This is a new book by Veronica Blakely (to the left) This is the reason why so many bw cannot find good (other) men. They have not pulled their eyes away from misogynistic, women- using bm.....
All you ladies out there wishing brothras would come back home, take that nightmare and shove it on other women! The last thing most bw need is for bm to come back! And yet here we have another silly lady begging them to do just that.
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It really steams me when another one of these silly, useless, Brotha-come-back-home books come out. And it seems they always get alot of press and attention, making the problem even more prevalent. The truth is the last thing most bw need is a bm! Most bm are as good to bw as a hole in the head. Not that there are not some good ones, but even most of the good ones are Not looking at bw are wife material. Most are using bw for money, sex, shelter, or other benefits. With no benefits for her except pain and frustration. Most bw involved with bm are NOT in relationships. They are in Userships. And are being used on a regular basis, for whatever the man needs or can get.....
It is utterly ridiculous to write a book that expands the already over-indulged ego of these men-boys in an effort to show them you are in their corner. Someone who is NOT in your corner does not give a damn whether you are in theirs or not-can't these women see that? I'm always amazed at the depth of naivety when it comes to these issues. I'm amazed because bm make it very very obvious how they really feel when they disrespect bw through song. When they harass, main, rape and kill bw on a regular basis, and when they use bw for baby holders while wifing other women with abandon. And still silly little foolish women refuse to believe their lying eyes and choose instead to believe the constant lies these men feed them. Sad......
Ladies when books like these are written the only thing that changes is the egos in most bm grow larger and larger. They know these silly women are out there begging for their time and attention, and that she will foot bills, and make herself available sexually and otherwise to gain mere scraps of attention from him. They are the reason most bm are so under motivated, and lagging so far behind other men as it is. They are a primary reason the average bm will have nothing to brag about in his lifetime, other than his sexual prowess! -which is soooooo overrated-it's almost a joke.
I know someone quite close to me who wanted to marry her child's father desperately. He was not interested (for years) until she suddenly got a good job with the state. All the sudden he was more than ready to get married and could not wait to get her down the isle. Now seven years later. She foots 90% of the bills in the house. He is on HER medical insurance/dental. She takes care of the kids, has to rush home and clean, cook, and run everyone everywhere they need to go. She is hurried, stressed, overworked, and miserable. She confessed to me that she no longer even enjoys the sex because he wants it's constantly whether she's in the mood or not, and wants her to do "things" to "keep a brotha happy!"
Her life is a living hell now. She has no time for herself. They have 3 children and all of their care is on her. She is constantly working, and trying to take care of everyone, is forced to have sex an average of twice a night with only 6 hours to sleep, and has to pay almost all the bills! In seven years this beautiful woman has gone from a dark luminescent beauty to looking like someone run over by a truck! This is why I say be careful what you wish for....
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Only a fool wants someone who does not want them! Bm have made their feelings clear. And yet you have silly women like these begging them to reconsider, begging for time and understanding! How stupid! That's like someone smacking you down, and you jump up crying
" But baby I love you, and you love me-I know you didn't mean to hit me!"
IF he hit you then he meant to hit you! And only a fool wants that kind of dysfunction perpetrating as love. Bw must wake up! Why the hell would ANYONE want bm back? Think about it. Were they ever a great asset? Maybe once upon a time they took care of their children but look at them now! Over 80% of blk babies are being born out of wedlock (with over 90% left on the mother) and most of those women are struggling mightily to bring them up on their own. Most of those fathers are gone and don't even bother to look back-it that man behavior? I can't think of why in the world anyone would want these men back! But maybe I'm missing something... like the joy of being a baby momma, paying bills alone... having someone use me for my body, my money, my nice house-Gee what could I be thinking.......
