I'm sure that many of you have noticed that there appears to be more and more white men loving, supporting and providing for
black children. Often, even when they are not biologically theirs! The fact is, it appears that sistas have finally gotten the memo. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT COLOR THE MAN IS, A GOOD FATHER IS A GOOD FATHER! I'm happy to see that you ladies are finally waking up! The truth is that you and your children deserve a good husband and father just like other women do. It seems that in the BC, bw are often made to feel ashamed for wanting basic things that almost all women want. Like a good husband, and father for her children! Ladies this is basic female instinct 101. Nature has designed the woman to want a good mate to help with children, responsibilities, and just general life issues. Don't ever feel ashamed for wanting what you have a basic right to have. And don't let other women tell you, you don't have a right to look at wm. The truth of the matter is that given half a chance, those women who claim they would never.... are lying, they are just scared of what people would say. They also do not for one minute, want you to have a good father for your children, if they don't have one for theirs. Ladies, I think we all know by now that many (not all) bm are NOT interested in giving love and support to their children. Many are not interested in providing for said children, and many are not interested in even KNOWING their children! I know it's hard to fathom that so many bm could actually just walk away from their own precious children. But we see it everyday. We all know they do. All of us see on a constant basis, fearful, stressed out, lonely, desperate and depressed bw. We see them trying to be the sole financial, and emotional support for their children. We often see them no help whatsoever from the bm who impregnated them. I'm glad to see more and more sistas starting to realize that they don't have to go this path alone. Life was not meant to be lived alone. Whoever you are, there are good wm out there who would love you and your children and ease some of that onerous burdens that many of you sistas are carrying alone. The truth is that almost all children want a loving father. And no child deserves to be abandoned, neglected and left to fend for him or herself in this callous world. And it doe's not have to happen. Now am I saying all wm are good fathers? Absolutely not! There are bad wm fathers out there, you all know that. But because of the sheer number of wm in this world, as well as a more family oriented mindset during the formative years. Many wm are much better suited to the task of fatherhood, and all it encompasses. Also, because of their sheer numbers, it makes it so much easier to find the good ones. (And they are plentiful) I'm glad to see more and more wm fathers with their little black babies out at the stores and such. It's such a refreshing sight. Usually when I see this, the children are smiling happily and so is the mother. The daddies often look like they are going to burst with pride. As more and more sistas open their heart to love irregardless of color, scenes such as this will become commonplace. Please remember that your child does not care what color his/her father is. Your child just wants a loving father, and too many children are being deprived of this right. I was reading an article in a magazine one day. Several bm were being interviewed by a reporter. She wanted to know how many of them had children they had not seen in a while, and what prevented them from marrying the mothers of their children. Turned out, of all the fathers, only 1 of the 10 was in his child's lives! And only 2 of the 10 paid child support! Some of the men actually got angry that she would have the audacity to ask such a question! Ladies doe's this sound like a winnable hand to you? As one man told her (he was the one who was paying) " Just because I make good money, and drive a nice car, does that mean she should expect me to commit my whole life! I already pay over 200.00 a month in child support! " Now keep in mind that he had 3 children! And he thought he was doing something. Of the others, 8 of the 10 were not paying any child support at all, and were lax and evasive about when they planned to start paying. One even told her, BW make their own bed. They lay up with anybody and get pregnant so them them take care of their own kids! (like they had nothing to do with it!) All I can say is thank God sistas are moving on, and giving wm a chance to be the new face of fatherhood for more and more black children!