When the guards, protectionists, and saboteurs are black women!!!........

Some bw are set up to be gatekeepers at the exits of the BC. Many are angry that bm don't want them, and hell bent to make everyone pay!

Some become enraged at other bw for having the nerve to be attracted to wm, and for acting on that attraction. And some are even angry at wm for being so attractive, and appealing!!!

Did you ladies know that many of the protectionists, and guards at the gates of many black enclave hellholes, are female? You see men are smart enough to realize the women often listen to women. Women often emulate other women, and women will often try to please other women, especially if she is an alpha female. The problem is, if we listen to women who do not have our best interests at heart then we'll often be lead blindly right into the pits of hell. Did you know that many of Jim Jone's favorite, and highest ranking associates, were women? Why do you think he did that? Because he knew he needed WOMEN to lead other women into the pit of torment, he called the family...

It's true, that many of us are more apt to trust women than men, but what do you do about women who are mean spirited, jealous, or just plain evil? How do you handle it? Would you try to love this person into changing, or would you leave them to their own devises? First of all, sistas, I want to say I have always told y'all to follow your instincts. And that applies to male as well as female persons. The truth is some women in these blk enclaves are just as deadly, vile, and morally bankrupt as many of the men. They're like the living dead. They've been infected by the virus of hatred, It peruses their system like a fast moving venom, and soon is projected outward. It would be wonderful if we could embrace all bw as sistas and show each other love and compassion in an ongoing open manner. But many of you know all too well, sometimes the only thing you do with some sistas, is to get away from them as quickly as possible.

You see, some women are so bm identified that they will even sabotage and try to hurt other bw if they see us escaping the confines of the black hole ( ghetto, inner cities, blk male dominated domains) Some bw have had their minds so warped by the severe indoctrination that takes place in the bc, that they become brain washed and an accomplice, like Patty Hurst with her kidnappers. Many often feel that they are saving the black race by keeping the women away from anything non-black. However, it's very telling that very few bw, are engaged in openly keeping bm away from white/non black women. Some lost and indoctrinated sistas will even fight tooth and nail for white women, yet throw bw under the bus every chance they get. You see they know this behavior is pleasing to bm. This is also something you see in bm everyday. Day in and out, we see bm who hate with religious fervor all white men yet cannot get enough white women to satisfy their eternal crave for white flesh. They claim to hate all things white but totally identify with white so badly, they try to become pseudo white men, and will hold in very high esteem any and all ww regardless of looks, education, age etc. They have turned the racism and subjugation that they've experienced into an internal animosity. Consequently all things black strike them as lower, less than, and valueless. Yet when they look in the mirror and see the black faces, and kinky hair, the rage comes to the surface, and must be released- usually onto the most vulnerable victims.....

The pathology of female hatred is similar. Many bw are grotesquely angry over the lack of real men in the bc. Many bw see all the hatred directed toward bw coming from bm and blame other bw for that anger/hatred. They don't see that what is in gravitates toward the outside, and that these sick twisted men are responsible for their own feelings and beliefs. Instead these women who have become so bm-identified will often try to 'get back at other women' for 'driving bm away' They will not admit to themselves or anyone else that bm leaving, is a blessing from God, and that no woman should try to keep a man who does not want to be kept. No, they lack the critical neurons ( due to constant programming) to make these distinctions. In their minds, if 'other ' bw would behave and be what bm want, then 'THEY' would have a good bm. Due to this mind set, many bw regard other bw as nothing more than competition, and never with a sense of sisterhood and high regard. These women are often insidious, and quite damaged. They will often turn on other females who have desirable bm (white women) or who defiantly disregard bm (evolved black women) They get their sense of self worth from the pat on the head that bm give them, and pretend that is all the sustenance that is required to maintain life. They are often secretly miserable, lonely, covetous, maligning, mean spirited, and jealous.

