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Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Don't be misled, by the voices of manipulation....









The couple on the bottom will usually engender a smile from bm, but the couples above will often draw anger and derision....

I posted the following not because I believe in dwelling on the negative, but because I want you sistas to recognize a voice of manipulation when you hear it. The following was a response re: bw dating/mating out. Don't think for one minute that bm are going to give in easily. They know the value of bw, even if they will not acknowledge it publicly. Notice how this (bm) tries to use guilt, shame, and the fear of ostracism to keep bw from exercising their options. Notice how he harps on how bm feel about seeing bw with wm, yet never seems to concern himself with how bw have felt about seeing bm with ww, FOR YEARS! Notice how everything is from a bm perspective with no thought to ours. I want you all to recognize this thought process when you see it, so you will not be thrown off by it. This man had the audacity to say that bw will not considered marriage material by bm after she has been with a wm! WTH! We all know not many bm consider bw marriage material ANYWAY!!! He goes on to say that wm will use her and discard her. My question is: Is he angry because that might happen (if she does not know how to vet the men in her life) or is he angry that this prevents bm from using her first? Because too many bw have been used, and discarded by bm to ever worry about something like that. We all know usually the ONLY men a bw does vet is the wm. She (usually) won't let him get away with anything, yet will make a concession of allowances for bm. So for him to feign worry about a bw being used by wm is almost laughable. He is not worried about all the bm out there everyday using bw-so why is worried about the wm? And then to try to use this subtle blackmail... "you won't get a bm, because we don't want a wm's leftovers.." He is not slick. I see right through his message, and who gives a damn. This is almost akin to saying to the titanic survivors, "you let us down by jumping ship, and swimming off with the wm, so we're not going to bless you with our presence anymore! Just crazy! But anyway, read the following ladies, and tell me your impression of this letter......

Can you hear the manipulation....
We need an damn image overhaul very BADLY; and if it ain't possible in this racist society; black men need to demand our own so we can have it somewhere else; even if that means total secession from the United States; because we are suffering very BADLY right now.Truth be told, black men are already in trouble in this society. The bulk of us are seen as no hopers with NO VALUE, NO MONEY, and no social status; and it is going to take a miracle from God to save the bm from this exceedingly hateful backlash that has developed against us lately--from every damn body.The media is to blame for alot of what black men are going through; as well as pushing this "Something New" agenda amongst black women.It is putting black people in a messed up situation; black women included, because unless that white man marries that sister, and takes her off the market, most black men aren't going to be happy about being with a black woman who's been with a white man; causing nothing but further division amongst black men and women.I have seen what happened to many black women who have been with white men--and other non-black men--and it didn't work out--especially, if they had a child by him, which is even worse--the bulk of them become permanent jump offs; going from man to man because no black man is going to marry them EVER. They wind up with NOBODY in their later years; black or white.That is why I hope that alot of black women know what they are doing by pushing this "Something New" bullshit; there are consequences to the shit that they are doing. If they think that black men don't care about what they are doing, and don't see what they are doing, they are wrong, and many of them will find that out later on; especially the younger black women who seem to think that what they are doing isn't going to have any consequences.Many black men don't show it, but they definitely see it, and it makes them not to mess with black women at all after awhile. I have gotten so disgusted with the actions of black women out here that even when a black girl is feeling me, I just spurn them off; because I am tired of the shit that I get from other black women, and tired of the spiteful attitude from alot of these "Something New" black women that I come across lately.Honestly, I am also tired of seeing all of these non-black men able to have their way with black women out here, and then toss them to the side when it's time for marriage. Alot of black women don't really realize how they look to black men right now. We are definitely taking notes, don't think we ain't sisters.Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether; which makes for a potential husband who is no longer in the running.They think that they don't care now, but they will 10 or 15 years down the damn road. I have seen it too much for it NOT to be true. That same good black man that they had no time for when they were young, is going to become seemingly IMPOSSIBLE for them to get as they get older.Later,

72 comments:

QT19 said...

You might want to do a post about this video clip I found;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-beEQaqZccI&feature=related

All I can say is OMG!!!!!
How is it possible? or is he really a racist to be with a black woman to begin with?

Clarice said...

Excellent post Sara. That 'man' is a narcissistic, selfish, immature, whiner - who thinks the world revolves around him. He and his ilk are the women no woman in her right mind ever wanted to be no matter how feminine she might be. He seems to think that women care about him and what he thinks and feels. Here is a news flash - healthy, intelligent - BW do not care about what DBR males of any race, think, feel or say - now or in the future - keep your self serving - destructive way of life to yourself and your ilk and go away. He is running scared and deluding himself that BW still care or will come back but that ship has sailed! Give him some cheese to go with that whine and then send him off to tell someone who cares.

V/r

Clarice

SMH said...

"a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether;"

BW can't miss what was never there! So - Thank you that -sounds wonderful - can we get fries with that and super-size it starting today?

sky said...

i love it when they say they don't care. really? cause many of them are making videos about it, i mean tons of videos. before it was bw aint ____, and now it's why bw dating/marryin wm, bw...bm don't care, bw are sellouts, bw act different around wm, what about the race? im like you are so bulsh*ttin' me. i just laugh. the tables have turned,b4 you know it the 70% single rate will decrease for women and increase for men.

like i give a damn if black men are taking notes. if anything take notes on how to treat a woman, and then take notes on how she responds to the treatment try that you idiot!

and if bm don't like it, oh well deal with it! go find your becky and have her stand at your rallies at the million man march, have her march in jena 6, have her defense you @$$ everytime your in trouble. ya'll went to them for relief but you are still lookin over your shoulder? plueeze. try again. then again forget becky even she's waking up.

and note non-black are making moves w/ no shame and they're doing it well. think about that the next time you go to sleep.

Mary said...

all i have to say is, like i've said before, the american jails are a good place to go to to see how "charming" and "kind" bm are. bm kill each other more anyone else kills bm so obviously they don't like each other. urgh. but i guess bw are supposed to look over AALLLLL their faults and keep on being their hoes and "jumpoffs" *sucking my teeth*

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Taylor-Sara said...

