Interracial love and spice is a forum of discussion and sharing for black women to celebrate and share their love,attraction and marriages to non-black men..... My email is: asktaylorsara1991@gmail.com
Interracial love and spice is a forum of discussion and sharing for black women to celebrate and share their love,attraction and marriages to non-black men..... My email is: asktaylorsara1991@gmail.com
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I saw it live on CNN.com on the internet and it was so wonderful and moving.
Yes, We Did!
a.
I want to thank President Obama for giving a boost to the self-esteem and emotional health of Black females the world over with his choosing of the lovely Michelle for wife and the wonderful way he reacts with his daughters.
Thank you Mr. President.
I saw it too. I couldn't move. I must admit that at the last moment I became an Obama stan.
What temporarily converted me to a stan was when I saw the inaugural ball dances. I am a hesitant romantic, but when I saw Michelle O and Obama dancing I almost fainted. I was LIVING for the romance in that! How tender he was with her. How loving and attentive. That is just so rare.
It did not fill my head with fantasies of black love whatever that is, but it made me swoon to see how much they love each other.
As a Canadian, I was filled with pride on inaugural day. Obama embodies everything a decent man ought to be and as President, watch out. He has a huge mess to clean up. His greatest asset is his charisma - getting others to believe in his dream and to believe in their own possibilities.
His obvious love and respect for his wife and daughters will go a long way to combat the stereotype that...
1) black men do not take care of their families – Yes, they do and they do it with pride
2) black women are not beautiful, intelligent, and articulate – Yes, we are – we are an Asset in our own right and to any man
3) black women and men do not believe in commitment and the family unit – Yes, we do- just watch us succeed
Go Obamas
Canadian black chick said:
1) black men do not take care of their families – Yes, they do and they do it with pride
2) black women are not beautiful, intelligent, and articulate – Yes, we are – we are an Asset in our own right and to any man
3) black women and men do not believe in commitment and the family unit – Yes, we do- just watch us succeed
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Actually, as to point one...well there are a MINIMUM of men who do this....and as a sub issue, President Obama is actually bi-racial. Why are we ignoring one half of his DNA? And the half which actually did all of his rearing. His father was uninvolved (or minimally involved at best) in his life.
Point 2- no issue...but we already KNOW that about ourselves and others.
Point 3- Once again...same as point 1- You are extolling mostly the virtues of the fabled black family unit. Yes it exists..but not nearly at the rate it did a few generations ago. Something perceptibly shifted, and consequently so did the thinking of the BW who come to a site like this. We realize and accept that this unit you speak of is mostly fable at this point. Now we are just seeking (or have found) a committed relationship with a decent stable loving man, regardless of race....so please don't cram the black man thing down our throats.
President O is a nifty nifty guy...but I actually wonder if he would have been the man he is if he was raised with his father. He grew up outside the sphere of influence of most BM in America (Hawaii has a small black pop.) and was thus able to clearly see quality and beauty when he looked upon his lovely wife simply because he had not been subject (one presumes) to continuous negative associations about black women in general.....moreover, his mother pushed him to think and evaluate things for himself, but in any case, no matter if he(thinks of himself as) or others see him as a black man..he would still be a highly unusual man, and therefore his family could not be looked at as proof that black love is "alive and well."
President Obama is a one in a million kind of guy who unfortunately is much too rare.
Exactly Anon 10:53
CBC. I don't know how things are in Canada, but here in the U.S. I can tell you that a miniscule amount of bm are good, hardworking, ambitious, NON-color struck NON-damaged men looking for bw! And bm on President Obama's level, with his ambition, character, charisma and fortitude are so rare to be almost unheard of! We don't believe in fairy tales over here. And that is why we teach bw to find a GOOD MAN, (which are plentiful) and forget about a good black man (whom are growing increasingly scarce, and more color struck, and self hating everyday. So sorry to burst the bubble of the die hard, black love sect. But only a deluded fool believes the average bm has a bw's best interest at heart anymore...
I guess there is more of that magical thinking floating around out there.
When I read those comments about BO being proof that bm love and care for bw - if it wasn't sad it would be funny bc it is so desperate.
It is sooo I finally found that one needle in the haystack! When everything else points to the contrary.
Responding to Anonymous -January 24, 2009 10:53 PM and Taylor-Sara -January 25, 2009 12:22 AM
My comments were based on my experiences. In my family, ..
(1) all the black men (& women) had jobs and provided for their families
(2) everyone was married before having children
(3) everyone believed in the importance of family immediate and extended
I was never told to marry “only a black man”. I was told to bring home a good man (race never mattered to my parents).
Sorry, it was not my intention to cram black men down your throats.
....so please don't cram the black man thing down our throats.
DITTO!!!!!
I read a letter over at Evia's site where a woman discussed how she is married to a good black man but most of her girlfriends are single and she feels sad for them. But the HEARTWRENCHING part of it is that these women are in their FIFTIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They started approaching 40's and were still waiting for their "black man". Look we all know black women dont wrinkle like the others but dont let that fool you. I am 40 and look like I am 27 or 28 and so do my girlfriends. I think that because they look young psychologically they think that they have time. THEY DONT!!! They are waiting on their black man and this Michelle/Barack love has them fantasizing like most every other black woman out there. Pretty sad!!! I keep telling my 35 year old girlfriends to date everyone but most of them think that their beauty will bring them that good black man. You are pushing 40 and your beauty has not pulled you a good black man yet...Most black women think that they will get married eventually..It is too painful for them to think otherwise!!!
