't believe what a man says. He can tell you anything. Believe what he DOES. Whenever a man's words and actions are in conflict, believe his actions. They represent how he REALLY feels. For instance. If he tells you he's not married but has to be home by a certain time every night, whispers into the phone, and never shows you his house. It's probably because he's married! If he tells you that you're the only woman he wants yet, other women constantly call him, and he's drowning in female 'friends' then he's lying. You are not the only woman in his life. in fact, he's probably juggling you with many others. I once watched a talk show where a ww talked about how she had been married for 12 years (to a handsome wm) and never knew her husband secretly wanted a black wife. He had spoken ill of bw for years and never shown any interest in bw except her best friend whom he loved to poke at, and tease. Her friend mentioned to her that she felt uncomfortable around him. The woman felt that this was due to his dislike of bw, and laughed it off. But finally he admitted to her that he was extremely attracted to bw, and had hoped that by making snide remarks, it would alter his attraction. It had'nt, and he finally felt the need to come clean. In fact he only admitted his real feeling after he tried repeatedly, to get her to implant her lips, butt, hips, and blow dry her hair wild. She ended up getting a botched surgery trying to have butt implants, and suffered nerve damage. She now suffers severe pain at the slightest noise, and her husband left her for a black woman anyway. She cried over and over as she lamented that if she'd only let him go from the start, at least she would not be in constant pain now, and would have been able to go on with her life, without constant pain, and would have found another man....</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003300;">So many bw live their lives in the very same type of delusion, and it's extremely dangerous. It's always better to face the truth than to live in the dark. The truths are so simple.</span></strong><br /><br /><ul><br /><li><strong><span style="color:#003300;">bw need to wake up and open up ALL of their dating options.</span></strong></li><br /><li><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Bw need to stop believing that men of the same skin color are their brothers!</span></strong></li><br /><li><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Bw need to know that they have a much better chance of finding love OUTSIDE their ethnic circles.</span></strong></li><br /><li><strong><span style="color:#003300;">Bw need to realize that most bm are looking for every, and anything not blk, and MOVE ON!</span></strong></li></ul><br /><p><strong><span style="color:#003300;">It really worries me when I see bw who refuse to wake up and smell the coffee. Fortunately more and more women are waking up. More and more are tired of being baby-mommas and never wives. Being used and abused and maltreated. One of my sister bloggers was saying that some women will have to be left behind if they refuse to adapt for their own survival, and unfortunately, I think she is right. But hopefully you ladies can see the truth, and will allow it to set you free..........</span></strong></p>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com38tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-69318228359634511842010-03-11T16:40:00.012-06:002010-03-11T18:10:19.065-06:00When funny becomes derisive, and inappropriate......<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiKKF4qOmsq6efE9GpUDFBBh3HXgeAE0ezw2_6FPS_N1rjDH7foNIX_YroqkAYARaBnQYbDiCILUjXPg6QxXW7_ECqT_8gBMHKLVOMg5RX978y1rDKt4wWESEv3vdb4zTAvbCSQ98PFP1z/s1600-h/sad.bmp"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5447532609149940338" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 267px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiKKF4qOmsq6efE9GpUDFBBh3HXgeAE0ezw2_6FPS_N1rjDH7foNIX_YroqkAYARaBnQYbDiCILUjXPg6QxXW7_ECqT_8gBMHKLVOMg5RX978y1rDKt4wWESEv3vdb4zTAvbCSQ98PFP1z/s400/sad.bmp" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>Hi ladies. Sorry it's been so long. I'm consulting on a big RE project and I've hardly even had time for my family..... so lets not waste any time now.....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>I think a lot of bw are so busy looking at the small frames, they fail to see the big picture. What I mean by that remark is that so many people never bother to look down the road and make a calculated guess as to how their present actions will affect their future. This is something I have never understood, but this seems to be a common trait in the bc. For instance, think about all the movies you see with bp acting like common fools. A few off the top of my head are:</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>booty call</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>I got the hook up</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>house of pain</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>how high</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>have baked etc.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>I notice other cultures seem to have an vested interest in their present, future, and the future of their offspring, and the offspring of their race that seems to be decidedly lacking in American blacks. I'm not sure how this came to be or why, but it's completely obvious to anyone who cares to investigate it. I remember reading a book a few years ago, in which a white Author was addressing a bm (who had asked, why bp were not getting the respect they deserved)</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>The author told him plainly and succinctly: "You've always entertained us whites with your comedic ways, and clowning. The problem is -no one respects a clown"</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>I remember feeling struck by his words, and a bit stung. But I knew they were true. Too many, far far too many bp shuck and jive and giggle at the most inappropriate things, all the while wondering why the world does NOT take them seriously. My question is, if you've set yourself up as the world clown, how do you ever expect to be taken seriously? Can you see Obama becoming President as a shucking, jiving, giggling fool? Do you think Oprah would have ever become a talk show queen if she was a large, giggling, silly, cackling jester?</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>I remember being in Arizona visiting one of my very successful book Author, cousin. We were downtown, and there was a military parade going on. At the end of the parade a black limo stopped and General Powell stepped out (he was a general then)He was surrounded by soldiers-who immediately jumped to attention. But, he made such a commanding presence, that even the civilians (of all races) jumped from their cars and immediately saluted him. My cousin who's is a pretty well-known author and rarely impressed by anyone, was practically in tears he was so honored to be in his presence. Some people actually <em>were</em> in tears! It was an experience I have never forgotten. The very air around him seem charged with the energy of a leader, and commander.....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>Certainly few of us have his aura, and charisma. But all of us can be taken more seriously, and command ordinary respect by the way we carry ourselves and interact on a daily basis. Now, I have nothing against humor at all, I think it's a wonderful life ingredient that ameliorates the pleasures in life. But for some people it becomes a tool for a slovenly life, filled with stagnated nothingness, and covered up with dangerous laughter. Or, sometimes it's used as a weapon of veiled hatred and pain to be welded at hapless, and unarmed victims.... </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>What I mean by that is,I've seen humor used in a harmless fashion to lighten a heavy load, yet, I've also seen it used many times to bring people to their knees and treat them in ways that defy decency.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>(think about how you felt as a bw, to hear D L. Hugley laugh about what Imus said)</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#003333;"><strong>Also, I think it's just plain dangerous to laugh at some things. It normalizes and lessons the impact of the damage they cause. For exp. I remember hearing comedian Sherl Underwood joking about R. Kelly molesting little girls. She went on to joke that every time he molested a child he had a hit record, so he needed to hit someone else because he needed another "hit" The audience howled with laughter, but to me it just felt wrong to laugh at something like that. I just don't see it as a joke. I know bp often joke about things to relieve the ponderous weight of some issues, but how come Jews never laugh at the holocaust? How come Indians don't laugh about the pain of reservation life? How come the Irish don't laugh about their civil war that's gone on in their country for years? Could it be perhaps, because these things are held sacrosanct and above the silly jokes, that some would make of them?</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#003333;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003333;">Today, we see many comedians and ordinary men laughing at the plight of bw. I believe it's because when the jokes first became inappropriate, no one said anything, and now they've grown out of proportion, but the world is so used to laughing at us, it's no longer a big deal. Many bw today are suffering horribly and yet many people are still laughing and treating it as a joke. I actually heard bm on a website I won't mention, laughing about the murder of the bw/wm couple last year! It' almost like nothing is off limits anymore. It's like watching an entire race of women swimming in a river of pain, as the people laugh on...</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#003333;">Just my opinion, but I think the joke is really on us-and it's not funny.....</span></strong></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com150tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-53437764001749932012010-02-05T19:18:00.003-06:002010-02-05T21:14:49.805-06:00BW-you will NEVER get permission to leave-so just leave!!!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjilSM4Y4efRQO9bPbKV0H398rv6LLICegTZkIViCEahnjFYzCLqtpMswPYyqbZ7jdR4I90eDyuzwMGNyp-9tg__N8YQvKbNsynkmtJbCsBkdLrIdNOAXFj6j9XdBiGmhr3sSGQVvBFGDYn/s1600-h/bigstockphoto_Mixed_Couple_4996292.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5434934879578310322" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 267px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjilSM4Y4efRQO9bPbKV0H398rv6LLICegTZkIViCEahnjFYzCLqtpMswPYyqbZ7jdR4I90eDyuzwMGNyp-9tg__N8YQvKbNsynkmtJbCsBkdLrIdNOAXFj6j9XdBiGmhr3sSGQVvBFGDYn/s400/bigstockphoto_Mixed_Couple_4996292.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div> </div><div><strong>I feel so sorry for many young bw. So many of you are waiting for the bc to give you permission to look for the love you deserve from men who would love to love you.</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>I don't understand why so many bw don't seem to notice that while many bm will move heaven and earth to stop you from having relationships with wm (regardless of character)-those very same bm are busy chasing any white girl they can get their hands on.</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>Do bw really think it's a coincidence that every time you turn on a tv, there's a bm smiling happily beside a wg? Now don't get me wrong. I am NOT suggesting you go get a wm to get even with bm, I am suggesting you go for the men WHO WANT YOU! It's just so silly to go for men who do not have the capacity to see how special you are. How does that benefit you? It really doesn't. You young bw MUST learn to look out for #1. And that's you. I see young bw everyday who have a GLs, and GM- garbage lives and garbage men, because they did not KNOW what they wanted. If you do not know what you want in life-how in the world do you ever expect to get it? </strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>It all starts with Goals. What do you want in life? What kind of home do you want?</strong></div><div><strong>Do you want children? A career? A business? I cannot stress enough how important it is to know what you want. But it's also extremely imperative that you know what you DO NOT want!</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>I have a young cousin I've mentioned before, who is now barely 21, and pregnant with baby number 3 by a third bm who has refused to take care of his child (Nor will the other 2) She lives with her mother, and works a dead end job downtown. Her children have almost no creature comforts and she would not have even had baby clothes, had we not bought them for her. Yet, she still cannot get it through her simple head that she needs to change her ways, and leave these sorry men alone. She constantly chases one bm after another. They use her and go on about their business. I never know whether to feel sorry for her, or just write her off. She just makes such ridiculous choices, that I cannot fathom why anyone would behave so stupidly. </strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>The truth is that bw have got to wake up and smell the coffee. So many of you are still engaged in make believe nonsense-that you cannot discern reality anymore! For your own sake-LISTEN to what these men are saying-for God's sake! If a man is primarily concerned with getting you into bed, then that is where his intentions toward you lie. If he has children that he does not take care of, then any children you are stupid enough to have by him, will also go without care! If he has ex-girl friends who are terrified of him, or have been beaten and abused by him, who do you think his next victim will be? Stop being stuck on stupid-open up your eyes, and run from men who are clearly out to use and abuse you! I don't understand how so many women will run from wm because the bc will tell that wm only use bw, and will never marry them. Look up the stats of bm marrying bw these days and you'll be shocked. Over 80% of black children are now being born out of wedlock!!!! Does it look like bm are marrying their baby-mothers to you? </strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>We are at a crisis point, and we need to stop lying to young women. And you young ladies need to stop listening to the garbage the bc would have you digest, and trust your own eyes. Here are some of the most prominent lies being told to young bw.</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>1. There are plenty of good bm, you just need to look harder! </strong></span></div><div><strong> This is bull. There are almost 2 million more bw in this country than bm! Even if bm were not color struck, were upstanding citizens, and were interested in marrying the numerous bw, they impregnate every year. There still would NOT be enough of these men to marry the many many bw looking for husbands.