Anon, although I suspect I know EXACTLY who you are. That posting has absolutely nothing to do with this post, and it was therefore deleted. 'whew, speaking of bm, who pretend to come as friends!'.....Your card has been pulled, why don't you mosey along now....

Pamela said...

We need an damn image overhaul very BADLY; and if it ain't possible in this racist society; black men need to demand our own so we can have it somewhere else; even if that means total secession from the United States; because we are suffering very BADLY right now.Truth be told, black men are already in trouble in this society. The bulk of us are seen as no hopers with NO VALUE, NO MONEY, and no social status; and it is going to take a miracle from God to save the bm from this exceedingly hateful backlash that has developed against us lately--from every damn body.The media is to blame for alot of what black men are going through; as well as pushing this "Something New" agenda amongst black women.

This is as far as I got with reading this NONSENSE. I knew is was going to be garbage when it was mentioned about seceding from the US because bm were suffering so bad. I almost stopped there but decided to continue. When he mentioned Something New I knew I would be wasting my time reading any further. First of all because bm are suffering all black people need to form their own country. Then he blames the media for putting into the minds of bw the idea of dating out. That movie just came out I think last year or the year before (I did not see it). I made this decision DECADES AGO:) I got tired of reading this drivel. From the comments the tirade appears to have gone to hell from where I stopped reading.

Thank God more and more bw are using their heads and making good decisions for their lives.

Mary said...

the thing about bm, other groups of bm might have the balls and guts to actually try to secede, but bm simply don't. as my mother always says, bm can act crazy with bw, but they don't have the guts to stand up to other groups of men. cowards, simply cowards. the first time i saw bm were really into interacial dating, i was very happy cause i thought it would free up bw to find more worthy men, now it seems my wishes are coming true. :)

Taylor-Sara said...

You are soooo right Mary,
and can you believe how he went on and on ad nauseum about the bm's feelings, and how they don't want this and they don't want that. Who gives a damn? It was almost like a threat! "we won't be interested in you tramps if you sleep with wm!" Honey, to me that sounds like an incentive!As more and more sistas open their options, they'll see it really is not a valid concern on our list...

jazine said...

I have to agree with Mary. This whole seceding off from the United States is the longest running joke. If black men can’t make in North America, where opportunities are nearly endless than just about any other place on earth, how in the hell are they going to make it on their own? Too many black men in this country struggle with personal responsibility, holding down gainful employment, marrying the mothers of their children, adequately providing and nurturing their offspring, so I ask, how in the world are they going to make it on their own in unchartered waters?

The fact of the matter is quite painful, and that is, black men are the international laughing stock of the world. Their whining and begging has gone from beyond embarrassing. Barack Obama can’t fix that.

Another thing that has me a bit perplexed from all this male tirade are the future warnings of being all alone when a woman has ventured out too far from her place. I hate to say this, but I also see this pattern being perpetuated on Harry Potter’s blog in reference to white women by a few white male anons warning that ww will be all alone as a result from bashing wm. Sorry to burst their bubble, but that’s not going to happen. Women will always be wanted, period! This particular black man who wrote this drivel, warned black women of a similar fate, because bw have talked trash about the black man and have ventured into enemy territory of IR dating/marrying with wm. Our lecherous actions will come back to haunt us with the result of us being without a (black) mate.

Do not live your life in fear from men trying to control you with scare tactics!

Anonymous said...

Once again it is the bw's fault that bm decide to date other races. Come on!!! I have finally come to the realization that the more bm that date out the less hassle bw will have. Someone else will have to put up with their BS amd bw can move on to other options. It makes it easier b/c there are fewer bm trying to talk to you and bothering you with their 'issues'

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

I'm sorry, I refuse to read the whole thing b/c it's pure ignorance. I don't want a man who admires me and my worth in secret...tell the whole world I'm special and don't just verbalize it but also ACT IT OUT via treating me like a queen, make me happy and keep a smile on my damn face!!!

I'm sorry, I just had to vent.

Mary said...

"make me happy and keep a smile on my damn face"

lol, okay!!!

beebop5 said...

we can count on Mary to hit the nail on the head.

"bm can act crazy with bw, but they don't have the guts to stand up to other groups of men. cowards, simply cowards. the first time i saw bm were really into interacial dating, i was very happy cause i thought it would free up bw to find more worthy men, now it seems my wishes are coming true. :)"

Exactly. I have a brother who was shouted an order and called "boy" by an east indian gas station attendant. He will try to fight with his mother or sister (and his puerto rican girlfriend), but he never stands up to another man. He said nothing to the gas station guy. He is 6'4" and an absolute coward.
He contents himself that he has his revenge on the world because he is certain that EVERYBODY wants his light-skinned woman (except that no one does).

Anonymous said...

Why spend so much energy caring about what bm like that say?

That bm in the last picture (Djimon Hounson) is dating Kimora Lee Simmons.

Mary said...

beebop5, isn't that just sad. and that's just the sad pathetic thing about bm, body wise they're strong, but mentally they're really weak. i mean just look at asian men, body wise they look very weak compared to bm, but we ALL know asian men can kick bm's butts in EVERYTHING but sports. which is sad cause in this world, it's not about the physical anymore, survival depends on using your brain, that's why bw need to start sprinting cause bm are really handicapped mentally. and when i say mentally, i don't mean just educationally (they lack in that department also) i mean common sense wise. like having common sense to do things other males in your species do, lol, like, taking care of your family, like defending your women, like not being so self-absorbed to the point that it's all about you you you. in western society, it is women and children first. in black societies everywhere ladies it is bm first and foremost. awhile back, i asked my bm cousin if in africa a boat was going down how would they decide who gets out first. his answer: every man for himself, even if there are children on board. losers!!!

bm remind me of children, like toddlers actually. i remember reading a book on child rearing. the book mentioned that children are born very selfish, it's all about them in their minds, when they see their parents cry they don't cry cause they compassionate, it's cause if their caretaker is weak, then they don't feel safe. basically, you have to TEACH children to be HUMANE, you have to teach them to feel sorry for hurting others, to be compassionate, to not be selfish, bm as a group (for some odd reason) seem to be not be learning their lessons early on or later in life. how many bm do we all sadly know that think it's all about them, all day everyday!!

Aphrodite said...

This is too funny.

This guy is a classless moron.


