The couple on the bottom will usually engender a smile from bm, but the couples above will often draw anger and derision.... I posted the following not because I believe in dwelling on the negative, but because I want you sistas to recognize a voice of manipulation when you hear it. The following was a response re: bw dating/mating out. Don't think for one minute that bm are going to give in easily. They know the value of bw, even if they will not acknowledge it publicly. Notice how this (bm) tries to use guilt, shame, and the fear of ostracism to keep bw from exercising their options. Notice how he harps on how bm feel about seeing bw with wm, yet never seems to concern himself with how bw have felt about seeing bm with ww, FOR YEARS! Notice how everything is from a bm perspective with no thought to ours. I want you all to recognize this thought process when you see it, so you will not be thrown off by it. This man had the audacity to say that bw will not considered marriage material by bm after she has been with a wm! WTH! We all know not many bm consider bw marriage material ANYWAY!!! He goes on to say that wm will use her and discard her. My question is: Is he angry because that might happen (if she does not know how to vet the men in her life) or is he angry that this prevents bm from using her first? Because too many bw have been used, and discarded by bm to ever worry about something like that. We all know usually the ONLY men a bw does vet is the wm. She (usually) won't let him get away with anything, yet will make a concession of allowances for bm. So for him to feign worry about a bw being used by wm is almost laughable. He is not worried about all the bm out there everyday using bw-so why is worried about the wm? And then to try to use this subtle blackmail... "you won't get a bm, because we don't want a wm's leftovers.." He is not slick. I see right through his message, and who gives a damn. This is almost akin to saying to the titanic survivors, "you let us down by jumping ship, and swimming off with the wm, so we're not going to bless you with our presence anymore! Just crazy! But anyway, read the following ladies, and tell me your impression of this letter......
Can you hear the manipulation....
We need an damn image overhaul very BADLY; and if it ain't possible in this racist society; black men need to demand our own so we can have it somewhere else; even if that means total secession from the United States; because we are suffering very BADLY right now.Truth be told, black men are already in trouble in this society. The bulk of us are seen as no hopers with NO VALUE, NO MONEY, and no social status; and it is going to take a miracle from God to save the bm from this exceedingly hateful backlash that has developed against us lately--from every damn body.The media is to blame for alot of what black men are going through; as well as pushing this "Something New" agenda amongst black women.It is putting black people in a messed up situation; black women included, because unless that white man marries that sister, and takes her off the market, most black men aren't going to be happy about being with a black woman who's been with a white man; causing nothing but further division amongst black men and women.I have seen what happened to many black women who have been with white men--and other non-black men--and it didn't work out--especially, if they had a child by him, which is even worse--the bulk of them become permanent jump offs; going from man to man because no black man is going to marry them EVER. They wind up with NOBODY in their later years; black or white.That is why I hope that alot of black women know what they are doing by pushing this "Something New" bullshit; there are consequences to the shit that they are doing. If they think that black men don't care about what they are doing, and don't see what they are doing, they are wrong, and many of them will find that out later on; especially the younger black women who seem to think that what they are doing isn't going to have any consequences.Many black men don't show it, but they definitely see it, and it makes them not to mess with black women at all after awhile. I have gotten so disgusted with the actions of black women out here that even when a black girl is feeling me, I just spurn them off; because I am tired of the shit that I get from other black women, and tired of the spiteful attitude from alot of these "Something New" black women that I come across lately.Honestly, I am also tired of seeing all of these non-black men able to have their way with black women out here, and then toss them to the side when it's time for marriage. Alot of black women don't really realize how they look to black men right now. We are definitely taking notes, don't think we ain't sisters.Either a black man will try go get somebody of another nationality, or they will completely taking themselves out of the race altogether; which makes for a potential husband who is no longer in the running.They think that they don't care now, but they will 10 or 15 years down the damn road. I have seen it too much for it NOT to be true. That same good black man that they had no time for when they were young, is going to become seemingly IMPOSSIBLE for them to get as they get older.Later,