</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>2. If bw would just act right bm would not leave them for ww!</strong></span></div><div><strong>The truth is that YOU ARE ENOUGH! And if you are not enough for a man then you are simply NOT what that man is looking for! It's ridiculous to turn yourself inside out trying to be what you cannot be. You can only be you, but that's always good enough....</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong><span style="color:#990000;">3. If bw didn't have such attitudes, they wouldn't be alone</span>. </strong></div><div><strong>No, if bw would simply stop chasing men who don't want them, and ALLOWED themselves to be caught by men who DO want them, they would not be alone!</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>4. Black women are not attracted to white men!</strong></span></div><div><strong>That's a lie! There are many, many bw who are very attracted to wm, yet they are secretly waiting for the bc to give them permission to be with one. This is NEVER going to happen! I DON'T THINK MOST BM WANT BW, BUT THEY SURE AS HELL DON'T WANT WM TO HAVE THEM!!! </strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>The lies go on and on, I'm sure you can think of many more, but the bottom line is that bw must wake up and move on! You don't owe anyone your loyalty except yourself! You have nothing to prove to the bc, and you must live your own life, and do what 's best for yourself......</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong>But to elaborate on one last point. remember in the 'something new' movie. She was self-conscious and uncomfortable upon finding out that her date was white. She began to move through the crowd, giving compliments to strangers, and trying to mitigate the wrath she obviously felt was coming her way. He sensed her discomfort and grew uneasy. He knew she was worrying about how the bp around them would react. This is a classic example of a bw who is trying to look for approval from the bc before she pursues a relationship that would definitely be in her best interest. </strong></div><div><strong>No bw is going to get this permission! BW are too needed in the bc. They will NEVER voluntarily let us go. The trick is to make it clear that you are working in YOUR OWN best interest, and no one's elses. You deserve the best in life, and don't ever let anyone tell you different. There are plenty of men who would love to be with you, but you must lift your heads up into the light to see them......</strong></div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong></strong> </div><div><strong></strong> </div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com77tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-35243801916523558242010-01-12T19:23:00.004-06:002010-01-13T10:31:44.534-06:00Black women and the jealousy component-LET IT GO!<span style="color:#660000;">Hi everyone. I'm away from home, and cannot upload pics from this computer. But as soon as I go home, I will upload some.....</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>I think it's safe to say, that SOME black women have a problem with jealousy. Especially as it relates to white women, or ANY women they think may be held in high esteem by coveted males. I see women everyday (of all races-but of course I'm concerned about the AA ones) who</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>demonstrate the jealousy component in very blatant, sad, and obvious ways. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>The truth of the matter is that women who demonstrate blatant jealousy do themselves a grave disservice. Some examples of this are, passing attractive women and rolling the eyes. Glaring at women who are well groomed or dressed up, laughing and making snide (malicious) remarks at women who are noticed or openly admired by males. These, and other obvious, and pathetic attempts </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>to debase attractive, or coveted women can, and often will make these women seem much lower, and less appealing in the eyes of the very men, they hope to attract. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>I really don't think many women realize how unattractive these traits are. I often feel sorry for women when I see them demonstrating these self-abnegating traits, because I know they are truly only hurting themselves. Case in point-let me give an example....</strong></span><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Years ago, when I was a very young wife, (in my first marriage) we lived in a fairly new apartment complex on the cusp of the main highway. My husband and I both had a car, but mine was old and often in the shop. I was still in college and obviously having some trouble getting around whenever my car was not working. One day as I was standing by the mail box waiting for another cab, One of the black men who lived in the complex approached me, and said. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>"Hey pretty one, if you're going to town, I can give you a lift" I smiled, but said no thank you. I turned to check my mail box before the cab came, and noticed an older black woman nearby glaring at me. I had no idea why-since I didn't know her. But I had no time to think about it. The cab came and I left. Later on that night, there was a knock at the door. My then -husband (at the time) answered. A moment later he called me to the door. A much older black woman was there with the other woman I had seen at the mailbox earlier. The moment she saw me, she began to go into a tirade. "I heard you was tryin t'mess wit my man!" She began to yell. I just stared at </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>her because the guy who had offered me a ride was barely twenty! (like me) I knew she was late thirties-early forties! </strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>"I wasn't messing with anyone! " I told her angrily. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>"He asked me if I wanted a ride, and I said no!" Out of the corner of my eye, I could feel my husband glaring angrily at me. "You was smilin, and flirtin!" Her friend cut in. "Like a young slut with no home trainin!""Yeah," the woman agreed. "What kinda hoe gits married, and still be flirtin wit other people's men!"</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong> Now I was furious, because I knew I had not done anything wrong. She was just insecure because she was dating a guy way too young for her, and taking it out on me. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>"Get the hell out of my house!" I told her, before slamming the door in her face. But it didn't end there. Not only did my then-husband accuse me for weeks of flirting with this stranger-but this woman took it upon herself to make my life a living hell. She spread rumors about me all over the complex. She followed me in her car. She told my two year old baby, that her mom was a whore who was trying to 'steal her man!' And she told several people that she was going to slice my face.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong> Her man, who probably had absolutely no interest in me in the first place, and who was probably just being nice, now began to notice me. Whenever I went anywhere in the complex, he suddenly began to show up, and smile and try to compliment me. I ignored him, but he didn't back off. His girl friend's irrational behavior had CONVINCED him, I was something special, and now he set out to win me away from my husband. I finally ended up having to get a R.O. from them both. The point is, this man was NOT interested in me! SHE made me seem so irresistible with her ridiculous behavior! She is the one who fueled his interest-and no one else! I see this play out all the time. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Ladies, the more you display jealousy and spite toward other women, the higher on the totem pole you make that woman seem! Let me show you a better way to handle jealousy....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>One night, when I was dating hubby number 2, we went to a night time concert in the park. It was a really beautiful and balmy night, and we were both enjoying it. As soon as he came back from getting me a drink, a scantily clad woman pretended to trip and fall into his arms. Her breasts were practically hanging out of her shirt. He helped her up, and shot an embarrassed glance at me. I moved over, and feigned concern. "Are you ok hon?" I asked sweetly. She nodded, still trying to catch his eye. "Oh good," I murmured, brightly. "For a moment there, I thought you were drunk" Her eyes widened. She didn't like being thought of as drunk, although she didn't seem to mind every man in the yard seeing her breasts. With that, I took the arm my date was offering me and we walked away. I never said another word about her. I knew he expected me to bad mouth her, and I knew that was a mistake many women make. I simply enjoyed the evening, and pretended she didn't even exist. After shooting me a few questioning glances, he forgot about her, and she became a NON-ISSUE. Ladies the way to make other women non-issues is to NOT go ON and ON, and ON about them! The more attention you give them, the more your dates/mates will too. It's very important for every woman to realize that she is enough! That there is something special and beautiful about you, and that it's extremely hard for him to ever see it if you are screeching and screaming about another woman.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>This brings me to the Tiger Woods incident. Many bw are delighted that TW and his wife Elin are separated, and that she is contemplating divorce. Many bw are angry because they know Tiger would never look at a bw. So what!!! There are millions of men who would be delighted to be with any woman who is attractive, intelligent, and confident -regardless of her race. Why concern yourself with a color-struck man with self esteem issues, who obviously hates his blackness? Does it look like he's been a good husband to this woman? And notice,despite the fact that she's supposed to be so perfect, he still cheated on her with (allegedly) more than 14 women! </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>I actually feel sorry for her, it must really be horrifying to have your husband cheating on you with everything that moves, after the world thought you were living a fairy tale. But the point is, I think many bw were jealous of her because she's the type of woman the media loves to put on the pedestal. Even now, he's being vilified, almost at a criminal level in the media for what, in my estimation, is a private matter between him, and his wife. Stop reveling in the pain of others and concentrate on your OWN lives. It's almost impossible to bring betterment to your life as a bw, when you insist on trying to malign, and slander other women based on race, attractiveness, personality etc. If you are feeling depressed or angry at other women, it usually signifies YOU not being happy with YOU. So fix it. Get in shape, go back to school, work on you. Do whatever you need to do for feel better about you. It's almost always the people who are the most malicious and inexorably- mean spirited, who are the most unhappy with themselves. And the saddest part is that most people know (sense) exactly why they are doing it.....</strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">I actually have someone in my family, whom I truly love, but most of the time I don't really like her (if that makes any sense) She's always bad mouthing everyone, and she's an expert at 'cracking' on people. (think a def jam comic) She cracks on strangers, family members-basically anyone in her presence, and it's often exhausting being around her for any length of time. Many times I have seen her bring people to tears, and I've thought to myself. 'your self hatred is showing-you're only so evil to people because you're over 350 pounds, and you know you look a mess!!!' She's actually a funny person, but I noticed her humor is ALWAYS at some unfortunate person's expense. She constantly laughs at people and gets other people to laugh at that person (whoever the victim is a that moment) Many people have tried to tell her gently that she goes too far, but to no avail. I suppose she'll get the memo when someone beats the hell out of her one day, but until then, she goes on.....</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#000099;">So my point is, as far as the jealousy Component. Let it go. You'll only make yourself look stupid and desperate trying to put down other females for whatever reason. Do what you need to do, to feel better about yourself and live and let live. For another example of this. Check out you-tube and see Vanessa Williams singing 'colors of the wind' She looks absolutely gorgeous -as usual-and sounds great. But when you read the comments, all you hear are ww saying that she can't sing, and that the other version is better (It's def. not!) and that she thinks she's cute. Now anyone with eyes can see, she's way beyond cute, and they just looked angry, desperate, and jealous! This is how bw look when they defame, malign, and slander 'other ' women because of some 'seeming advantage' these women may have...Jealousy does not make 'her' look bad-it makes 'YOU' look bad.....</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com39tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-12163597934516242202009-12-30T20:22:00.012-06:002010-01-04T18:31:26.648-06:00How to get a brand new start in the new year!Hi everyone. I'm so sorry about the long hiatus. First we went on a business trip/family trip<br />and then upon coming back, we find out that my God-mother is very ill and not expected to<br />last through January. Although she is in her 80s, it is still a shock to see someone you love<br />go down so rapidly. I've been spending as much time with her as I could as I will obviously,<br />never be able to have this time with her again. Thank you all for your support and understanding during this time.........<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Lets move on.... I think most of us want to make a fresh start in 2010. I know many of you</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>are looking forward to that more than anything. In order to make 2010 a different kind of</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>year you MUST set goals. Decide what you want in life, and make a plan to get it.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>It sounds too simplistic, but it is the basis for all achievement. I wanted to give you ladies some</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>advice that would really make a difference in your new year, so here goes. These are the things that </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>most people want to change. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">lose some weight</span>.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Many of us want to drop a few pounds, and the easiest way to do it without alot of stress</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>and strain, is to simply start to walk everyday. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Even if it's too cold to walk outside and you</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>don't have a treadmill, then simply walk to your favorite shows, back and forth in front of the </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>tv. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>If you want to drop weight super-fast, then walk to your shows for I hour per day, and add</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>lots of fruit/vegetables to your daily meals. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Don't worry about diets, just add lots of fruits and </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>veggies to your meals. (especially fruit-because the only fruit that does not bring on weight loss</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>is banana. They are still very good for you but they don't cause weight loss like apples, oranges</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>berries (all) pineapples, watermelon, -well pretty much all the rest do. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Citrus fruit is especially</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>weight -reducing. The reason is that your body has to work so hard to break down the fruit for </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>consumption, you end up with negative calories, and lose weight....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">Learn something new</span><span style="color:#cc0000;">!</span></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Many people want to finish a degree or pursue some self-study. This is an </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>excellent idea because</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>we should always keep learning. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>And speaking of learning. Did you know that the more you</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>learn the easier it is to learn more? The brain is like a muscle, the more you use it the more connections and neurons it creates. This facilitates learning, and in essence, you become smarter.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>So even if you are finished with college and don't feel that you need any further schooling, always</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>undertake self-study or pursue some type of learning. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>One of the greatest area's of study for black women is to learn to speak a new language. Nothing seems to elevate one's sex appeal, and image like being able to converse in a new language.....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">Change your habits-change your life</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Some of us are stuck in a rut due to the bad habits we have engaged in time and again. The best</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>way to get out of a rut, is to start with a list of 6-10 things you want to change. Take 2 of those</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>things and put them up on your wall for the month. Every day work on those things you want </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>to change. A new habit usually takes about 1 month (28 days). So in order to bring a new desired habit, all you have to do keep doing it! When it becomes entrenched, then move on to the next </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>habit you want to change, and repeat the process. The process for getting rid of bad habits, is to</strong></span> <span style="color:#000099;"><strong>do the opposite. Simply refrain from doing those things until you no longer desire them. Think </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>of habits like a path through a forest. When the path is seldom walked, it is difficult to discern, and unclear. But when it is heavily walked, it becomes more and more visible and grooved. Your </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>mind is the same way. Any habit that is done consistently will become more deeply entrenched and likely to produce after itself....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">Get into a better crowd!</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Drop whatever in your life that is NOT in your best interest. This includes people! Did you know that 95% of people make within 3-5000.00 of what their 3 best friends make? You see people rub off on each other. This is why wealthy people donot like to hang out with broke people. They </strong></span><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>are aware that the energy WILL rub off, and they are aware of how detrimental it can be to their finances. Whatever you are trying to be in life, get around those types of people. When a friend of mine was complaining about her daughter skipping school and getting into trouble, one of the teacher's recommended that she get her away from the people she hung with (delinquents) before it was too late. My friend immediately moved her child to a better school where she would not have access to her old crowd. She began to hang with a more studious crowd, and her grades, as well as her behavior, immediately improved. This dynamic will work</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>wonders in your life as well. If you are hanging with negative, mean spirited, spiteful, and angry people, you will find yourself acting the same way. And your life will be a reflection of this. Try putting yourself around a better crowd and hanging with winners, and you will immediately see how much better your life is turning out to be.....</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">Finally since for most of us, our finances are the main problem. I wanted to throw some really</span></strong> <strong><span style="color:#006600;">great info at you ladies. Since I'm a real estate consultant, obviously most of it will deal with</span></strong> <strong><span style="color:#006600;">real estate.....</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">How to get a FREE HOUSE in 2010!</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Did you know that there is a law on the books called the Adverse Possession law. Now it varies</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>by state, but the gist of it is that abandoned houses are basically free for the taking. Let me explain. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Say someone named Donna walks home from work everyday. And everyday, she passes a boarded up house. She looks at it longingly because it's twice the size of the house she rents, and she desperately needs more space. As she's telling her friend Jane, about it at lunch the next day, her friend suddenly snaps to attention. "Why don't you check title and ownership? " she asks. "Perhaps the people are deceased, or don't want it. Donna had no idea what you was </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>talking about but Jane took the lead. The next day, she takes Donna down to the tax assessor's office, and armed with the address to the property-they look up the owner's name. Come to find</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>out, the owner had been missing for 3 years. No one knew where he was. Taxes had accumulated on his home and the city had boarded it and placed a lien on it. Jane immediately ordered a title report, and carefully went over it with Donna. Upon learning that it only had one lien and back taxes, Donna immediately began to pay the taxes. She ran an ad in the paper for several weeks. It announced that if anyone was interested in the property, they should contact her. (This is called giving constructive notice) afterwards, she had the boards removed, and began to repair the property. Several weeks later, she moved her family in. And even though she had to pay a few thousand for back taxes, and repairs. She was able to stop paying rent, and after the first year, and save a fortune. A few years later, she hired an attorney and was able to </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>obtain a 'quiet title'. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>That's adverse possession in a nutshell. You can order a book on eBay or the 'net' if you feel you </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>don't have enough detail, but that's really the basis of it. The main thing to remember is to 'live openly'. That's why it's called adverse possession, because you are living 'adverse' to the owner's interests. Don't choose houses with extreme defects, because you'll eat up your savings making </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>extensive repairs. Easy ways to spot prospects are:</strong></span><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">Boarded houses</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">neglected houses</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">overgrown lawns</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">broken windows</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">sagging porches</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">lots of notices left on door</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">high weeds</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">No electric (check box on side)</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">'feels vacant' </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">When you spot these signs, check for vacancy, and then talk to the neighbors. I guarantee you</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">they will know how long the owner has been gone, and probably, they will know what happened to them.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;"></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">How to live in a Mansion and make 100.000 in 2010!</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>I love this plan. I actually didn't think of it. A realtor friend of mine has been using it for awhile.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>It goes like this. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Go, and get a real estate license. Now if you go everyday, this will only take 2 weeks. If you go at night or only on Saturday, it will take longer. But you must have it to put this plan in action.</strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Market your services in the upper crust areas. Advertise in high end magazines, that you are a licensed agent, and that you will house-sit and sell their property for them. </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>Get them to sign an agreement that you will live in the house, take care of it, and sell it at the end of one year. You move in and run your business from the home. Towards the end of the year, you aggressively market it. 6% on a 2 million dollar home is 120.000. As long as there is </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong>no listing agent, you will be able to keep the entire commission. If there is another agent, you will need to complete 2 transactions per year to make your targeted income.....</strong></span><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">Hope this gets you all off to a great start-And Happy New Year! </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;"></span></strong><br /><br /><span style="color:#000099;"><strong></strong></span>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com25tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-28716954971845306742009-11-11T20:23:00.010-06:002009-11-12T09:27:52.887-06:00Is he looking for true love, or a chocolate fantasy? -ways to tell.....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvwG95kzIcjJF5rps8FW1o9iKtM5lLq-S-JDtXIP9uyMTdS88St8aLwivXkGljyRDWxU6pcvGc7e3Nye5wRxQjx7VIcPOiIzNp-05lWBb1Qg0Mpf988EbHPSBGyLX96F9t0sEyXyhgi5D4/s1600-h/vila.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5403057665277796370" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 240px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvwG95kzIcjJF5rps8FW1o9iKtM5lLq-S-JDtXIP9uyMTdS88St8aLwivXkGljyRDWxU6pcvGc7e3Nye5wRxQjx7VIcPOiIzNp-05lWBb1Qg0Mpf988EbHPSBGyLX96F9t0sEyXyhgi5D4/s400/vila.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#006600;"></span></strong></div><strong><span style="color:#006600;"><span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Vilayna</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">Lasalle</span>, considered to be one of the most beautiful black women in the world........<br /></span></strong><div></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#006600;"></span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Does he want YOU, or just a good time??.....</span></strong></div><div><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>How do you know if a particular <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">wm</span> wants you, or sees you as a stereotypical fetish? Many of you ladies worry about this so much, you are unable to relax, around ordinary men, and often find yourself second guessing everything they do. </strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>The truth is that men are just not smart enough, to obscure their true motives for long. Some aren't smart enough to hide it from the introduction. All the average woman has to do, is to ask questions, and <em>really listen.</em> He will reveal everything you need to know. Use dates -not to get a good meal,-but as interviews. Start slowly, and from the first date, really begin to probe his psyche. Ask about his family, his job, his hobbies, then let the conversation evolve to past relationships, and really listen to how he refers to other women. If he is calling other women b*<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">tches</span> or hoes, I guarantee you, YOU will be the next b*<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">tch</span> or hoe he refers to! Men are like leopards, they don't change their spots. If he has so little respect, that he can use those vile and filthy terms to describe other women, know that he will also utilize them in his descriptions of you. He will also treat you as he has notoriously treated other women in his past. I see women all the time, who make the mistake of thinking that although a man mistreated a woman from his past, he'll be good to them. That's not the way it works. In fact one of the best ways to really find out what kind of man he is, is to talk to his ex. Now if she is vindictive, or shady, skip her, and talk to someone more objective. But do vet him carefully, and never allow him to move the relationship faster than you feel comfortable with. I've seen <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_5">bw</span> turn down good <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_6">wm</span> because they believed he had a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_7">bw</span> fetish, yet, I've also seen a few <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_8">wm</span> try to fulfill their stereotypical expectations of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_9">bw</span>, by getting her into bed. So yes, it does happen, yet it's pretty rare because most <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_10">bw</span> have an automatic shield up anyways when it comes to <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_11">wm</span>. It's often a monumental effort for some <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_12">wm</span>, because many <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_13">bw</span> will look for any excuse to kick him to the curb.... The same way many <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_14">bw</span> will look for innumerable reasons to <em>keep</em> a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_15">bm</span>.