I ignored the first part bc it was BS. BM have it hard bc they do silly or even hateful crap to bring it on themselves.



"I have seen what happened to many black women who have been with white men--and other non-black men--and it didn't work out--especially, if they had a child by him, which is even worse--the bulk of them become permanent jump offs; going from man to man because no black man is going to marry them EVER. They wind up with NOBODY in their later years; black or white."




Drivel. BW tend to be used sexually the most by BM. Hence the OOW rate.


And I don't have any stats, but I am willing to bet that a BW with a mixed race kid would have no problem finding a nonblack husband/mate in a heartbeat. I mean that is a walking advertisement that she is open.




"That is why I hope that alot of black women know what they are doing by pushing this "Something New" bullshit; there are consequences"




Well that says that he is aware of the manipulation and brainwashing that BM and their institutions have been spewing to keep BW down and in pocket. He assumes that he and other DBRBM have rights, privileges, and power over BW to punish them.






"Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether; which makes for a potential husband who is no longer in the running."



Is he delusional? With a 70%+ singleness rate? As if BM are checking for BW anyway.

Taylor-Sara said...

Anon, the point is not about caring what bm want or don't want. It's about bw not being manipulated by what they say. Of course I know most of what they say is lies, but some of these women still believe the hype (ie, bm are only gone because more bw are excercising their options)If you find that you don't see anything useful in this post-come back later.... simple solution.

Velvet Queen said...

"jazine said...

I have to agree with Mary. This whole seceding off from the United States is the longest running joke. If black men can’t make in North America, where opportunities are nearly endless than just about any other place on earth, how in the hell are they going to make it on their own? Too many black men in this country struggle with personal responsibility, holding down gainful employment, marrying the mothers of their children, adequately providing and nurturing their offspring, so I ask, how in the world are they going to make it on their own in unchartered waters?"

This comment caught my interest because it really is a good question. If dbr black men are going to somehow find success in another country then I think they'd do just fine in some country that forcibly degrades women into little more than child-bearers. I don't even have to go into the details. I'm sure we all know what sort of countries those are.

But this is what alarms me. If so many dbr black men are thinking that way then black women REALLY have to run! The media doesn't show what happens to women in some foreign countries to the extent that they should. I've noticed that a lot of times they try to make it seem alot less than it really is but the abuse that these women face in these foreign countries...(that obviously black men like these types mentioned would like to go to)are literally beaten...publicly for offenses that would seem absolutely inconceivable to us!!!!

I have EXTREMELY little respect for people who treat women in that manner. Very little. REGARDLESS of what country they may hail from.

Black women need to just face the facts. In the long run, men who are like that...are not very humane men at all unless some divine miracle of salvation takes place.

It is so very sad that so many black women, who believe these lies often end up with men like that.

It is an epidemic.

Anonymous said...

I only wish DBRBM would secede from the US and take all their mammy-saviors with them. The crime rate in the US would drop overnight. There would be far fewer deadbeat dads and the literacy rate would zoom up! The street corners in black neighborhoods would be empty, and the malt liquor industry would collapse. The slang word "Ho" would quickly fall out of usage. There'd be fewer tax dollars spent on the prison system. The prisons themselves would go from overcrowded conditions to being half empty. Black women would have more of their own money to spend on their children's upkeep and education rather than on some chronically unemployed layabout.

What a happy thought!

lola said...

The media is to blame for alot of what black men are going through; as well as pushing this "Something New" agenda amongst black women.It is putting black people in a messed up situation;

THE MEDIA, forced you to degrade yourselves and BW in the process (indeed sir, men set the standards, running like 90% of this industry) in Rap music? Portraying your own people as the worst, least moral, most ignorant, sex crazed monkey-acting people of the world? I'm saying this because, I LOVE how BM love to blame "corporate america", "the media" and "record labels" for their image. BP had a better image in a time when we had LESS freedom (Stevie Wonder, Otis Redding, Ray Charles etc), now that we have more freedom and power (own labels, direct videos) BM kill their own image and OURS in the process. BW need to detach themselves from these people and move on.

"Something New" agenda? Why didn't they bring their conspiracy THEORIES when "Save The Last Dance" came out? when "HITCH" came out? Oh but it's a damn problem when BW do it too? Give me a BREAK!


most black men aren't going to be happy about being with a black woman who's been with a white man; causing nothing but further division amongst black men and women.

How does a BW who dated a non-BM in the past causing "further division" amongst BP? I'm sure he doesn't feel the same about BM dating out. AND WHY SHOULD I CARE IF "HE" WANTS ME OR NOT? There millions of other men out there, so who cares?


If they think that black men don't care about what they are doing

LMAOOOOOOOOO!!! ALL THESE DECADES BM have been saying they "didn't care". Thank you for PROVING they were LYING all this time. BTW, I don't CARE that YOU CARE, move the HELL on cause I did long ago.


I have gotten so disgusted with the actions of black women out here that even when a black girl is feeling me, I just spurn them off;

So basically, this cat is saying that he doesn't want us AND doesn't want us to date out. Hypocrit, HYPOCRIT, HYPOCRIT! Just be honest about it : You don't LIKE BW, and you don't want anyone to like them, cause you don't wanna see BW happy.

Honestly, I am also tired of seeing all of these non-black men able to have their way with black women out here, and then toss them to the side when it's time for marriage.

Most BM don't freaking GET MARRIED, they're the LEAST marriage oriented group of men. What type of IDLE THREAT is this? We are more likely to be used and "tossed to the side" by a BM than a non-BM, get your facts straight.


Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether

Uhhhh Who gives a damn? You're free to date out, we don't belong to each other. BW TRAVEL in case you didn't know, BW are financially FREE so THEY can date and marry men of other nationalities as well, so why do you threaten us like it's an option we don't have? YOU people are crazy to THINK for a second that my whole life revolves around "YOU" and that I depend on "YOU". BW don't DEPEND on BM for anything. There's an ABUNDANCE of males all over the world, God has my back, I would be an idiot to focus on someone like YOU who doesn't want me to be happy. What power do you have again? Who the hell are YOU? God? NEGRO PLEASE! Good riddance.

Mary said...

