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Thursday, May 31, 2012


The Train is picking up speed, and more and more bw are jumping on board!!!!




These couples are all newly married in the last 2 and a half years.
Arpil and Ron,  Bill and Dee, Sandra and James, along with  Patra and Andrew. All recently married between January 2010- January 2012                                                                                      


Remember that train I always warned of, well as you can see it has taken off in the last couple of years- just as many of us foresaw that it would! Did you know that in the past couple of years the number of bw/wm marriages have skyrocketed and nearly doubled!!!! Did you know that Bw/Wm marriages are the FASTEST growing of ALL IR MARRIAGES!!!! With Bw/Hm men in second place!
      
Yay!!!! Bw are really waking up and finding the love and compassion they so richly deserve! And the best part of all this is that as more and more bw wake up their family and friend sisters will as well, and stop settling for men who are so far beneath them.- they need a periscope to see them! 

Don't listen to anyone trying to tell you that you are a traitor to the race for dating, mating and marrying out! You are a traitor to yourself if you don't find the very best man you can to love honor and cherish you and the offspring you bring into this world!

You owe it to yourself and your children to bring a great husband/father into your lives. Nothing sets my blood boiling like the lies that are constantly fed to bw in regards to romance and relationships. or should I say in the case of most blk relationships- about-to-be-used-er-ships. Because that is what most blk relationships are or become. Most blk women who are dating or married to bm are dating or married to men whom they should not have allowed to cross their path. You cannot stop a man from looking your way but you can certainly stop it from going any further. This is why you see so many bw living in pure hell now. Because they did not want to be a traitor to their race, so they rejected all the non-bm who looked their way and settled for some high school drop out, hanging on the corner, weed smoking or selling fool who uses her for a maid, meal ticket, and/or sexual toilet!

I know someone now who just graduated from nursing school and is just starting a brand new RN career. She's beautiful, young, and ambitious, yet she is dating and talking about marrying some loser who just got out of jail for drugs! He has absolutely NOTHING to offer her, yet everyone around her is encouraging her to marry him! Now think for a minute why these bp would be encouraging this young lady to marry someone so far beneath her.  I will tell you why. The hospital where she has just begun to work is TEEMING with handsome  young white doctors, many of whom I have seen giving her very appreciative looks. Some have already worked up the nerve to ask her for a date. So the KBWE (keep a bw from escaping) patrol has gone into high gear! They follow her around now, and make sure to remind her that she is "black" and belongs to bm. They wholeheartedly push her at the 'loser' and shut her down quick if she ever complains about him, or expresses reservations. They 'watch her' for the loser and report back to him when wm get to close. They are her supposed 'friends, and family, and she confided to me that she cannot understand why they are doing this. Hmmmm, I certainly can. She is a grat resource. She is a first yr RN slated to make upwards of 65,000! Do you really think they are going to let all that money/prestige simply 'walk' out of the BC? Not on your life! Even her pastor, whom she met with for couples counseling, advised her to "stay and work it out" Lord have mercy! Of course the 'loser' is trying to push her into marriage before she has a chance to come to her senses......Quel domage...(what a shame). If this young lady marries this man, she will join the legions of miserable bw who are now being used for money, sustenance, job title, maid service, sexual services, etc. In a few years if things continue on this course, I predict this yw will be a burned out, used up, sad and defeated replica of herself.  Then the ppl around her now who are encouraging this idiocy will laugh and say " I done tole her dum ass not to marry that fool- he done stuffed the drugs in her purse, now she goin to jail 'stead a him!-she so dam stupid!"

Or it will be something like him getting violent and hurting her, as he has been getting more and more agitated/angry by all the wm MDs  sniffing around her. After all she is HIS meal ticket! He has NO intentions of letting her live on a wm's easy street as a Doctor's wife in the suburbs. He has every intention of keeping her in the hood, 'tending' to him, and paying his bills!
 Scenarios like this happen everyday in the bc, and bw who make the wrong choice will lives of suffering and silence (as will any unfortunate children born into these unions)The suffering will obviously happen at the hands of the loser, but the silence will happen because every time she tries to express her pain, the community (incl fam and friends will shush her and tell her to be glad she has a husband, and that bm are just under tremendous strain cuz the 'man' has his foot on a bm's neck. 'Puleeez!' SMH....

