Don't settle for the girls-when you want a MAN!!!

Don't settle for hanging with the girls if what you really want is: marriage and family......

I think many times bw are being told to wait, to pray, and to settle.

I think it's a horrible shame that other women are NEVER told to simply wait, pray or settle. When was the last time you picked up Glamour, Cosmo, etc. And they were telling their readers (who are predominantly white) to settle? The answer is you won't. See they know that these tactics DO NOT WORK, and they want their readers to live life to the fullest!! Everyone who has ever gotten what they wanted in life, has had to go after it to get it. Can you imagine what your chances are of getting the job you want without actively pursuing it? Can you imagine how many people lose weight each year without exercise, and better nutrition? Can you imagine anyone becoming big in anything without hard work, effort, and persistence? I hate that so many sistas seem to be waiting for God to send them a man. Ladies, I have to tell you all a little secret. God helps those who help themselves! Nobody gets anything without good ole effort.

The other day I was in the store. And I watched a lovely dark skinned girl walk past a very white man (I mean he was white-pink!)- He was still cute though. Anyway, I watched his head turn all the way around trying to get a better look at her. She noticed and giggled. Then while he bit his lip (obviously hoping from a sign from her) she lowered her head and hurried away. Even then he didn't give up. He followed her to the front and asked for her number. She shook her head no, all the while giggling, and making it clear (to us women anyway) that She really wanted to give it to him! The question is: If she wanted to give him the number, why didn't she? See that us, being taught that it's not lady-like to be too forward. And that you must REALLY make non-black men fight tooth and nail for your number.

That's bull ladies. You must learn the art of running just slow enough to let him catch you. This is not the movies, you may never see that man again! Learn to capture his interest. How?- Simple. Just look a few seconds too long into his eyes. Then smile softly, and slowly turn away. You can always ask a question to get a conversation started.

Men love to answer questions and look smart.

Did you know that there is a chemical released in the brain when people stare into each other's eyes? It is responsible for the feeling of lightheadedness and butterflies in the stomach. Just by staring in his eyes, you can engender that chemical, then let nature take it from there.

Ask him about himself, get him talking. People love to talk about themselves, If you don't particularly like the way you look-change it.

You can create the impression that you are sexily stout or just fat by your thinking. You can be way too skinny, or Kate Moss slim, just be your thinking. How you think, is sooo much more important than how you look! People WILL begin to see you the way you see yourself. It's so important to have a good self-image. There are certainly ways to help it along like exercise good nutrition and better dressing. I see people all the time, that carry themselves like bags of garbage. I also see women everyday who carry themselves like models. I notice that they are the ones the men go after even if they are not model-looking.

I know someone who looks like Wanda on living color (I kid you not!) Everyone says she's the ugliest woman they know. Yet, this woman has been married 3 times and now in the process of divorcing her husband so she can marry husband number 4!!! She has always had men take care of her. She uses work to find her next catch, and not for any financial gain, and she always has the best of everything. Do you know why? Because she believes she's just as attractive as anyone, and I guess men must start to believe it as well. This is no small feat, as this really is an unattractive woman. So if she can convince herself that she's hot, what's your excuse? Don't wait on a man. Don't wait on anything, you really want. Life is just too short. We have to snatch happiness while we breathe, because truly we're just a blip on the radar of eternity.

I hate that churches in particular will tell women to wait on a husband. Sometimes they will even tell them to put marriage off because that may be what God wants. Let me tell you something. The bible says; I come so that they might have life, and have it more abundantly!!!
Doe's that sound like God wants you to put your happiness off? Be very wary of people who would mislead you for their own selfish gain. The church lives off of bw. They do not want bw happily wrapped around husbands at night. They want them there, crying, begging, and pleading for a change while they fill the collection plates and do all the menial tasks of the church. Never listen to anyone telling you how to get out of a hole, if he benefits by you staying in it! Do you honestly think he's going to give you an accurate answer? The fact is there are millions of good white men in this world. I know there is a shortage of good blk men. (many are already taken) but there are many, white ones and other colors. There is no reason for you sistas to ever be lonely. Stop listening to the profits of doom, get out there and flirt until you get it right, then snatch yourself a good one, and don't look back....