"there are consequences"

good God, when did bm become so valuable that they're barking orders and threatening folks, i just skimmed over the text but had to re-read the nonsense with all the quotes i kept on reading from the commenters. wow, the audacity. there are consequences, wow

Taylor-Sara said...

Lola, Mary, could not have said it better myself. And that's an excellent question. How come they did not mention conspiracy theories with Save the last dance, hitch, the movie with mariah carey's husband (he played a cop and had a latino love interest. DC sniper the chief of police (played by Roc, had a blond wife,and basically every damn movie you see bm in. The woman usually NEVER looks like us! I remember bw getting up in arms because Maxim magazine voted that spanish girl the most sexiest woman of the year. Before that the bw on the cover had been getting lighter and lighter. After that, (even though bw screamed and complained) I don't think I have seen even another light bw on that cover since! Now, they are latino, Asian, or White! They don't give a damn if we have a problem with anything they do, but funny how we are supposed to bend into back flips to please them! I keep wondering who the hell they think they are! When bw complained about Maxim, (and King Mag. now too) they told BW to shut up and accept it. -sound familiar?

Anonymous said...

@sara...and when the "man" tells them to shut up and accept it there is an up roar.
Bw heardly hear the up roar when something tragic happens to a bw or bg.

Phantom Mare said...

He goes on to say that wm will use her and discard her.
***
It's because he uses and discards WW too... and also BW.
_____________

The next thing you'll know, BM will be crying they want their own nation with non-BW.LOL!!!

I don't care...Me do *MY* thing!

Phantom Mare said...

as my mother always says, bm can act crazy with bw, but they don't have the guts to stand up to other groups of men.
***

Mary, I believe the popular term would be: "Testicular Fortitude"

Kiki said...

LOL! I find this amusing. How can it get much worse? They are already terrorizing bw in ghettos and beyond. BW are majority loyal to bm and bm alone, and the majority of bw are single. I dont think this is a coincidence, LOL!! But I'm sure most of the ladies here already made that connection.

This whole tirade is comical if nothing else. Either this fool is truly ignorant of the world around him, or he really thinks this is going to make bw run back to bm. Is this all they got? They want bw to "come home", and this is the best they could come up with...I mean was he trying to prove what these blogs say?

I have to admit, that I was always open to all men of any race, but after a few years of dating and just mere social interaction, it became apparent that bm were not at the top of any of my lists. After hearing all of the responses by bm to more bw opening up there options, I am thoroughly disgusted. The hypocrisy is too much among a mountain of other reasons. I cant even look at a bm today, so really I wont even notice them passing me by. They dont register on my radar anymore.

Anonymous said...

We need an damn image overhaul very BADLY; and if it ain't possible in this racist society; black men need to demand our own so we can have it somewhere else; even if that means total secession from the United States; because we are suffering very BADLY right now.

SMH Damaged beyond bm have the power to overhaul their own messed up image today. No one's stopping them. They don't WANT to. And all of this fantasizing about "secession" is a straight up JOKE. Growing numbers of bm can't even make it here in the U.S. A country where scores of folks are risking their lives to get to. They sure as Hell can't make it outside of the U.S. And that's even MORE reason for black women to stay away from them. Women need capable MEN and not social misfits who blame others for their own inadequacies.

Truth be told, black men are already in trouble in this society. The bulk of us are seen as no hopers with NO VALUE, NO MONEY, and no social status; and it is going to take a miracle from God to save the bm from this exceedingly hateful backlash that has developed against us lately--from every damn body.

Truth be told, a growing number of bm ARE no hopers, with no value, no legally made money, and no social status. And God helps those who help themselves. Any "backlash" that DBR bm are receiving has been WELL EARNED and long overdue.

The media is to blame for alot of what black men are going through; as well as pushing this "Something New" agenda amongst black women.

LOL There he goes blaming the media. And if it's not the "media" it's "the white man". SMH These fools need to QUIT because it's downright EMBARRASSING.

And regarding "Something New", there are PLENTY of BW (myself included) who have always preferred WM and other non BM. And the "media" had nothing to do with it.


It is putting black people in a messed up situation; black women included, because unless that white man marries that sister, and takes her off the market, most black men aren't going to be happy about being with a black woman who's been with a white man; causing nothing but further division amongst black men and women.

LOL And who gives a f*ck? The world doesn't revolve around what makes a bm happy or not. It would be a GOOD thing if even more bm left bw alone. Then, more sistas would be forced to direct their attention towards responsible real men who know the meaning of true masculinity. Men who respect the institution of marriage, and the importance of being a father.

I have seen what happened to many black women who have been with white men--and other non-black men--and it didn't work out--especially, if they had a child by him, which is even worse--the bulk of them become permanent jump offs; going from man to man because no black man is going to marry them EVER.

LOL This fool MUST be insane. I'VE SEEN what happens to MOST black women who have been with black men and ONLY black men. It especially didn't work out if they had a black child that favored the black sperm donor. Going from dbrbm to dbrbm, stuck without marriage to ANY of them.

It's a tragedy I wouldn't wish on my WORST enemy.


They wind up with NOBODY in their later years; black or white.

BULL SH*T. I'm seeing more and more white men stepping up to the plate and being fathers to little black boys and black girls who've NEVER met their biological black fathers. So get real.

That is why I hope that alot of black women know what they are doing by pushing this "Something New" bullshit; there are consequences to the shit that they are doing.

And the "consequences" are ALL GOOD. So you best believe I know EXAC TLY what I'm doing pushing this COMMON SENSE movement.

If they think that black men don't care about what they are doing, and don't see what they are doing, they are wrong,

SMH Well LA DE DA!LOL We don't GIVE A DAMN.

and many of them will find that out later on; especially the younger black women who seem to think that what they are doing isn't going to have any consequences.Many black men don't show it, but they definitely see it, and it makes them not to mess with black women at all after awhile.

And I only wish MORE bm would do sistas this favor. It would literally save black women's LIVES if they left them alone.

I have gotten so disgusted with the actions of black women out here that even when a black girl is feeling me, I just spurn them off; because I am tired of the shit that I get from other black women, and tired of the spiteful attitude from alot of these "Something New" black women that I come across lately.

I THANK this fool for saving these sistas a LOT of needless drama. I hope he gets with a Becky real soon and takes himself off the market. Then, he'll be HER headache and not some unsuspecting black woman's.