</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>The trick is to judge all men by high standards, and not allow anyone to slip through the cracks because of skin color. I always encourage <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_16">bw</span> to date 3 men at once. What will happen time and again is that one of the 3 will begin to far outpace the other 2. When their trying to take you to see a fight, he'll be the one who asks where <em>you </em>want to go. When they talk over your head, or forget their manners, he'll be the gentleman, who gives you his undivided attention. After you have vetted them, and 2 have fallen short. Dump them, (and if <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_17">nec</span>.) vet the winner against 2 more just to be sure. But I certainly don't want you ladies to worry about <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_18">wm</span> using you for sex. Accept the fact that ALL men want sex! But it's up to you -who will get it. So he can want indefinitely. It really does not mean much, unless <em>you</em> decide it's time. But the best rule with sex really is to put it off as long as possible. You really want to get to know this man, and second, it's a very bad idea to give your body to someone because you <em>like them!</em> So you like them -so what! You probably like the person who does you hair, and the person who serves you in a restaurant, and your mailman etc. You should NEVER be in bed with someone based on <em>liking them. </em>If you cannot wait for marriage (and I know-waiting is often difficult for women too) then wait for love, and a committed relationship. Never allow anyone to <em>pressure</em> you into bed. I can't stress enough how much you will resent- not only yourself-but him. At this point the relationship is often doomed....</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>Don't sabotage yourself........</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#006600;"><strong>It's very important that <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_19">bw</span> stop repeating the garbage that their is a shortage of men! Their is NOT a shortage of men! There may be a shortage of <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_20">bm</span>, but so what? There are plenty of other kinds all over. They are ubiquitous. You will have a hard time attracting something you have convinced yourself is scarce. This is why the news <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_21">orgs</span> are touting this crap every time you turn around. They don't want <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_22">bw</span> in loving, happy unions, and especially not with top of the line <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_23">wm</span>. As more and more <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_24">wm</span> cross the line, notice the verbal attacks against <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_25">bw</span> grow in frequency, and viciousness. First of all they have a vested interest in <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_26">bw</span> being tired, beaten, angry, and dejected. And second, they want good <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_27">wm</span> <em>reserved</em> for <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_28">ww</span>! That is why it is imperative that you disregard what these purveyors of malice tell you. Remember that there are enough <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_29">wm</span> in this world that ANY and EVERY <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_30">bw</span> who wants one, can have one. The marines may be looking or a few good men, but you're only looking for one! The best way to find him is to frequent the places of YOUR interest. If he's there, it's likely he shares your interest. And you can build from there. When you catch him looking, smile softly, and turn away. When you turn back, he should be looking with new interest (based on your smile) If you are with a group, move by yourself to make it easier for him to approach you. (men hate to approach women in a group) You have to give him the green light in order to bring him to you.</strong> </span></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Green light</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong>Smiling genuinely, /with happiness</strong></div><br /><div><strong>being friendly and open</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Cocking head to side, while watching him</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Air of happiness and or confidence</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Open body language-facing him, head up, biting lip-while taking quick glances, etc.</strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Red light (Y'all should know these by heart-so many of you use them!) </span></strong></div><br /><div><strong>Set/angry chins</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Rolling eyes</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Never looking up at him/no eye contact</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Turning away from him</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Using a blocking item (book, head sets, other <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_31">ppl</span> etc.</strong></div><br /><div><strong>Arms folded (as in -get the hell away from me!) He will know right away which light you have on, and he'll act accordingly....</strong></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff0000;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>What if it's a date from</strong> <strong>hell, and he <em>really is</em> looking for a chocolate fantasy.....</strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>When it comes to <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_32">DFH</span>, we've all been there at least once. When it happens, laugh it off, and vow to vet more carefully next time. I will tell you how I saw one young woman handle a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_33">DFH</span>, and I thought she did a splendid job............As for the chocolate fantasy part. I told you don't worry about it, because he's not going to get anything you have not consented to anyway. So discard the concern of what he might <em>want</em>.....check out how this young lady handled her <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_34">DFH</span>.......</strong></span></div><br /><div>------------------------------------------------------------------------------------<br /><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>I was watching some dating show a few yrs ago. It took place on a cruise ship. (some of you may remember it) Anyway, there was a blind date between a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_35">wm</span>, and a beautiful ebony-hued <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_36">bw</span>. (Girl-really, she looked about 24) So anyway, I remember thinking how lovely she was. She was very dark with light eyes, and the effect was quite stunning. She had long brown hair, and was fairly slim. When she met him, he seemed decent enough at first. He told her that she was gorgeous, and that he was happy to meet her. She smiled, said thank you, and gave him a brief hug. But I began to get a 'funny feeling' about him as they entered the dining hall. It was a formal setting, (the whole cruise was very upscale) and she was dressed formally, in a long mauve colored gown. Now keep in mind that she looked right at home, because she was a very classy, and elegant looking/speaking woman. Several men turned and gave her approving smiles, but he seemed disturbed about something. As they sat down, he turned to her and said: </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>"I'm surprised you wore that dress " She looks up surprised and says: "Why?" (He) "Well, I would have expected you to wear something more..... alluring!" (She, blinking, and confused) "To a formal dinner-what exactly do you mean by alluring" (He, shakes his head-changes discussion) They talked about other things, and the date seemed to be going <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_37">ok</span>, but it was obvious she was still bothered by his earlier comment (probably because it made no sense) Then I noticed that he kept looking at the bodice of her dress. He can hardly tear himself away to answer her question. He's just staring like a dog in heat. Since the dress was not revealing in anyway, his behavior borders on lascivious. She grows tired of trying to <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_38">converse</span> with him, while he stares at her dress, and grows angrily quiet. He finally notices that she's quiet and rather annoyed, and he gives a brief apology. He says something about the dress reminding him of something-she does not believe him, but lets it drop. Later when they don their swimsuits, he gets upset because she has not chosen a bikini. (she'd brought a one-piece) He begins to question her on how this is not typical attire for a black girl!!! She gets very offended, and informs him that <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_39">bgs</span> come in different sizes, shapes and personalities! He offers a weak apology, and they go swimming.... (This is a 3-day date)<br />The next day they meet for breakfast, and the tension they've experienced earlier seems to have <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_40">dissipated</span> somewhat. She's bright and cheerful, and obviously trying to make the best of a bad situation. They are joking around, when she laughingly asks him how tall he is. (He's short-about 5.6), at this point he goes ballistic! and starts yelling that she's trying to embarrass him. She tells him that she was only asking because she's 5.5 and wanted to know if he was taller. He mentions that he's rather sensitive about his height, and without bothering to apologize for his ridiculous behavior, he falls silent. She tries to put his rude behavior aside and see the date through. A little while later, she is talking to the camera, and she is saying that although she agreed to this date, she could not wait for it to be over, and that she suspected that he thought she would be a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_41">hoochie</span> type woman because she was black. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>At dinner that night, her suspicions and mine, were confirmed. She wore an off-white gown, had her hair up, and her make up perfect. She was stunning. When she walked into the dining area, all the men turned to stare, and several men got up from their seats, as if it might entice her to join them for dinner. Her date not only refused to get up when she came to the table, but he looked up at her and scowled. She looked uncomfortable, and surprised, but she took her seat. He then turned to her and said:<br />"Why the hell are you wearing a LONG dress-is this sh*t supposed to turn me on?" She gazed at him a moment, and said, </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>"I was not trying to turn you on, I was trying to get to know you"<br />At this point he threw down his napkin, and stood up. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>"I've had it" He shrieked, "You don't even act like a black girl!-you act like a princess for God's sake!-and this date is OVER!!!" </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>With that he stood back like he was hoping she would 'go off' but she remained calm, <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_42">and collected</span>. She shrugged her shoulders casually. </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>"Well, it was nice meeting you" she lied. "Have a safe trip home...." </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>He turned and stormed out, while several white men nearby rushed to take his place........<br />Ladies, never tolerate disrespect from ANY man. He obviously thought because this young woman was black, that she would be a <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_43">shenehneh</span>, (loud, ghetto, vulgar, and/or easy) when he saw that she was the epitome of class and grace, he was livid. I guess he thought he was in for easy sex for the whole week end. etc. She handled it wonderfully though, and I was very proud of her. You don't have to act like a jerk because he does. A lady knows that actions speak louder than words <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_44">every time</span>. If he shows that he has no home training and wants to disrespect you on a date, make a flimsy excuse (that he'll see right through, ) and LEAVE. The only thing I would have changed about the girl on the show, is that I would have told her not to waste another night on this jerk. I would have told her to leave on day 1. This man was extremely rude, arrogant, insensitive and abrasive. But notice there was a roomful of other men who could not wait to take his place. When you are quality woman, there are ALWAYS other men waiting to take the present man's place-remember that....<br />As for discerning whether he's there for you, or just wants to fulfill a fetish-use the following clues, and keep in mind that men are just not smart enough to fool anyone for long. Their real selves always emerge, and give them away. All you have to do is listen, wait, and observe.........<br /></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Here are some signs that he's looking for something more serious -possibly marriage....</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">1. He's respectful</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">2. He wants to spend more time with you</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">3. He talks to you about the good, bad, and insignificant things in his life.4. He introduces you to his family</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">5. He looks at you 'proudly</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">'6. He treats you like you are something special</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">7. He is extremely interested in pleasing you</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">8. He has extremely good manners and behaves like a gentleman9. He refuses to let others speak ill of you10. He thinks you're beautiful even when you look like <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_45">whoopi</span> (no offense <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_46">whoopi</span>) and takes you everywhere.