These women know it is hard to stand up against an old standard way of living. No one wants to be the odd one in the group. HOWEVER, I was talking to a co-worker yesterday and I told her since there are so many single bw why not date other race men? My co-worker who is married was telling me how good her husband is to her. Anyways she asked me, "Would you date/marry a wm?"
Of course I said, Yes. And, if he is as good as you say your husband is to you. Why not?"
It takes a while to break a habit; but, it can be done. The more we talk about irr the more we will become comfortable with the idea. More and more bw are beginning to consider other race men.
Bw usually think of wm, ladies there are other race men you can consider.
a.f.
I can tell you that a miniscule amount of bm are good, hardworking, ambitious, NON-color struck NON-damaged men looking for bw!
That's a lie and you know it.
NO Rocky, it is NOT a lie. MOST Black men are simply NO DAMN GOOD, and MOST Black men DO NOT love Black women or have their best interest at heart. You can deny it all you want, but FACTS are FACTS, and a race of women loved by their men would NOT be in the turmoil that sadly too many Black women find themselves in.
CanadianBlackChick, if you think most Black men are like pres Obama when it comes to loving, respecting, and taking care of Black females, you are sadly mistaken. And please do not forget that Barack is half-White and was raised with the influence of a White male role model. That makes a lot of difference.
No Anon, it is definitely not "fact". There are many black men with Obama's character. The difference is that most don't have his talent just as most white men don't have his talent. Denzel Washington has two black parents. You don't think that he loves his wife? You don't think that boxing champ Jermain Taylor loves his wife Erica Taylor and their three daughters?
http://www.hopeforarkansas.org/news/?id=8
Black women are not in the "turmoil" you try to make out.
Rocky, SAVE IT. I don't care what you say or what "Facts" you bring here as "Proof". Black males DO NOT love Black females, PERIOD. Black male culture is FULL OF examples of how they/you prefer White women and Latinas. Look at hip hop, full of White girls, full of Latinas. Look at who famous/rich Black males marry, White women and Latinas, look at in the hood, who is preferred and glorified over Black girls? Latinas. I could go on and on ALL DAY. Who drove a wedge between dark and light sistas back before you pathetic Black males had so much access to White and Latina women? Black males did, that's who, by knocking dark sistas down to get to the light ones and enjoying the pain and anger this caused in the dark sistas. Enjoying the fact that dark sistas and light sistas where fighting over your stupid behinds while you laughed and ate it up. Who created an entire genre of music that calls Black females "Bitches", "Tricks", and "Hoes"? Black males, that is who. Who has abandoned Black females for White women and Latinas to such an extent that Black females have a 70% single rate? Black males, that is who. Who constantly insults, belittles, berates, and tears down Black females while dating/marrying White and Latina women? Who constantly abandons Black females with kids they made to raise by themselves? BLACK MALES THAT IS WHO.
So save your "Good brother" bs crap nonsense gladhanding and happy talk for somebody naive enough to believe it.
Look Rocky.
This is NOT your site and we don't give a damn about your opinion! We can all see for ourselves how true everything she said is. I am so tired of bm trying to convince us not to believe our lying eyes! Anyone with half an eye can see what foul despicable creatures bm have become. The young girl who was recently gang raped and given an ACID BATH! is just another reminder of why we need to get the hell away from you damaged fools. And as usual the bc rallied behind the rapists while this poor girl hovers near death, and suffers lifetime disfigurement even if she lives! These kind of occurances are common for bw stuck in hellholes called the hood with you all. As are abandoned children, substance abuse, and criminal activity. Sometimes it feels like yall are trying to corner the market on nefarious activity, and anti-social behavior! Why don't you go to those bm message boards and try to control their message? Oh that's right, because you are not interested in how horribly they treat bw, only in convincing bw to continue accepting it! There is no reason in the world for you to be here. This is a bw's site-so see your way off!
Rocky as far as bw are concerned sadly it is the truth...maybe not you.
Step out side your box and look around your neighborhood. You know how bm talk about all women when they are together. You know if your bm friends are doing the right thing by their wives and mates.
a.f.
Ladies!! Ladies!! Ladies!!
Why so much animosity? Why are you all so angry? If you see a black man on TV with a white woman, what in the heck does that have to do with you individually? Remember what MLK said about people being judged not by the color of their skin but by the content of their character?
Look, where is the individualist philosophy that this site's theme suggests? All men are different. Find a good man that can take care of you no matter his color (except when he's black, his skin color trumps all his individual character traits) is the new message?
I've come across some irrational men and women before that refused to accept an individualist perspective when it came to people. It only hurts you. The hatred will consume you.
I can dig it if you love white men. That's totally your preference, more power to you. If you find a white guy that likes you for you and you like him for him then, by all means, go for it.
However, embracing white men because you hate black men will only hurt yourselves and the white men you end up with. It makes you unsuitable mates for any sane individual.
You don't have to be naive to believe that people are individuals and not a stereotype.
Oh and not only that a group of black boys beat up a black girl who were supposed to be her friends because she said a white guy was cute. Think about how many times these same black boys said that about white, asian etc. There was a bm that said that Asian women were the most beautiful women in the world when I was at work with my friend who is Filipina. Anyways if I had said something similar I would have gotten some horrible treatment.
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