Honestly, I am also tired of seeing all of these non-black men able to have their way with black women out here, and then toss them to the side when it's time for marriage.

LOL GET OFF IT. "Having their way..." EVERYONE knows that bm have the LOWEST rate of marrying whomever they're with. Be she black, white, or other. The only ones having their way with bw these days, are bm. However, more and more sistas are waking up to the truth everyday.

WM and other non bm statistically have a higher rate of marriage. And marriage minded sistas are increasingly realizing this fact and acting accordingly.


Alot of black women don't really realize how they look to black men right now.

Alot of black women DON'T CARE how they look to black men. And have no reason to care.

Does this idiot know how HE looks?! My GOD if he - and those like him - only knew...SMH


We are definitely taking notes, don't think we ain't sisters.Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether; which makes for a potential husband who is no longer in the running.

GOOD! LOL THAT'S THE POINT. Hopefully even MORE bm will continue to "take notes". And get a clue that their doing us a FAVOR by leaving us alone. NOW, if they only WOULD leave us alone. Instead of trolling our message boards, and harassing us offline.

If ONLY they would practice what the preach.


I think that they don't care now, but they will 10 or 15 years down the damn road. I have seen it too much for it NOT to be true. That same good black man that they had no time for when they were young, is going to become seemingly IMPOSSIBLE for them to get as they get older.

SMH This fool needs to get it through his thick scull. Growing numbers of black women DON'T WANT BLACK MEN. Period. Therefore all of these "threats" are useless.

Growing numbers of black women are checking for WHITE, ASIAN, HISPANIC, INDIAN, MIDDLE-EASTERN, etc... men. Not "the brothas". This delusional commenter - and those who he represents - need to DEAL WITH IT.

The "threats" are falling on DEAF EARS.


Later,

And later to you my friend. Have a blessed day.

Anonymous said...

We need an damn image overhaul very BADLY; and if it ain't possible in this racist society; black men need to demand our own so we can have it somewhere else; even if that means total secession from the United States; because we are suffering very BADLY right now.

SMH Damaged beyond repair bm have the power to overhaul their own messed up image today. No one's stopping them. They don't WANT to. And all of this fantasizing about "secession" is a straight up JOKE. Growing numbers of bm can't even make it here in the U.S. A country where scores of folks are risking their lives to get to. They sure as Hell can't make it outside of the U.S. And that's even MORE reason for black women to stay away from them. Women need capable MEN and not social misfits who blame others for their own inadequacies.

Truth be told, black men are already in trouble in this society. The bulk of us are seen as no hopers with NO VALUE, NO MONEY, and no social status; and it is going to take a miracle from God to save the bm from this exceedingly hateful backlash that has developed against us lately--from every damn body.

Truth be told, a growing number of bm ARE no hopers, with no value, no legally made money, and no social status. And God helps those who help themselves. Any "backlash" that DBR bm are receiving has been WELL EARNED and long overdue.

The media is to blame for alot of what black men are going through; as well as pushing this "Something New" agenda amongst black women.

LOL There he goes blaming the media. And if it's not the "media" it's "the white man". SMH These fools need to QUIT because it's downright EMBARRASSING.

And regarding "Something New", there are PLENTY of BW (myself included) who have always preferred WM and other non BM. And the "media" had nothing to do with it.


It is putting black people in a messed up situation; black women included, because unless that white man marries that sister, and takes her off the market, most black men aren't going to be happy about being with a black woman who's been with a white man; causing nothing but further division amongst black men and women.

LOL And who gives a f*ck? The world doesn't revolve around what makes a bm happy or not. It would be a GOOD thing if even more bm left bw alone. Then, more sistas would be forced to direct their attention towards responsible real men who know the meaning of true masculinity. Men who respect the institution of marriage, and the importance of being a father.

I have seen what happened to many black women who have been with white men--and other non-black men--and it didn't work out--especially, if they had a child by him, which is even worse--the bulk of them become permanent jump offs; going from man to man because no black man is going to marry them EVER.

LOL This fool MUST be insane. I'VE SEEN what happens to MOST black women who have been with black men and ONLY black men. It especially didn't work out if they had a black child that favored the black sperm donor. Going from dbrbm to dbrbm, stuck without marriage to ANY of them.

It's a tragedy I wouldn't wish on my WORST enemy.


They wind up with NOBODY in their later years; black or white.

BULL SH*T. I'm seeing more and more white men stepping up to the plate and being fathers to little black boys and black girls who've NEVER met their biological black fathers. So get real.

That is why I hope that alot of black women know what they are doing by pushing this "Something New" bullshit; there are consequences to the shit that they are doing.

And the "consequences" are ALL GOOD. So you best believe I know EXACTLY what I'm doing pushing this COMMON SENSE movement.

If they think that black men don't care about what they are doing, and don't see what they are doing, they are wrong,

SMH Well LA DE DA!LOL We don't GIVE A DAMN.

and many of them will find that out later on; especially the younger black women who seem to think that what they are doing isn't going to have any consequences.Many black men don't show it, but they definitely see it, and it makes them not to mess with black women at all after awhile.

And I only wish MORE bm would do sistas this favor. It would literally save black women's LIVES if they left them alone.

I have gotten so disgusted with the actions of black women out here that even when a black girl is feeling me, I just spurn them off; because I am tired of the shit that I get from other black women, and tired of the spiteful attitude from alot of these "Something New" black women that I come across lately.

I THANK this fool for saving these sistas a LOT of needless drama. I hope he gets with a Becky real soon and takes himself off the market. Then, he'll be HER headache and not some unsuspecting black woman's.

Honestly, I am also tired of seeing all of these non-black men able to have their way with black women out here, and then toss them to the side when it's time for marriage.

LOL GET OFF IT. "Having their way..." EVERYONE knows that bm have the LOWEST rate of marrying whomever they're with. Be she black, white, or other. The only ones having their way with bw these days, are bm. However, more and more sistas are waking up to the truth everyday.

WM and other non bm statistically have a higher rate of marriage. And marriage minded sistas are increasingly realizing this fact and acting accordingly.


Alot of black women don't really realize how they look to black men right now.