</span></strong></div><div><br /><strong><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">Here are some signs that he just has a fetish for <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_47">bw</span> (RUN!)</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;"></span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">1. He calls only at night</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">2. He wants to come over late, (no date just a late call) -don't let him!</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">3. You have never met his best friend or his family</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">4. You only seem to go out to strange, far away places</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">5. He looks embarrassed when <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_48">ww</span> look at you two together.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">6. He seems to be uncomfortable with you in public</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">7. He lets him family and friends say nasty things about you- or ignore you.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">8. He makes a lot of sexual references to your body and barely notices your face</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#3333ff;">9. He's always groping you, even when you ask him to stop.10 He seems to be rushing the relationship toward the bedroom even after you tell him -you want to take it slow... /He does not seem genuinely interested in the 'real' you. 11. Instead of looking at you with pride, and respect- he constantly 'leers' 12. He does not give a damn about the things you think, because he 'knows' you won't be around long enough for it to matter...-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------</span></strong></div><div></div><div><span style="color:#ff0000;">For those of you who keep emailing me asking for wealth tips -here are a few </span></div><span style="color:#ff0000;"><div><br /></span></div>.... 1. Car flea Market Riches!Here is a very easy way to make thousands of dollars per month. Many men will take to this idea but there is no reason why a woman cannot do it, provided she takes measures to protect herself from strangers....You see in the paper every day people selling cars and people buying cars. A great number of those ads are really from car dealers who take over the newspaper much to the frustration of people who want to buy from the seller to avoid the high dealer costs/add <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_49">ons</span>. You can help the buyers and the sellers, as well as make a fortune each month by simply creating a car flea market....Many ideas to make a fortune are easy to come up with. An idea does not have to require a PHD to think up or facilitate. Unfortunately many people cannot grasp the simply realization that simple things can often make more money than the complicated. Look at the paper clip for example... To implement this simple plan go out and find a decent sized lot. Abandoned drive ins are great but there are any number of spaces that can be made usable for this simple purpose. When you find a decent spot negotiate with the owner on a lease fee. That done, advertise in the paper that you have car lot where people can display their cars for 25.00 per vehicle. Try to get some publicity from the radio stations or advertise heavily in the newspaper or use bandit signs etc. Any number of ways will get you customers, and this type of business will grow by word of mouth bigger each month. It's fairly easy to be pulling in 10,000 per month in this easy business within a few months with some work. You can let vendors come for free and take a small percentage of their profit or make them pay up front. All negotiations are between buyers and sellers you have nothing to do with problems with any cars or anything like that. You are merely the 'place' where the transactions occurred. This businesses can be operated for most of the year and many people are getting quite wealthy in ventures of this kind. Simply write up an agreement stating your terms (25.00 per vehicle, you are not liable for any transactions etc.) Get a signed agreement from each vendor and put it in a file (you can use a folder in an ordinary drawer-but don't lose it) You can have a mechanic there who charges for vehicle inspections and you can take a percentage of his profit! Use your imagination wealth is for the taking not for the dreamers.....<br /><br /><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;">2. Car Service Reminders.....</span> <div></div><div>Many people are so very busy that they cannot remember to have their car serviced. Then they have problems at the worst times (ie bad neighborhoods, late at night, all alone etc.) You can approach any number of dealers, and have too much business to handle in no time. You would be taking over service reminders (which many dealers are too busy to undertake) you would send postcards to the people who are due for service and take a percentage of everyone who comes in to have the service done. You would negotiate with the dealer on how much of a percentage, but a good rule of thumb is 20%. With just 3-4 dealers you could easily make double what most people are making working 40 hours per week! This is a bit detailed as there is a lot of record keeping. This type of biz would be best for someone who is detailed oriented and loves numbers. If that sounds like you-give it a try. You can print up business cards and presto! You are in business honey. The dealers will be so happy to have this tedious task off their hands they will practically overwhelm you! Just keep your day job and let it grow-and it will try it and you'll see......<br /><br /><br />3.<span style="color:#ff0000;"> Details for rich kids!</span></div><div></div><div><span style="color:#333333;">If </span>you have kids who want to make extra money and you have a good amount of drive way or lawn space, try this: Place this ad in paper or around town.Best Car Detail in town! done by young professions-working their way to college! People love to help young people get to college and as long as your children are responsible (not too young now) they will let them clean and detail their cars especially if the work is superior and the prices are a little less. Always supervise your children and teach them to very, very carefully detail the cars (you can easily get a library book on this) 3 kids can do a very good job in about 45 minutes and by charging 25 % less than a typical detailer for your area you WILL get jobs. USE the paper, or bandit signs or word of mouth if you want to build slow and steady. What most people do not realize is that almost anything can become a business. I was reading recently about a young kid who started taking back the neighbors trash cans as a courtesy in an area where they receive heavy fines for leaving cans out. (125.00) Many people had to leave work to go take their garbage cans back to the house from the street! As a result he soon had numerous people who begged him to do the same for them. He began to charge 5.00 per house and made so much money he quit his job and hired his 2 sisters. One as a secretary and the other to help him recruit more kids so he could expand. Within months he was making more than his parents who have worked for years by adding 2 more neighborhoods! You must learn to think outside the box. You have million dollar ideas EVERYDAY -its time to dust off a few and put them to work......thanks for tuning in see you next time -S</div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com78tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-5662609623352276092009-10-29T15:25:00.008-05:002009-11-12T06:03:54.501-06:00How the media distorts and discourages bw/wm couples....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj87Jm7vy0yOkG-FoMPmhT5WBtGXT_5hc-JFH5r89Tg3hs3D-ggK2aORRsQIl5TpT2Ff8Ghjr-dTCYxYrILuedBEmBwmQPFc0FAFnDMQKx1IJKqNnxaS5NNx07sv1HRdOsUJHp4I-vi8-Tu/s1600-h/wife-loses-respect-for-husband-when-he-loses-his-job.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5398122914173108962" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 342px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 248px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj87Jm7vy0yOkG-FoMPmhT5WBtGXT_5hc-JFH5r89Tg3hs3D-ggK2aORRsQIl5TpT2Ff8Ghjr-dTCYxYrILuedBEmBwmQPFc0FAFnDMQKx1IJKqNnxaS5NNx07sv1HRdOsUJHp4I-vi8-Tu/s400/wife-loses-respect-for-husband-when-he-loses-his-job.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div></div>-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- -<br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><span style="color:#000000;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#000000;"></span></div><span style="color:#000000;">Rick and Eleanor Hemmert, looking unhappy and dejected: On ABC's World News Tonight...<br /></span><div></div><br /><div><strong>Last night’s ABC World News Tonight profiled an interesting story entitled </strong><a href="http://abcnews.go.com/Business/story?id=7497859&page=1"><strong>“Male Nurses, Stay-at-Home Dads: New Norm?”. </strong></a><strong>The story involved remarks, and commentary from several couples, most of them mono-racial. But the one IR couple they featured included a wm/bw couple. Wouldn't you know it, they chose an unhappy couple which featured a very belittling, and non-supportive wife. The wife, Eleanor Hemmert, actually criticizes, and embarrasses her husband before all of America as she declares: </strong></div><div><strong>"I don't like coming home and seeing him in my apron-I wish I could say something else, but I've lost so much respect for him!" </strong></div><div><strong>I was livid watching the segment because it seems the media ALWAYS tries to use an overly-aggressive black woman and a passive, sour, unhappy-looking white man. I noticed the other couples they used all adjusted rather nicely to the husband's abrupt work departure. The other women understood that bad times happen to good ppl, and they were very supportive of their husbands. One lady even recommended that her husband become a nurse. He said he felt that this way, he would never be out of work again. The couples smiled and showed an amazing amount of support for one another. The only ones looking sour and upset were the mixed couple. This really upset me on several levels. Most of all the fact that they probably searched far and wide to find a bw who would disrespect, and embarrass her man on public television this way. After all, who knows how to hold it down in hard times better than us!! A man losing a job is nothing for your average bw. Many bw have dated and married men who did not even TRY to work! So having a husband lose a job, is nothing to most of us. We know how to ride out a storm. What really infuriated me the most was that they would subtly imply that had he not had a black wife, he may have gotten some support. I really resent the media's subtle, and constant, negative perceptions of bw. Whenever I watch wife swap, I notice if it's a bw/wm IR couple, they'll always use a very disempowering, aggressive, almost bitchy type bw. Then they'll pair her with a nauseatingly passive wm, and 'pretend' it's just a coincidence that the couple happens to be that way! The last time I watched one of these 'coincidental pairings' the very dark wife got angry that the husband had wine while she was away. She acted like a complete fool. Her mother also acted a fool, and their 3 beautiful daughters were caught in the middle.She had the nerve to come in screaming at him, that SHE did not allow wine in her house! (like it wasn't his house too lol!) The husband (a handsome wm) seemed inordinately happy to see her when he got back, but then she lit into him and destroyed the whole mood, in a matter a few scant minutes. The girls tried to intervene to no avail. She was off on a screaming tangent, and the husband dropped the flowers he had bought for her, and dejectedly slunk away. The segment ended with the white wife crying happily to have her husband back, and the black wife screaming, shrieking, and locking him out of the bedroom! </strong></div><div><strong>See the media has an agenda. It always has, and it always will. The point of picking a very passive husband, is to make it seem like the majority of wm are weak, passive, can't stand up to their women, and are woefully lacking a backbone. The truth is passive men come in ALL colors, and most wm are NOT passive! The purpose of throwing these men under the bus is to make them as unattractive, and unappealing to non-white women as possible. I'm sure you ladies know that most women (regardless of color) favor the take charge type man. Most heterosexual women want men who walk tall, speak with authority, and can handle a crisis. This is why women are often accused of wanting 'thugs'. She may simply be drawn to his air of authority, but this is often confused with an attraction to his 'thugness'. Men, just to clear the record, regardless of what you've heard-very few women want thugs. And it's usually the very young women at that. The older a woman gets, the more she longs for a 'real' man. If a bw thinks when she sees a handsome wm: "Hmmmm he is so handsome! But......Everybody knows how wm are! He's probably scared of his shadow, can't speak his mind, and has a small penis...hmmmm I think I'll pass...........</strong></div><div><strong>When this happens, then once again-the media has won. You see the reason they keep repeating these tired stereotypes, is because they become like auto-reverse cassettes in our minds. Once they are believed, they become convictions, and then they will automatically play upon sight... </strong></div><div><strong></strong></div><div><strong>Of course you ladies know why they present very aggressive, belligerent black women. This falls right in line with their proclamation that all bw are angry, loud, overbearing etc. They'll fight arduously to retain this antiquated stereotype alive, because it fits in with their program. This enables them to sleep better at night while they uphold ww as the epitome of beauty, purity, innocence, and womanly essence. It also discourages some non-bm from approaching bw. </strong></div><div><strong>Afer all, our subconscious guides everything our conscious mind does. So if his subconscious is saying; "Hmmm, she's beautiful, but you know how black women are! -I don't want her to go 'off' and start screaming and neck-twisting on me! Soooooo..... I guess I better not ask her out" *dejectedly walking away* </strong></div><div><strong>Once again, to the victor go the spoils. And it's a home run for the media, while both wm and bw lose out. It's important that you question WHY they do things, so you can understand the desired results, as well as the reasoning that goes with it. The media knows that ppl believe what they see! Even if what they see has been chopped, cut, altered, or literally made up! The truth is bw/wm couples are some of the longest lasting marriages out there. They are reportedly some 44% more likely to last than even WW/WM marriages!!! (check out Evia's blog for the latest stats) This would not be so, if these couples were miserable and unhappy as the media loves to portray..... Be not deceived-the devil is a LIAR, and so is the media.....