Ladies we will be exploring all the this blog why some women are treated as prizes and others are disrespected and just plain dissed. Yes I know some men are damaged and damaged men tend to treat certain women like garbage regardless but aside from that. Why do you think some women are usually treated so much better? Take these two examples.
There are 2 young ladies I know personally. We will call them Lisa and Janet. Lisa has been going with her boyfriend for several years and cannot get him to propose. Recently she came to me in tears and confessed that she had, had an abortion because it was what he demanded. Now this young lady is financially strapped and was not only forced to pay for the abortion by herself, but she was forced to go alone, as he refused, and she did not want anyone else to know. She felt tremendous guilt and said that she wanted the baby she had disposed of. To make matters worse now he was calling her a hoe and telling everyone that she had murdered his baby! She was sobbing and begging me to talk to him, she said she loved him and did not want to lose him.
"Lawd, what are these women thinking" I asked her why she did not seem to mind losing herself and she replied, "I'm nothing without him!" After trying to talk to her for a half hour, I gave up and advised her to seek counseling. Her shoulders sagged as she sat at her desk, meantime Janet bounded into the room her pretty face lit with excitement." Guess what she gushed John just asked me to marry him!" Lisa looked at her with near hate on her face and raged " Didn't Mike and Tony both try to marry you last year?' " What the hell is so great about YOU?' Lisa was right both men had tried to marry Janet the previous year and yes Janet is quite pretty but both Lisa and I knew it was far more than that. We had seen men treat Janet like something out of a Victorian novel. Always pulling out chairs, fawning and treating her so special. We watched as Janet slipped quietly from the room, then Lisa turned to me. "Sara, why she's won't even hardly do anything for him! She's always on the go, spending his money, and acting like her sh*t don't stink!" "why is she do lucky?" I just looked at her and shook my head I could have told her but I had a feeling she really was not ready to hear it. (Are You?-Find out in the next post....
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2 comments:
Sorry about your friend. She really needs some tough love. Usually I could care less about abortion, but know I can somewhat understand the the pro lifers. Lisa needs to break up with her boyfriend A.S.A.P. The only reason why she thinks she loves this man because she can't lover herself...She needs serious soul searching. She needs to cocoon her self and heal. I know you have great judgemnt Sara, but maybe you should stay away from her she seems toxic. No one needs all that negativity.
Janet is an prime example of what women should be. She shows confidence. She sees herslef as something. You can tell when someone is confident or not. What real man wants a unconfident woman? No REAL man does. Just my 2 cent
Pikacute said:
"Sorry about your friend. She really needs some tough love. Usually I could care less about abortion, but know I can somewhat understand the the pro lifers. Lisa needs to break up with her boyfriend A.S.A.P. The only reason why she thinks she loves this man because she can't love herself...She needs serious soul searching. She needs to cocoon her self and heal. I know you have great judgemnt Sara, but maybe you should stay away from her she seems toxic. No one needs all that negativity.
Janet is an prime example of what women should be. She shows confidence. She sees herslef as something. You can tell when someone is confident or not. What real man wants a unconfident woman? No REAL man does. Just my 2 cent"
Pikacute I'd advise agianst telling her to abandon her friend. The girl is having a hard time, and the last thing you should do is attack or abandon her. You need to address the situation with tact. Remember there is a difference in being real and being just plain cruel. You should tell her the truth, but try to avoid drawing tears just because you make someone cry does not mean that they got an "aha!" moment it means that you just made them cry. You need to talk to her to the point where she listens and learns. She needs an "Aha! So thats whats holding ME back!" I think when people get into negative situations the ones who should be there for them have a tendency to abandon them. I know we want to avoid negativity, but the reason we are on this planet is to face it head on. We are also here to help others. Your way will do more harm than good because now she will feel like God is punishing her even more, and that her friend does not give a shit about her! She needs help finding a good man, but moreso she needs help avoiding the bad ones after she gets out of her bad situation, and take time out for herself. Find a counselor for her to go to, she might be depressed. It's hard for people with emotional problems to get help. Life isn't fair we are not all born well equipped for life. Do you know how many girls got told that one day they were gonna bloom and men were going to be all over them, but it never happened? Imagine being one of those girls who never bloomed, and then felt that she had to settle for less. On top of that she felt that she had to settle because she wasn't miss social butterfly (introvert; nothing wrong with that) or miss gorgeous! Imagine that this girl has never had a father to value her and be her first love. Love is a learned behavior just like an orgasm. Alot of us were lucky to have people love us before we have loved ourselves. That is why self love is soo easy for some and harder for others. I know how she feels when it comes to morals even when it has nothing to do with dating. Bad behavior is rewarded in life, and bitches get love over good, fun loving, girls. All that aside. She needs to get away from him a.s.a.p! There is nothing there I can't believe she wasted her time like that. The fact that she wasted her time will hurt her more than the actual relationship. She needs to be in the position to receive a new lover, but she cant do that if she's holding on to mr. WRONG! The universe cant give you what you want if your hands are balled up or already full. Help her get her act together.
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