Alot of black women DON'T CARE how they look to black men. And have no reason to care.

Does this idiot know how HE looks?! My GOD if he - and those like him - only knew...SMH


We are definitely taking notes, don't think we ain't sisters.Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether; which makes for a potential husband who is no longer in the running.

GOOD! LOL THAT'S THE POINT. Hopefully even MORE bm will continue to "take notes". And get a clue that their doing us a FAVOR by leaving us alone. NOW, if they only WOULD leave us alone. Instead of trolling our message boards, and harassing us offline.

If ONLY they would practice what the preach.


I think that they don't care now, but they will 10 or 15 years down the damn road. I have seen it too much for it NOT to be true. That same good black man that they had no time for when they were young, is going to become seemingly IMPOSSIBLE for them to get as they get older.

SMH This fool needs to get it through his thick scull. Growing numbers of black women DON'T WANT BLACK MEN. Period. Therefore all of these "threats" are useless.

Growing numbers of black women are checking for WHITE, ASIAN, HISPANIC, INDIAN, MIDDLE-EASTERN, etc... men. Not "the brothas". This delusional commenter - and those who he represents - need to DEAL WITH IT.

The "threats" are falling on DEAF EARS.

Mary said...

"I only wish DBRBM would secede from the US and take all their mammy-saviors with them. The crime rate in the US would drop overnight. There would be far fewer deadbeat dads and the literacy rate would zoom up! The street corners in black neighborhoods would be empty, and the malt liquor industry would collapse. The slang word "Ho" would quickly fall out of usage. There'd be fewer tax dollars spent on the prison system. The prisons themselves would go from overcrowded conditions to being half empty. Black women would have more of their own money to spend on their children's upkeep and education rather than on some chronically unemployed layabout."

anon, girl, you are so off the chain, you are my type of girl :) there isn't a statement you made that i didn't agree with. like i said, when did bm become so valuable to be barking orders. if bw didn't baby and pursue them so much their stock would drop so fast.

oh and btw ladies, in the 13 years i've been in america, i'm starting to see more and more of what i saw today. it has been usually bw and hispanic women i see walking around on the streets with their kids in strollers. when i was in college, i started seeing single tired looking ww with biracial children, and when i say tired, i mean TIRED! now, i'm in a whole other city, and just today, i saw TWO tired looking ww walking on the side of the road with their dbr-looking bm and their child in a stroller. and this is supposedly what bw are missing out on, walking down the street looking crazy. also, these tired-looking ww had their dbr's with them, usually the dbr's leave bw, but no, with them ww are worthy of walking on the side of the road with. everytime i see a bw with a non-bm, they both look comfortable and happy.

Mary said...

i hope you don't mind Sara

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http://www.oprah.com/slideshow/oprahshow/20081029_tows_messyhouse/7

Anonymous said...

that was a silly message from that man, there are far more bw in this country then bm so inevitably bw will date out anyway, so what's he complaining about? makes no sense

Taylor-Sara said...

don't mind a bit Mary. feel free.
I keep thinking about the damaged monsters who killed that poor couple for no other reason than, they did not want to see a beautiful bw happy with her white husband. Then they will swear up and down they don't care what we do, but any bw who has spent any time in the 'hood' knows they CONSTANTLY try to control bw! In every way. From walking down the street in peace to looking at a fine wm. All the time lying and pretending they don't care. I wish they didn't care so bw could simply have what every woman wants. PEACE,PROSPERITY, AND LOVE...Then you have fools like chris Rock TELLING us what we want-like he would know. And having the nerve to get on national TV and tell millions of WM, that BW don't want them, we really want brothas. And that's why we get so mad when they are with Beckys. As far as I'm concerned Becky is doing us a favor, and she can have them ALL!

beth said...

Sarah, you seem to be taking alot of liberties. How do you know the couple was killed becuase bm did not want to see a bw with a wm? For all you know it could have been that she owed them money or she messed with one of them or any reason. I'm sure they did not just decide to murder her for no reason. I can feel the hatred for bm coming off this site and I will pray for you. Becuase you are hate filled and that's just sad....

Taylor-Sara said...

...
Sarah, you seem to be taking alot of liberties. How do you know the couple was killed becuase bm did not want to see a bw with a wm? For all you know it could have been that she owed them money or she messed with one of them or any reason. I'm sure they did not just decide to murder her for no reason. I can feel the hatred for bm coming off this site and I will pray for you. Becuase you are hate filled and that's just sad....


Beth, you are certainly entitled to your opinion. But if you think that poor couple was killed for any reason other than the obvious, you are deluding yourself! And for that matter, it does not matter what the reason is, or if they were angry at her for some other reason (yeah, right!) The fact is, they had no right to take that couple's life! Are justifying what these animals did? As for hating bm. I do not hate anyone based on their race. I hate them based on their actions. And the actions of these animals are unforgivable! I'm sorry if you feel that I am HARD on the poor wittle black man. The poor wittle thing who is FORCED to abandon his children, desimate his community, and bring the women of his race nothing but pain, and anguish. Yet we should feel sorry for him, because the white man made him do it! -Give me a damn break! Unless, and until these trifling negroes get their act together, bw should not give them the time of day! There is NOTHING to feel sorry for! They have the same opptys as everybody else! Why don't you leave your contact info, and the next time one of these pathetic creaures sends me a threatning email. I will forward your info to him, so you can love all his hurt away....

Anonymous said...

Sarah, you seem to be taking alot of liberties. How do you know the couple was killed becuase bm did not want to see a bw with a wm? For all you know it could have been that she owed them money or she messed with one of them or any reason. I'm sure they did not just decide to murder her for no reason. I can feel the hatred for bm coming off this site and I will pray for you. Becuase you are hate filled and that's just sad....

----------------------------------
Well she certainly was not killed because she owed them money being that the news paper called it a robbery meaning that they were robbing her
and if you are not happy with what is being said on this site you can take your liberty and move along.

Anonymous said...

@ beth...yeah right! Why do you assume the Mrs. owed anyone any money? She worked and so did her husband.

Do you borrow money from men you hardly know? You, Ms. Beth should be ashamed of yourself for trying to disparage a couple decease individuals.