</strong></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com193tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-58521185899398459372009-10-19T14:03:00.015-05:002009-10-20T21:32:52.601-05:00The art of Covert Nefarious Delusion, and how it's used on bw.....<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgdDqu7MT0w7fh9PLtZUR4nuqS4e2jVo_LBDXAXNRtQ7dy5dolQPRtGbei_nI5mKHefnD19VGZir6ORFbzbVUKANLaDs6TV5cf0vkEp36kOYZONcEWNRTPqTFqcWXL4R1oqgwBtjOtaDvo/s1600-h/82120511.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5394393499600598754" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 300px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjgdDqu7MT0w7fh9PLtZUR4nuqS4e2jVo_LBDXAXNRtQ7dy5dolQPRtGbei_nI5mKHefnD19VGZir6ORFbzbVUKANLaDs6TV5cf0vkEp36kOYZONcEWNRTPqTFqcWXL4R1oqgwBtjOtaDvo/s400/82120511.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="color:#3366ff;"><strong>"Psss... "White men don't want you-so you might as well stay!"<br /></strong><br /><strong>"You need bm, you know it..."</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>"Give a brotha a chance, he'll get it together one day...."</strong><br /></span><br /><p><strong><span style="color:#3366ff;">"Oh, so you gonna sleep with the slave master!-the ones who raped your grandmother!"</span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">Covert Nefarious Delusion- in action.....</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>I remember watching a real life-type program on TV a while ago (true story type) . There was a handsome white father who had divorced his wife, (also white) and was living alone. The wife took their young teen aged child, and moved to start a new life. The father was reduced to seeing his child a few times a year. When the child was 16 she decided she would like to live with her father. He was estastic. He had a business, and nice home, and new girl friend, but they happily set up a room for her, and went to the airport to meet her. The girl came off the plane, and flung herself into his arms. She was dark haired and quite pretty. She in fact, looked alot like him. He and his gf made her feel at home, and welcomed her happily into their lives. He enrolled her in school, and she settled in-seemingly happy. A year later, the teacher in chemistry was giving a lesson on a very dangerous substance, and was telling the class how if ingested, this particular substance would be fatal-and very difficult to identify in the body, as it mimicked a heart attack. The girl listened with rapt attention. Later, for seemingly no reason, she grabbed a paper towel and stole some of the substance..... </strong></span></p><p><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>About a week later she made a Mexican dish for her father and his gf. The family was happily eating, and talking, when the father became violently ill. The gf panicked and called 911, but by the time they arrived the father had what looked like a heart attack, and was DOA. The gf was inconsolable with the daughter seen crying next to her except when they panned in on her face, it was obvious there were no tears! Simply a blank, dead look. Shortly after wards she went to with her grandparents (her mother had remarried, and refused to take her) she bragged to her friend, that she had killed her father because she wanted to go live with her mother! Her friend soon told on her. The body was excavated, re-autopsied, and she was subsequently arrested. But the most important thing is; when the judge asked her how she could murder the man who loved, take care of, and raised her most of her life. She just gave him a cold, insidious smile, and shrugged! Killing her father meant absolutely nothing to her!-it was like he didn't even matter. The psychiatrist told the police (who also wanted to know) she was a sociopath. she had no empathy for others. Her only role in life is to get what she wanted, and that she saw ppl as objects for her use, and enjoyment. However, the minute the 'object' got in the way, she would simply eliminate it...</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>I remember being shocked and horrified at the actions of this girl. Her father was so kind and good to her, I could not understand how she could treat him this way. How she could take his life when all she had to do was leave! And the mother, she was murdering him- to get to, did not even want her! She was a cold blooded murderer, but on the outside, she was a young pretty dark haired teenager. This is what made her all the more deadly. Her looks helped her mask a very dark and evil core. Her father had been deceived by her very covert, nefarious delusion. She pretended to love him, and the moment his back was turned she had poisoned him to death, -and felt </strong><strong>absolutely NO REMORSE.... </strong><br /><strong></strong><br /></span><strong><span style="color:#333333;">And this is exactly what happening to many bw in America right now. So many of you are looking into the faces of men you see everyday, and thinking they care about you while you are being slowly poisoned! And it's every bit as deadly as the substance the evil girl used on her unsuspecting father. It just works more slowly, and methodically. Every day, bw are made to feel low, unloved, useless, hated, and unattractive. Then they are blamed for feeling this way, and made to feel as if they are imagining it, or brought it on themselves..</span>. </strong></p><p><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>For instance, if any of you have ever checked out the things said about Whoppi, let me enlighten you. They are saying things like this:</strong><br /></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#990000;">"She's so black and ugly -why doesn't she kill herself?"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#990000;">"Who would want that ugly-black thing?"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#990000;">"Man, she looks like a monster!" </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#990000;">"Ugly ass B**** she should slit her own wrists, to save our eyes!"<br /></span><span style="color:#3333ff;">Then they have a nerve to turn around and become enraged because she only dates wm! Saying that she should bring that money back to the blk community! (Can you blame Whoopi for running?....They've all got their arms extended, offering flasks of poison, and are livid because she won't sit still, and drink!</span></strong><span style="color:#3333ff;"><br /><strong></strong><br /></span><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Let me give you some examples of this poison being used against ordinary bw everyday:<br /></span><span style="color:#660000;">Young Berg: " I don't do dark butts!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">Neyo: " All the prettiest kids are mixed!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">Westley Snipes " "Black women got too much attitude, that's why I don't date them..</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">Ice Tea: "I don't give a damn what bw think-they're just jealous of my wife!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">DL Hugley " They was some ugly ass women!" (referring to Rutgers girl's team)</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">Clarence Thomas " I would never touch her, (hill) She's too damn dark!" </span></strong><strong><span style="color:#660000;">(he's darker than her) </span></strong><strong><span style="color:#660000;">Wilt Chamberlain: "I can't date black women-they don't even know which fork to use!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">Damon Wayons: " Imus was right-I have no issue with him calling them nappy headed hos!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;">DJ Barnes: Originator of the light skin party......</span></strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>Yet bm insist that bw are lying when bw call them color-struck and accuse them of being intra-racists.... And this can go on and on and on... </strong><br /><strong>Bw wake up! You are being systematically poisoned by degrees in covert fashion, everyday. The longer you engage in magical thinking the more viable and immediate, the danger becomes. The most significant reason you have not reconciled the danger, is because the ones administering the poisoning, ARE CALLED BROTHERS! This is no accident. This is systematic mind programming. (Covert Nefarious Delusion) These ppl have designed this pernicious program to capture a bw's mind, and turn her into a slave for the bc, in whatever purpose is deemed most necessary, at any given time. The trick is to make her feel so lowly and undesired, that she is quite vulnerable, and hungry for ANY type of attention. When this task is completed, she won't dare utter the word marriage, she will bet too afraid of offending her mind captors. Besides, by that time she will know that she is garbage, and they will no longer have to remind her on a daily basis. She will happily comply with fatherless children, being used for money, sex, her home, her laundry skills, her cooking skills, her connections etc. This begins with causing her to think all bm are her brothers. They are NOT your brothers, so stop using that expression. That in and of itself lowers your defenses, and leaves you open to attack. What you are experiencing at the hands of these men is nothing short of spiritual - homicide. And any fool knows that once the spirit dies, the body follows suit!! This is warfare for your sanity. This is not just a few innocent remarks. These 'remarks' are leading to all sorts of malfeasance being committed against bw.</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong>The remarks are ONLY the beginning! Black women are not being allowed to walk the streets in peace, or live in peace. They are being bombarded all the time, with disparaging remarks, insults, that grow more deadly, and acts of violence that grow more malicious all the time. Bw are living and dying (sometimes by suicide) because of these 'innocent remarks, and the accompanying actions of 'brothers' everyday! Yet many bw cannot for the life of them, figure out why they are constantly depressed, on edge, or eating to the point of oblivion. They are being told that a few innocent words mean nothing. they are over-reacting. They are acting 'white'. (expecting bm to treat them in a decent manner.)This is why bw are constantly told they are imagining things COVERT NEFARIOUS DELUSION- this causes her to question her own mind, and her own sanity. She begins to think: 'But if everyone thinks nothings wrong-then I must be complaining about nothing!" Even though her heart (and often her body-via- pain) is telling her everything is NOT all right. She sips minute amounts of the poison daily and dies by degrees. Learn to recognize poison for what it is, and remove yourself from it's source. The reason so many bw are walking zombies of pain now is because half the folks in the black enclaves are screaming: "Black women are fat, loud, ugly, no good, baby mommas etc.... </strong><br /><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#990000;"><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>Bw are constantly attacked emotionally, spiritually and even physically. Yet she is the least likely to be protected and aided, should she fall. Now ask yourself- what do other blacks say when bw are attacked? Listen to how her feelings are disregarded, and brushed away...</strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#660000;"></span></strong></span></span><br /><br /><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>"Just ignore it" "It don't mean nuthin"</strong><br /><strong>"You're too sensitive""We just need to show that brother some love that's all"</strong><br /><strong>"If the white man wasn't hurtin him so bad-he wouldn't hurt you"</strong><br /><strong>"You tryin to claim he raped you! -Oh, so you tryin to lock another brother up-right!"</strong><br /><strong>"So he squeezed your butt!-You shouldn't been wearin those tight pants!"</strong><br /><strong>"He threw that rock at you cause you thought you was too good to speak!"</strong><br /></span><span style="color:#990000;"><strong>"You a sista-you should understand what a brotha goes through!" etc etc etc.....<br /></strong><br /></span><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>The whole black construct seems predicated on using bw, and convincing them that they are not seeing and hearing what they think they are seeing and hearing. You are hearing them right! You are seeing them right! </strong></span><br /><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>When you walk by, and you see the evil glare in their eyes, you are NOT imagining it. When you see their lips curl, and their eyes squint with malice, you are not imagining it!</strong><br /><strong></strong><br /></span><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>I remember someone talking about being on a bus, and pulling up to a stop. She said she watched as a bm attacked a bw in full view of everyone at the stop and on the bus. He was punching and calling her B**** as he beat her senseless in front of her two screaming, crying children. The little girls were screaming in fear, while a dozen bm stood by, some of them laughing!!! This woman was being beaten to death in front of these animals, and not one of them intervened, and some of them laughed!!! Bw-you MUST GET OUT!!</strong><br /><br /></span><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>As I remember it, the bus driver (a wm) had to leave the bus and scare this fool away. While her so-called 'brothers' stood there! That's why I say those words are designed to confuse, and dis empower you. These men are NOT your brothers-they never have been, and they never will be! And even though they are trying to pull a CND on you, (Covert Nefarious Delusion) you can get away if you move fast. