Don't let hidden falsehoods keep you from a fantastic husband, and father for your babies....
Alot more sistas are dating/mating out, but alot still are clinging to a bygone past. And worried about how a wm will fit into her life. Sometimes the reason bw have not stepped off the platform, are hidden, and unspoken.....
Between the blatant disrespect, baby mama drama, WW worship, and man-sharing, I think we sistas have some damn good reasons for dating/marrying out! I just wonder what will happen when these relationships are as common as bm/ww relationships are now? How do you think the world will react when black female-white male marriages explode- and why the sudden increase now?
As you may know. White male/black female marriages have increased 171%!!! Versus the opposite which are increasing at only half that rate. Now yes, there are certainly more bm/ww marriages, but many of them are based on false principals, which is why they often don't last. (such as pissing bw off, trophy status, false myths of ww superior beauty, or bm having super-sized penises)
(psst BM DO NOT HAVE EXTRA LARGE PENISES-THAT IS JUST A MYTH-and has absolutely no basis in reality!!!
Basically we all know they (bm) have therefore proven themselves to be far less likely to succeed, or even try to be good fathers for their children. I read recently that nearly 4/5 of the biracial children in foster care are the children of black fathers and white mothers! Apparently when the man leaves, or no longer wants to be bothered the kids are put in foster care by their mothers who have no intentions of taking on the hardships of raising a black child. I also read the children least likely to be in foster care are the mixed children of white men and Asian women. They also seem to have the longest lasting marriages. What is significant however, is that black women/white men are right behind them on both counts! Their children are the 2nd least likely to be in foster care and their marriages are the 2nd most likely (of mixed marriages) to survive!
There are many, many excellent reasons to marry white men, but the fact that they seem to believe so strongly in marriage is one of my very favorite reasons. That and the fact that for the most part they are very devoted fathers are big pluses for me. Especially knowing how many sistas are trying to raise their children alone. The main obstacle seems to me, to be bw worrying about how bm will react .(And yes, they are often bitter) And worrying that you will have to give up good sex! This is ridiculous, but many bw are worried due to the lies and misrepresentations going around, that wm are not good in bed and that they are abnormally 'small' in that department. Ladies, let me tell you how this works to your advantage. Just think of what ww experience when they fall happily into bed with bm only to learn it was just a myth about the super big size! Not only is she likely to be bitterly disappointed (because she was expecting something totally unrealistic) but he is likely to be upset and self-conscious as well. He knows he cannot measure up to what she's been fantasizing about, and he can not bs his way out of it! Since wm are outpacing BM in the boardroom, the halls of education, and careers, all he has is this tired, antiquated myth to hang his self esteem on. This is why he will fight tooth and nail to keep it going. The truth is, BM are NOT bigger, and certainly not better in bed than WM!! Oops, guess I let the cat out of the bag. The truth is: It's about the person, not the race! But much more than that. I think it's more about how compatible you are with that person, and whether you two click. I decided to get more than just my opinion on this. I've talked to several friends interracially married to white men, to get a fix on this, and they all swear their husbands are great in bed. No, you will not have to give up good sex if you are with a WM!! I don't know where that rumor started, but it's just not true.
However, it will be a bit different because yes, it really is sort of pink, and so the hell what! Tell me something, who cares what color it is, as long as it works? I don't and you shouldn't either. To me that is a non-issue, I just don't give a damn about something so trivial. It's also weird because I don't think I have ever heard bm complain or express concern that the ww was 'pink'- Yet, some of you sistas seem so worried about what color it is!! (lord have mercy!)
Let that silly mess go, and act like adults. After all pink is a very pretty color! ha ha.
Making love is about (or supposed to be about) the giving and exchanging of affection for each other. When did it become a contact sport? Stop allowing it to turned into a graded exercise! If he is good to you, If he provides what you are looking for, if he is a good father to the children, and makes you feel special-then I guarantee you will become 'hot' for him, and the sex will be great!
How can I say this? Because for women, sex starts the minute you two start to interact-not the minute you hit the bedroom. For women it is about her feeling loved, secure, protected, and cherished! These things mean so much more to us than 'how many times he can go' or how big 'it is' or how fast he can make us 'come'. Ladies, I think we all can relate to either you or a friend of yours who was in a relationship with a man who was 'technically good' but not worth a damn. I'm sure you all noticed how after awhile sex was the last thing she wanted from him! You see he was not being good OUT OF BED! And when a man is not good out of bed, it does not make a damn bit of difference how 'so called good' he is in it! Because the woman will be turned off -and unable to enjoy sex with him! Sex starts in the mind!!! Did you hear me? Let me say that again. Sex starts in the mind! All the 'techniques in the world cannot make it good, if she feels used, misunderstood, ignored, hurt, angry, lonely. etc. The best way a man can be a really good lover to a woman is to treat her right out of bed, and treat sex as an expression of love and not a graded exercise!
And this is why WM are usually the best lovers. They are far more selfless and loving in bed. They are usually far more concerned with whether you are pleased, and satisfied.....
So just relax and learn to laugh at the silly little reasons we humans worry about insipid things. The important thing is a good man who loves, honors, and cherishes you. Stop worrying about silly myths and old wives tales. WM can be great lovers, like anyone else. But the more important thing to remember is most of them also make great friends, husbands and daddies!