Also, it is very clear this site is NOT for you. IMO, you are NOT welcome here.



ann

Anonymous said...

@ Mary,
"oh and btw ladies, in the 13 years i've been in america, i'm starting to see more and more of what i saw today. it has been usually bw and hispanic women i see walking around on the streets with their kids in strollers. when i was in college, i started seeing single tired looking ww with biracial children, and when i say tired, i mean TIRED! now, i'm in a whole other city, and just today, i saw TWO tired looking ww walking on the side of the road with their dbr-looking bm and their child in a stroller. and this is supposedly what bw are missing out on, walking down the street looking crazy. also, these tired-looking ww had their dbr's with them, usually the dbr's leave bw, but no, with them ww are worthy of walking on the side of the road with"....so funny @ walking down the street looking crazy and so true.

"Everytime i see a bw with a non-bm, they both look comfortable and happy."...Yes, I agree they usually appear happy and comfortable with each other.

ann

Anonymous said...

"Why don't you leave your contact info, and the next time one of these pathetic creaures sends me a threatning email. I will forward your info to him, so you can love all his hurt away...."

THANK YOU Sara. Let's see if "she" responds with the pertinent information.

"Sarah, you seem to be taking alot of liberties. How do you know the couple was killed becuase bm did not want to see a bw with a wm? For all you know it could have been that she owed them money or she messed with one of them or any reason. I'm sure they did not just decide to murder her for no reason. I can feel the hatred for bm coming off this site and I will pray for you. Becuase you are hate filled and that's just sad...."

The only one sad is you "Beth". There is NEVER an excuse to murder innocent people in cold blood. Only DERANGED ANIMALS would "decide" to murder two innocent, loving, and beautiful people.

YOU are the one in need of prayer hun. And I can feel the hatred for BW and WM couples coming from YOU.

Attempting to justify the unjustifiable... That is BEYOND sick.

You can take your hate filled self back under the rock you crawled from.

IT'S ABOUT DAMN TIME BW started calling a spade a spade.

Hateful black men and their self-hating mammy boot lickers are only receiving what they've been dishing out.

You need to get down on your knees and pray that God will forgive you for attempting to make excuses for these MONSTERS.

Or your soul is damned with theirs.

Aphrodite said...

Beth,

That is kinda sick. There is no justification for murder. Ever.

Aphrodite said...

"Then you have fools like chris Rock TELLING us what we want-like he would know. And having the nerve to get on national TV and tell millions of WM, that BW don't want them, we really want brothas."



The thing that bothers me is when BW say this on TV. Or when they co-sign. They can't speak for all women and it looks so horrible and ignorant.

JESS said...

WHO IS THE MAN IN THE PIC ON TOP? HE IS SO HANDSOME!

Anonymous said...

"Sarah, you seem to be taking alot of liberties. How do you know the couple was killed becuase bm did not want to see a bw with a wm? For all you know it could have been that she owed them money or she messed with one of them or any reason. I'm sure they did not just decide to murder her for no reason. I can feel the hatred for bm coming off this site and I will pray for you. Becuase you are hate filled and that's just sad...."

...........

Are you for real?

Are you saying it is ok to MURDER a human being because they "owe you money" or they "messed with you"...what ever those things mean in your CLEARLY DEMENTED MIND, CRAZY "BETH"

Oh and NEWSFLASH...PSYCHOPATHS MURDER PEOPLE EVERDAY FOR NO REASON.

Only hate I feel is coming from YOU "BETH"

You are DESPICABLE,

AN ATROCITY, now go away and don't come back!

You are a pathetic LOSER to actually DEFEND MURDERERS...maybe we should LEAVE YOU IN A ROOM WITH THEM....by your logic, if you have not borrowed money from them or "messed with them" you should be fine, RIGHT.

SMDH

Taylor-Sara said...

Jess his name is steven and he is the husband of the lady in the pic. They have been married for several years and have 1 child. The other couple is also married #2 but #3 is the actor who played Amistad. the woman is his date. (he dates all light-white women)but is not married....

Anonymous said...

And, to think I like that guy who played Amistad...obviously the feelings would not have be mutual.
a.f.

energize said...

@ Mary - you are so on target - just in my community the mass exodus of bm to other nonbw is quite noticeable. Now, those same women look EXHAUSTED, tore-up raising all those kids alone with their emotionally cripple underemployed bm. Now, that more nonbw are becoming single parents they are looking for advice from bw - not happening here. They were not looking for advice when they were thumbing their nose up at me because they thought they won some kind of grand prize and all they got was a dud.

keke said...

They should start a support service for each other. Because with more and more of them messing with bm, they'll surely need it! They'll know all about single parenthood, domestic violence, supporting families as the sole bread winner, other women calling your house threatening you over your man etc etc etc. Go head ww -take em all, but keep your supply of prozac, and mental health numbers close by....

Delishmish said...

Anon said:

I only wish DBRBM would secede from the US and take all their mammy-saviors with them. The crime rate in the US would drop overnight. There would be far fewer deadbeat dads and the literacy rate would zoom up! The street corners in black neighborhoods would be empty, and the malt liquor industry would collapse. The slang word "Ho" would quickly fall out of usage. There'd be fewer tax dollars spent on the prison system. The prisons themselves would go from overcrowded conditions to being half empty. Black women would have more of their own money to spend on their children's upkeep and education rather than on some chronically unemployed layabout."

...................

Anon..you had me at "the malt liquor industry would collapse" and the "street corners being empty"...YES PLEASE!!!...roflmaOFF

And YES to all the other comments too...sad, but true in all probability.

List of places to secede them to:

1- Alaska (sorry Alaskans..lol) but you did give US Sarah P, so now we would like to give something equally "special" to you.

2- The Frozen Tundra

3- Middle Earth (they need some color there..and all the crazies and madness will cancel each other out..hopefully)

4-Siberia

5-Mars (The Aliens will take care of THAT...and it will NOT be pleasant..lol)

6-ummm, Kentucky (sorry good, I'm sure people of Kentucky. By the way, I think a name change for your state is in order...I'm just sayin')

Please feel free to add to the list.

Anonymous said...

@ energize...I agree 100%

ann

Anonymous said...

@ keke...don't worry they will be ok.

simone

Aphrodite said...