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>I will give you another example of what I'm talking about. In one of the mixed schools I went to, I was accosted one day by several black guys because they didn't like the fact, that I was dating a wb. (although many of them had w-gfs) When they asked me why I was messing with a 'white devil' I responded 'None of your damn business! " They didn't like my answer. "Well since you like white d--k," one snarled. "You'll like the real thing alot better!" They grabbed me (we were on the outside of the school,) and pretended to be 'playing' as they tried to 'feel me up' while I kicked, punched, and screamed. An officer who was nearby, ran over, and immediately, they released me. The whole thing lasted about 5 minutes, but I was hysterical and crying. He knelt down, and gently pulled me back up- asking me what happened. They immediately began to chuckle, saying "Girl, you know we was just playin wit you" and "Don't make a big deal, and get a brotha in trouble over nuthin now" The officer told them to shut up, and I went inside with him to make a report. Ms Getty, A bw in the main office convinced me to drop the charges saying a good bg would never send young brothers to jail or get them suspended. She made them apologize the next day, and they snickered as they did so.... </strong><br /><strong></strong><br /></span><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Several years later, two of these same 4 boys (men) are in jail for raping and murdering several black women! Recognize CND for what it is. Don't let the wool be pulled over your eyes-it's too dangerous to be blind in this world. These jerks who had attacked me actually tried to 'pretend' it was a game, even though I was crying hysterically! I see this everyday. Bw being hurt in the worst ways, while everyone tries to tell her she's imagining things. Bw wake up to the fact that some ppl have NO CONSCIOUS. Stop thinking because YOU could not knowingly hurt someone, that they could not knowingly hurt you. One has nothing to do with the other. While bw are being hurt, insulted, used, maltreated, abused, and sometimes killed, other bp will still be insisting that you that you are over-reacting! You provoked it. They didn't mean to kill you blah, blah, blah....</span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Refuse to be misled, and guided down the path of spiritual suicide, or acquiescence. They are attempting to engage in Covert Nefarious Delusion, and you are the pigeon. It does not matter if they are male of female, black or white. Anyone who tells you the blk enclaves are not death traps, and that most bm are not trying to harm you emotionally or physically, is either lying to themselves or knowingly lying to you. Ether way-get away from them. Some bw have been treated so badly, that their critical analyzing faculties, are short circuiting from the numerous lies and distortions they've swallowed. Some to the degree, that they can no longer trust their own reasoning skills anymore, because they've become so mangled by misuse and distortions. These women are likely to be horribly confused and vulnerable. Some of these vulnerable weaker souls, will be turned into sycophantic minions and be used to go out and gather more fools to come into the bc. The new fools will be groomed and readied for sacrifice...... This is why you have some bw who will actively go out and bring other bw into the hellholes to be harmed. This is usually done by friendship (false) intimidation, lies, pressure, or even fear if necessary. Whatever it takes, these bm-identified pathetic souls-will bring in new victims...<br /><br /></span></strong><strong></strong><span style="color:#3333ff;"><strong>Here are some of the primary ways ppl will try to brainwash bw into thinking they are imaging things, and that everything is honky-Dory in the bc..... </strong><br /><strong>Do any of the following sound/feel familiar?</strong><br /></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">1. Get a bunch of ppl around you, and keep repeating that you are wrong.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">2. Tell you how crazy it sounds, and try to force you to explain how it makes sense</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">3. Quote well known damaged men, and pretend their words mean something</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">4. Call up ppl in your family or theirs who will back them up</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">5. Tell others so they can all laugh at your ridiculous assertions</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">6. Tell other bm/bw so they can look at you like you've lost it</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">7. Talk about black love, and how we need to support each other</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">8. Send you articles, and emails that supposedly ' prove' bw are back stabbing bm</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">9. Talk non-stop about how bw don't support bm anymore</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">10. Talk about how horribly bad bm have it, and how bw are now turning their backs and running off with wm</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">11. How 'good' bw would NEVER do to bm what today's bw are doing.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">12. How only 'whorish' bw would ever consider dating white....</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">13. "Bw should raise bb better, then they wouldn't be filling the jails!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">14. "Bw ain't standing behind bm, that's why bm is leaving them for white girls"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">15. "If bw had they sh-- together, they wouldn't be all alone"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">16. "If bw would stop thinking they better than bm, they wouldn't have a 70% single rate!"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">17. "Bw won't let bm be fathers, that's why bm don't take care of their kids"</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">18. If bw didn't wear so many hair weaves, and act so fake-bm wouldn't have left .....</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">19. If bw weren't so fat,mean, uppity,etc... then bm wouldn't have left them....</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">20. We just need to come together and love our brothers-then they'll change/come back etc...</span></strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><span style="color:#333333;"><strong>And on and on ad nauseum. The point is, that this is Covert Nefarious Delusion at it's finest. These words and many others are used to convince, persuade, and corrupt bw's minds to think that everything in the bc is their faults, and their responsibility to fix. These ppl and their enablers know that once you control the mind, the body will surely follow. This is why they are in such a rush to convince bw that they're bad, mean, lazy, ugly, fat, too ambitious, uppity, heartless and most of all UNWANTED BY ANYONE ELSE! Because once the mind is sufficiently demeaned, and dulled by pain, and repetition. These women will become like living zombies. Malleable, and easily controlled (used) for their whims. Never doubt for a moment that there is a war for your mind. It is up to you to exercise and use your critical thinking abilities along with your intuition. These are inherent weapons given to you by nature to aid in your survival. But if you abrogate these precious gifts, then the effect is the same as not having them.... </strong><br /><strong></strong><br /></span><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Start NOW! 60-day action plan to escape!</span> </strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Start stashing money now. Every chance you get, put those dollars away. Don't tell anyone. the bible says "Go, and tell no man" this is reference to a get away. Act like you believe all the bs the bc is putting down. </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Nod your head with the other cartoon characters and say: "um... hmm girl, you are right-sistas need to stop stabbing good brothers in the back!" </span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Make a power fist to the bm walking by with the white girl on his arm, like you believe his bull. Pretend you don't notice that he's giving his name, his money, his time, his progeny, his home, vehicles, and possessions to the wg. while handing out 'black literature' about how terrible the 'man' is, and how he's keeping the bm down...</span></strong></p><p><strong><span style="color:#333333;">Then, instead of going to church 5 days a week, cut back and go spend some time in a much nicer, and culturally diverse area. Really soak up the feel of fresh air and clean streets. Come back as often as you can. When you are not there-picture it. What you are doing is creating the scene in your mind so that you can draw it into your life. Along with picturing, you must ACT. Get a membership to a health club in this area, or library card (if you can use someone else's address) spend as much time here as you can, so it becomes a very 'real' part of your life. Then look for employment here, or see if you can transfer on your job. When you land employment in this area, rent a U-haul for a few hundred dollars, and get the hell out of the hellhole known as the bc. Don't even let your children come back to visit-they don't need to see these evil places again...</span></strong></p>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com138tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-81866937659780700572009-10-10T21:29:00.029-05:002009-10-13T10:18:25.795-05:00The Black woman's guide to *social elevation* Part 1.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqPZlFxZ80odE8CYGRtzmdM6xmUPdz2EqZYIWmT8nKbFjswQTB6jrqKtLCI134_vnjTCWRzbY8GpLeted6uYLmHoEiMF7oXBBmeYiIyRdiJEpgbkypIq40j2ycT_fz-v8wSCpg2HRFH9I4/s1600-h/4873899.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5391383269644872866" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 340px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 308px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiqPZlFxZ80odE8CYGRtzmdM6xmUPdz2EqZYIWmT8nKbFjswQTB6jrqKtLCI134_vnjTCWRzbY8GpLeted6uYLmHoEiMF7oXBBmeYiIyRdiJEpgbkypIq40j2ycT_fz-v8wSCpg2HRFH9I4/s400/4873899.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9-0XGxr5S9KJeGMo3651IL5AjtmYTtEHngV0v-2-u0Nppugay1sjzYQG4L3_d10moivtdBhiSgwLuEo1_4ARlk2u6f6bolAIA61GPKN9unvCnx8iLPWOYBz6lEyITuzZ-4bqys2iRj6ui/s1600-h/the+halls.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5391379643162260722" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 400px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 291px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi9-0XGxr5S9KJeGMo3651IL5AjtmYTtEHngV0v-2-u0Nppugay1sjzYQG4L3_d10moivtdBhiSgwLuEo1_4ARlk2u6f6bolAIA61GPKN9unvCnx8iLPWOYBz6lEyITuzZ-4bqys2iRj6ui/s400/the+halls.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgnfhhlqu3nWojU1CRqAcC7CnN_akIJm1uZJQvY20mAMeyOQX3i6w4a3EUPwKjHQnREeJtX4-pe3kEgqdyiJ-_UV2kCY22kBOS235yuYisId4zzXcJSID88HA1USOGltugindi2FJecj4oC/s1600-h/mel+and+george+at.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5391378987924284994" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 376px; CURSOR: hand; HEIGHT: 400px" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgnfhhlqu3nWojU1CRqAcC7CnN_akIJm1uZJQvY20mAMeyOQX3i6w4a3EUPwKjHQnREeJtX4-pe3kEgqdyiJ-_UV2kCY22kBOS235yuYisId4zzXcJSID88HA1USOGltugindi2FJecj4oC/s400/mel+and+george+at.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><br /></div><br /><div></div><br /><div></div>------------------------------------- --------------------------<br /><div></div><div></div><div>Black women are getting degrees at 3x the rate of bm. They are buying houses, starting businesses, as well as seeking mates in the upper echelons of society. </div><br /><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div></div><div>Lets examine other areas in which we can expedite and exploit other avenues of social mobilization available to us....</div><br /><div>These are small but profound steps up the ladder of social dominance.... </div><div><br /><span style="color:#ff0000;"><strong>Intelligent, upwardly mobile bw+ powerful well connected wm= SOCIAL DOMINANCE! </strong></span><br /></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;">This lesson on social elevation is geared toward all the women who want more than to escape the black enclaves. If you are such a woman, and you want to engage, mate, and marry into the highest tiers of society- pay careful attention to the following advice.Many women think social mobility = a college degree, but this is just a minuscule segment of social climbing. You can go so much higher. This is entirely possible with adequate instruction, and ongoing support. Black women, in fact, MUST be socialized, and taught to reach the highest pinnacles of their respective fields, and become bastions of high society. Why? Because there are innumerable benefits that avail themselves to participants, for each ascending tier one reaches in life. Beginning with, but not limited to: </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;"></span></strong><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">1. Access to the best Institutions of higher learning available</span></span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;"><span style="color:#009900;">along with the accompanying respect,long term prospects, career boosting criteria, and critical thinking skills, these institutions are able to afford to one's life. The ability to offer one's progeny or offspring the best education</span> money can buy.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">2.</span> <span style="color:#cc0000;">Status and clout-over generations...</span> </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;">These intangibles can open doors not just for oneself, but for one's future generations, thereby being able to effect, influence, and 'exert' aid to one's offspring long after you have departed this life. Surely, you've all heard many wealthy ppl say things such as: "Yes, well our grandfather started that company when he was just a poor immigrant many years ago, and our family has kept it going for over 50 years...." </span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">3.</span> <span style="color:#cc0000;">Having a database of contacts and connections</span> </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;">These are the type of connections that ppl in the lower tiers can only dream of. The truth is contacts =contracts! Many of the most successful, and well connected people in the world have been carefully mentored and 'guided' to the top.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">4.Sophistication, Savvy, and social conditioning indigent to the long-term wealthy</span> </span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;">The class savvy, confidence, and savour fair that comes from being well-traveled, and able to move among differing types of people with poise and comfort. The social graces, that scream class and decorum before one opens one's mouth. It becomes almost tangible with time, and enables one's to be treated with a higher degree of respect and deferment.</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;"><span style="color:#009900;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">5.Ease and comfort with wealth, and privilege</span></span></span></strong></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;"><span style="color:#009900;">The ability to be relaxed, unstressed, and comfortable with large amounts of wealth, and the ability (that is wealth 101 for many rich) to make wealth grow and to use wealth as the preamble to greater wealth and not to squander 15,000 on a pair of ridiculously ostentatious rims!!! No cultured, eloquent, sophisticated upper crust person would do this ever! Even a middle class person lacking extenuating resources, but having a modicum of common sense, would not engage in such foolishness.