Ladies you MUST take your future in your own hands. NO ONE can live your life for you, or knows better than you what kind of life you are looking for. It is up to you to go get it. Your unborn children are helpless, they cannot choose the kind of father they have, but you can, and you must with great consideration for your happiness and theirs...


12 comments:

Leah said...

I too have noticed this incresase. I think the memo is finally coming thru! Thank God! About time good women stopped being doormats and jumped from the titanic....

diane said...

So glad you're back! Did you hear what lil fool wayne said about his own daughter? These men are soooo sic and twisted! He said she was the last dark child he would ever have and that all his baby mammas wre light. And that he even had a chinese baby mamma to make sure his baby was light with good hair! smh! These knee grows are coonified fools!

BlackWomenDeserveBetter.Com said...

THANKS FOR THIS SARA! I second the pleasure of seeing your return. BWE/BWI bloggers are trying to get this very message across. The woman who denies herself love on the basis on skin-color is only cheating HERSELF!

keasha said...

Hi sara so glad you're back! like your new look too. And you are so right about the young lady attempting to find a good relationship with the drop out. It's an exercize in frutility. He has nothing to offer her. No wonder he's fanatical about keeping the wm doctors away. He knows that she might see what a real man is supposed to be like, and make a hasty get away. The sad thing is so many dark girls feel like they have to put up with this crap. I for one dated only bm for the first 30 yrs, or rather since age 16-30 and it was horrible! they constantly belittled my darkness, my hair, and my self esteem. They always wanted me to pay and then pushed constantly for sex. None of them wanted a long term committment, they just wanted to use and abuse... By the time my wonderful hubby found me I was a traumatize and wounded soul. I honestly believe he saved me. He is not a savior-mind you. He's just a wonderful man, but he loved and nurtured me and made me feel beautiful for the first time. It's so incredible to have someone look at very dark skin like mine and think it's gorgeous! He tells the kids everyday they have the most beautiful mommy in the state, and they love it almost as much as me. Im so happy. I wish all women had a husband like mine. I would not trade his very white self for all those hateful rage filled creatures who socially tortured me for years. Thanks for what you and so many others are doing Sara. I wish I had known yrs ago, what I know now....

Anonymous said...

Happy to hear from you again, Sara!

I hope all is well with you and your family. I am also thrilled to learn that BW/WM marriages are the fastest growing. Yay! I made mistakes passing up good men trying to be loyal to "men of color". NO MORE.

God bless that young lady you're mentioning. I hope you have the opportunity to encourage her to choose a different course. And, I hope she has the wisdom to run for her life!

Anonymous said...

I wonder: why is the PASTOR telling her to give the guy a chance? unless his church is 'apostate'. They arent even married yet. He may think she may never find another man? perhaps? if he was in jail, he is a felon. It wouldnt be good for her. Oh and BTW, ive seen a commercial for DODGE CHARGER..about a white brother and sister: the bro picked up the sis and her FRIENDS. one of the friends is a black girl he was flirting with thru the rearview window. He couldnt seem to keep his eyes off of the 'chocolate kiss' and the sis got mad...she was fliting back and smiling....&;^D

Anonymous said...

oh what i mean by 'apostate' is if the CHURCH is into the BLT---(black liberation theology) meme--it has infected many black churches and it also has some NOI (nation of islam) with it.. not all black churches are that way by no means--

Taylor-Sara said...

Wow anon! I would love to see that commercial, it really sounds cute. I did see one awhile ago where a wb and his bg were walking and hugging, but I think ww got irritated because it disappeared pretty fast...

Anonymous said...

Was the BW hugging the WM or was HE hugging HER... it makes a difference in my book. Many pretty girls are giving guys too much public affection...women LOVE IT it shows we're CHERISHED... men dont need it as much..because you turn into 'mommy'

Anonymous said...

I hope this young lady has insight into the hidden agenda. If she knows what's good for her, she will not marry a lowlife. People who deliberately choose negatives in life don't deserve good women.

Welcome said...

Here it is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3bS0P3hGypU

Welcome said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3bS0P3hGypU