"Now, that more nonbw are becoming single parents they are looking for advice from bw - not happening here."





This has got to be a joke. How do they figure that BW have the answer? Well some BW do- and that is to avoid DBRBM, but what makes them think that the average BW holds the answer to 'changing DBRBM' considering what has happened in the BC?


And if BW did hold the key what makes WW think they would/should share it with them when BW have been their public whipping post?

letinstar said...

i've decided long ago not to worry about what people that don't like or want me think about me ...isn't it curious as to how this bm, who should have his hands full with all the ww he can stand, has the time to worry about who bw date anyways...

Anonymous said...

Hey Letinstar..

nice to see you here. Haven't seen you commenting on Dlisted in a while.

Welcome.

Anonymous said...

That husband called Gard may be silly, but he has some damn fine taste in women. That look in her eyes alone could make me forget every other woman in the room.

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Anonymous said...

"Now, that more nonbw are becoming single parents they are looking for advice from bw - not happening here."

Bw stay out of their mess. Let them clean it up.

sam

Selena said...

"Now, that more nonbw are becoming single parents they are looking for advice from bw - not happening here."

Bw stay out of their mess. Let them clean it up.


sam

ITA!!

Anonymous said...

http://www.arrangedmarriagetv.com/video/videowindow1.html

This is an intersting video perception that I never really thought of. One of my mom's coworkers even said this to her and my mom was like whatever you say. But it does make you think.

cool_splash1 said...

Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether

Uhhhh Who gives a damn? You're free to date out, we don't belong to each other. BW TRAVEL in case you didn't know, BW are financially FREE so THEY can date and marry men of other nationalities as well, so why do you threaten us like it's an option we don't have? YOU people are crazy to THINK for a second that my whole life revolves around "YOU" and that I depend on "YOU". BW don't DEPEND on BM for anything. There's an ABUNDANCE of males all over the world, God has my back, I would be an idiot to focus on someone like YOU who doesn't want me to be happy. What power do you have again? Who the hell are YOU? God? NEGRO PLEASE! Good riddance.


Yeah, but what they forget is that these other nationalities especially outside of the U. S. have parents who will serverly hurt a fool that hurts their daughters. Another thing is that some have approve or they won't let it happen if they think the guy isn't making enough or educated enough to take care of her. Plus they don't realize women in other cultures (used to be the U. S. aswell)rated a man on how he treated the women in his family (his mother)even how he treats someone who's a waiter or janitor. And if you are an ass to hords of women especially from your own race (means momma too) then why would they want their daughters to marry these guys? Hell the girl would questioning why would I want to marry these guys?

cool_splash1 said...

You might want to do a post about this video clip I found;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-beEQaqZccI&feature=related

All I can say is OMG!!!!!
How is it possible? or is he really a racist to be with a black woman to begin with

I think he was. He probably was that you are different from the others bs. But I don't know if I agree with Montell. If this looser wants nothing to do with this child then let his ass go. You don't have to be the biolgical father to be a father. I man being around a child or not being around the child he doesn't want, might possibly hate. Hell no.

Phantom Mare said...

Anonsaid...
It would be a GOOD thing if even more bm left bw alone. Then, more sistas would be forced to direct their attention towards responsible real men who know the meaning of true masculinity. Men who respect the institution of marriage, and the importance of being a father.
***

And this is the underlying situation. THAT is why they are leaving us alone---and should for that matter because they CAN'T fit the billof being a real man and accountable for ones actions. So they blame everyone else for their lack.

More BW are no longer caring for their choices which upsets them because they can no longer PUSH BUTTONS of BW to get attention.

Anonymous said...

Enough with the ads being seeked in.

edf

Phantom Mare said...

3- Middle Earth (they need some color there..and all the crazies and madness will cancel each other out..hopefully)
***

LOLOLOL!!! Middle Earth.
I don't think nature, good english, and chivalry is their thing. They more than likely spend their time in that bar where Aragorn was found.

But then again I don't think Aragorn would have tolerated them, nor the others in that bar for that matter.*Imagine the scene*
_______________________
Yeah, but what they forget is that these other nationalities especially outside of the U. S. have parents who will serverly hurt a fool that hurts their daughters. Another thing is that some have approve or they won't let it happen if they think the guy isn't making enough or educated enough to take care of her. Plus they don't realize women in other cultures (used to be the U. S. aswell)rated a man on how he treated the women in his family (his mother)even how he treats someone who's a waiter or janitor. And if you are an ass to hords of women especially from your own race (means momma too) then why would they want their daughters to marry these guys? Hell the girl would questioning why would I want to marry these guys?
***

Excellent point.

Felicity said...

Bm can be and are very selfish and self-centred and they think the world revolves around them. Black men and black women, although they may belong to the African/Black descent group, they don't belong to each other, each free to choose, who they want to be with. Black women have to recognise that they are beautiful and there are plenty of men of quality, who want them, if black men don't want them, fine, the Lord has made an abundance of men, who want us, value us and cherish us and will love us. As usual, Sara you are on the point, the man is question is a sad pathetic loser.

cool_splash1 said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpV3u9eqUoQ&feature=related

Sparkle Rai got justice for her horrible senseless murder. He might have gotten life in prison and not death, but at his age I don't think that's going to matter anyway.

Finally bw are getting some respect. Maybe not from the bc, but this shows that people are starting to not take a blind eye anymore.

For those that don't know this man had his daughter in law killed for marrying his son because she was black. Get this the guy was so respected by the bc nobody suspected he even thought like this. Anyways is married to a white woman I think (go figure). After the murder the son left and the father (who had his own daughter in law killed for being black) raised his half black grandaughter for 8 or 9 years. How sick is that ish?

cool_splash1 said...

Oh and I forgot to mention that the man was an HBU professor.

Taylor-Sara said...

cool splash, is that the Indian father in law who hired the hitman on his daughter in law?

cool_splash1 said...

the father in law

Anonymous said...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0LBpTdk9QcY&feature=related lol this women is crazy.

Golden Silence said...

Anonymous, I had to stop listening to her when every other word out of her mouth was "n***a" this or that. That, and she kept making up words: "aksin'" (asking) and "general-alities" (generalities). She needs a good old-fashioned education and some common sense.