</span> </span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="color:#009900;"><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">6.</span> <span style="color:#cc0000;">Class and comfort-of course.</span> </strong></span></div><div><span style="color:#009900;"><strong>One of the primary goals of social climbing is so that one can have a life of leisure, as well as one of contribution. Being able to contribute to one's community, church, schools, etc is quite soul-as well as ego-fulfilling. Yet, being able to raise one's children in relative comfort, in a luxurious, pampered, and unstressed environment is the most profound, and desirable element of all. We all want to give our children better. Social climbing in a highly concentrated, and substantive manner, allows us to exceed the minor goal of giving our children better-we can give them the best!!</strong> </span></div><div><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;">It is extremely imperative for bw to be socially mobile, much more so than others, lest they be inadvertently shuffled to the bottom. Too many of you ladies see wealth as unattainable, and beyond the scope of your grasp. In an age where black women are marrying Princes (Prince Maximilian and Angela Brown), Counts (Count Ferdinand, and wife Mary) or simply setting their sights on mega rich celebrities/and or businessmen (Wolfgang Puck, Boris Becker, Luc Bessom, Peter Norton, etc. This could not be further from the truth! The truth is that anyone who undertakes serious work, dedication and diurnal conditioning, can position themselves to reach higher echelons. Even if you never reach the moon, you can certainly reach the stars, and be much higher than you originally started on your journey. Many black women in this day and age are beginning to understand this theory inherently. This is why more and more black women are severely limiting this time in black enclaves, and amongst those with an internally impoverished mindset. More and more bw are grabbing at the chances availing themselves to partake in gifts of social mobility, and betterment. More women seem to intrinsically understand that life is NEVER stagnant, either you are growing or heading for your imminent demise. </span></strong></div></div><div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">How the black man -dynamic comes into play....</span></strong><br /></div><div><strong><span style="color:#009900;">This is why many bm will try to grab onto the skirts of the mobile bw. You will see this dynamic play out again and again as a soon to be, college graduate gets pregnant by some around -the- way, LOSER. The loser set his sights on her from the start. He could have just as easily gone after a woman on his level, who had no aspirations of betterment, but he CHOSE to go after the aspiring woman and stagnate her progress. This selfish act serves a dual purpose. Most bm know (even if they won't admit it) that they are slowly becoming extinct. They must latch onto a host body (like any parasite) in order to survive. They have no plans in play for their own survival (as any reasonable man would) so they use bw as a lifeline. As more and more bw try to 'shake them off,' and move on to better lives. They grow more resentful- angry, defiant, and desperate. They cannot allow her to discard them! Their lives are intrinsically bound to her, for she has the majority of the wealth, education, businesses, houses, contacts, and other resources they need in order to survive. This is why they would rather she be annihilated than happily cavorting off into the sunset with an equally mobile white man. And this is why they go after the up and coming college student instead of shenaynay. It serves a dual purpose, if she is able to navigate the treacherous landscape of academic study and coursework, she'll become an asset which can be used at their disposal, for discretionary income, social connection/contacts, sexual gratification etc. If she is able to prosper despite the 200 lb weight hanging off her neck, than they can coast along on her back and vicariously 'achieve' and live the good life. But if she falters, stumbles, and is unable to remain upright, then they can easily eject themselves from her back to her head and 'stomp' her further into the ground. This in effect, vastly increases the likelihood of her never getting up. The parasite has now done his job, and can now jump off, and look for fresh prey. Either way this is soul satisfying for him, because her ambition is a constant irritant to him, since it amplifies the lack of his own. If you think I'm lying about this, take note of the alarming amount of young bw college students dumped by their predator -boyfriends, shortly after becoming pregnant, and having their academic careers derailed. This is parasitic behavior in action. Did you think it was a mere coincidence, that all these once-promising career women have been mysteriously turned into struggling baby-mama's, and that now they are, (gasp!) all alone? </span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#ff0000;">Black women if you wish to be socially mobile (and you should) -your first order of the day is to avoid lower tiered men like the plague!!! ESPECIALLY IN THE BLK ENCLAVES!!!</span></strong></div><div></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;">I'm aware this may sound harsh, but it is EXTREMELY difficult to make it up a hill with a 200 lb weight around your neck!</span></strong></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;">------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------</span></strong></div><div></div><div><strong><span style="color:#330099;">This lesson begins a series of instructions, and mentoring for bw who want, need, or must socially elevate their lives. These posts will be stuck in under regular posts for those who need them. Many bw do not understand many concepts in life which if understood, could serve to add to, and better their lives in countless ways. There are so many misconceptions about class and status and betterment, that I really feel the need to clear some ambiguous theories up. First of all, bw need to understand that if you want to move up-you MUST encounter, engage with, and accompany those who are already up! In other words, drastically limit your time with losers if you are trying to be a winner. And certainly limit your time with the perpetually indigent if you are trying to be rich! I was reading another BWE blogger the other day (no one from sidebar) and while I was blown away by her level of critical thinking, and analysis, (as well as the fact that she's an incredible writer) I was put off by her myopic views concerning Upper class individuals. She's obviously under the impression that the upper class is a closed back room in which very few individuals , regardless of personal resources, ie wealth, education, upbringing, etc, can enter. She insinuated that the comment calling Michelle Obama a ghetto girl- because she grew up in a working class environment- had merit. She did not explicitly state this, but I (strongly) inferred this from the text of her words. I would like to discuss why I feel that this label is 100% erroneous, and why (in many circles) the first lady would most certainly qualify as a member of the upper crust. First of all the first lady exudes class from her pores, second she is extremely intelligent, well spoken, and sagacious. Although, I do understand that these qualities are irrelevant to a certain segment of upper class elitists, but what this author, as well as others, fail to understand is that there are diverging tides of upper class. I feel that most highly leveraged thinkers can discern that ghetto people ( I hate this term) and hard working, under-class people are two very different demographics. I would also go so far as to add that poor and ghetto are not mutually exclusive. There are many good, decent people who lack monetary resources. Just as there are people who are extremely financially solvent, yet are completely morally bankrupt! I'm sure the very wealthy would agree, but lets talk about the issues that are far more substantive. </span></strong><br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">Pay attention ladies, because these lessons will be essential if you intend to move up into the higher echelons of society, or look for a mate in these privileged quarters. First of all know that there are about 14 layers of class, not 2 or 3. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">I will start with the first 4.</span></strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">1. Wealth</span> </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;">-Now this is subjective, but usually starts with around a quarter of a million dollars and up. Wealth is NOT interchangeable with class-it is merely one level of class. This is why most wealthy celebrities would still NOT be considered upper class. </span></strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;"><span style="color:#cc0000;">2. Lineage -think LINE through TIME.</span> </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;">When you hear the UCL's talk about lineage they are usually referring to the family line of money, and or status. How long has your family had money? Old money usually refers to money in the family for at least 100 years! This is why many of the UCL's who toot their nose at the nuveau riche are not as upper class as they think they are! Many of the black elite have money only 2-3 generations deep. Now perhaps my math is off, but doesn't a generation = 20 years? This means that many of the ppl tooting up their noses at other bp, would have legitimate 'old money' tooting up their noses at them! Also, if you have no money in this generation yet you are related to royalty-then you still have a degree of lineage ( this is referred to as: reflected glory) </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;">The only way to get lineage if you don't have it is to marry it, or be adopted into a lineage family. This is why Elton John paid a member of a royal family to adopt him (although he was already grown) so that he would have access to the lineage of this family, as well as being able to take the title of Sir Elton John!</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">3. Memberships</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;">Memberships can be quite exclusive, as I'm sure you've all noticed. The exclusivity of memberships serve a dual purpose. One, it avails people of similar educational, community standing, and/or monetarily leveraged backgrounds to band together. It enables them to make, benefit from, and enjoy the intimate connections with like mannered, similarly bred, and often class-conscious individuals. These connections will serve them through life, and benefit not only them, but undoubtedly their offspring as well. And two, it restricts the access of less resourced, and lower tiered, individuals from being able to ingratiate themselves into these exclusive domains. Some memberships will be closed to you eternally unless you have a family member who has/had a membership. Some will be closed by the very nature of their exclusivity, or because you must be sponsored by a certain number of the other members. Yet surprisingly, many of these clubs are not as exclusive as most people think they are IF you make friends with well connected individuals, and/or have other similar lines of class, breeding, educational, or community standing (regardless of reason) and are accepted in. ..</span></strong><br /><strong></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#cc0000;">4. Education</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;">The last one we'll cover today is the layer of education. Whether you went to college on an academic scholarship, or your family paid is irrelevant in this instance. Academic achievement very highly regarded, respected, and rewarded in the high class community. It is so coveted, in fact, in the upper echelons of society, that it ranks higher than money in most cases! This is why there was such an uproar when Ms Obama was singled out as first a baby mama, and later on as a ghetto girl. The intelligentsia intrinsically understand that anyone who graduates at the top of an Ivy league Institution can NEVER be regarded as a mere 'ghetto girl' regardless of her humble origins! Black women if you intend to find quarry (mates) from the upper echelons of society-please be sure to include liberal arts in your educational curriculum. This will give you a decided advantage over other women (who are not in the know) , as liberal arts stresses understanding of many requisite subjects, with an emphasize on the humanities. Many wealthy individuals see Liberal Arts as a requisite-for their children's educational development! Get yourself into the highest institutions you can possibly manage because the connections alone with the most elite of society, can often 'set you up' for life! Few public schools have the clout and connections of the premier, elite, and more private Ivy League schools. (Beverly hills Public School -is a definite exception) It's important to remember that if you have several layers of class, a conspicuously absent one will often not necessarily deter you from reaching the highest echelons of society. Think about Princess Di. Although she was enshrined in lineage, money, connections, and social savoir faire, she lacked a degree from a prominent institution (or even a community college). Yet, you'll notice with interest, that she had so many other salient lines of class, that this fact was nonchalantly disregarded, and never hindered her social standing...</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330099;">Now we will subsequently delve into the next 4 at a latter date, but I also wanted to let you ladies know that just as there are layers of class, there are layers of wealth. All rich are NOT born of the same vein. Wealth and class are NOT mutually exclusive! This is why (very rich) Paris Hilton was referred to as 'white trash' by the family of her ex-boyfriend, who's name was also Paris. Because she lacked so many of the other layers, (as well as being indifferent to class-etiquette) she was ill regarded in the mega-rich community, and considered quite common! This is also why in most high class circles, Mrs. Obama would rate exceedingly high! Her educational achievements, combined with her imperious social decorum's, combined with her standing as the first lady would by far outweigh her working man's origins, and jettison her to the top of the social tier. Just as Princess Di's other layers outweighed her lack of scholastic achievement.</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">For all you social climbing little butterflies, join us next post. The lesson will be posted right under the post. We'll resume with 4 more tiers of wealth, and how to attract men from the higher echelons of wealth. </span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#006600;">thanks for tuning in-see you soon</span></strong></div></div></div>Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.com162