Many times these women will consider any woman who has a desirable element to be a target. This includes looks, man, hair, skin tone, education, personality, career, children, (or lack of children-depending on how they see it) etc. This can even go so far to include tangible things such as cars, or houses. Their jealousy prevents them from being happy for anyone else, and to blindly go into a semi-rage at the thought of another woman having more, or better than them. This is why Usher's wife was so hated on. The fact that she was dark and large boned, in their opinion already categorized her as unappealing. (this is how many of them see themselves- due to programming) the fact that she managed to land one of the top recording stars in the world without looking like Beyonce, made them instantly hate her. They've ripped her to shreds because in their diseased minds, bw *should * be on the bottom and their lives have paid tribute to this belief. To see other women breaking the mold frightens, and confuses them. But more than that, it throws their glaring failures in their own face. *If she can attract a high quality man as a dark divorcee with multiple children and no celebrity status of her own- why do they have baby daddies who only pay nocturnal, solicitous, and carnal visits?.....

The depravity of this mindset can even extend to their own children, and other people they *should love*. Some bw will even engage in sexual liaisons with white men (although they may hate them on behalf of bm), and then will mistreat the offspring from these encounters, because she/he has some of that *hated white blood* Yes, some women are really THAT confused, and messed up! Below is a video of a so-called mother supposedly grooming her beautiful biracial daughter's hair. Look closely as she happily tortures the child for having thick beautiful hair and being mixed. Watch her evil grin as she deliberately tangles the child's hair again and again while under the pretense of *combing it*. Then she holds the poor child down while wildly brushing her thick tangled hair, all the while cursing repeatedly at the little girl and gleefully telling her she had no f%$#*& father!!! (like it was the child's fault) and to shut the f*&% up! The malicious pleasure on this mother's face was quite telling, as was her making fun of her son for being biracial (this sick woman obviously thinks biraciallity is an affliction) Her friend laughs and giggles with appalling glee in the background as the little girls cries and screams and begs her to stop. Watching this video, made my stomach turn. There is no love for her own child displayed in this woman's demeanor. Only evil glee. It almost seemed like the little girl represented all the hatred she had for wm, and she was transferring that hatred to her. At the same time I honestly felt immense jealousy radiating from this woman in regard to her child, possibly because of her ad-mixture. (we all know, when this child is older, she will have the kind of looks bm crave-ie, long hair, fair smooth skin, European features, etc) If anyone knows what actions are being taken against this horrible woman, please let us know-here is the link.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W6hxh4vysqo

Basically, I truly believe the only way to deal with damaged females is to do exactly what you would do in the case of damaged males-get away from them. They will poison everything they touch, and they almost never have good intentions. I know you ladies have noticed that some women will go out of their way to discourage sistas from stepping out of the box in ANY way, be it, marriage, career, hobbies, pursuits, education etc. I'm sure you've even had friends to this to you from time to time. The truth is some bw recognize that sistas MUST step out of the box, but their innate gatekeeper training, and the fact that they could never see themselves being so bold, guide them to keep that other woman in at all costs.

Do you know why there is no lid on the crab barrel in sea food restaurants? Its because if a crab tries to escape the other crabs will latch on to it, and pull it back down- They will never let a crab escape since they are in bondage. They never see that if they helped each other, they could all be free. Instead, they are focused on keeping each other down, and this is why none of them are able to escape! This is also why there is no need for a lid. The fellow crabs become the guards at the gates. This is essentially what some bw have become. They may be old, too set in their ways, or have considerable clout in the community, or some other reason that makes escape for them a less than viable option. Therefore, since they know there is no hope for them to lead a better life, they will stalk, bully, and prevent other women from getting out with every available resource they possess. These include friendship, gossip, love, hate reputation, guilt, need for approval etc. The kudos they receive from bm are the icing on the cake, the other entreatment is the sense of reprisal against life by preventing another woman from having betterment in the face of their glaring shortcomings. Wherever you go, and whatever you do in life-be on the look out for these surreptitious, dangerous malefactors. They'll be the ones wearing invisible tattoos reading: "Born to Sabotage!"

How bw are urged to carry the load, and play the part.....

Couples like the 1st one are almost never shown in the Hw spin machine.

Yet couples like Tiger and the nanny (aka fake model) are shown constantly. This serves 2 purposes. a. convince ww they are still the most beautiful and sought after.

b. To convince bw that they are not!

Lovely Sanaa plays the part of a young woman who falls for and stays with an abysmal loser (Westley) in Disappearing acts..... (parts like these are designed to show bw this is all you deserve-be grateful....)

I was watching a few days ago at the supermarket as a young blk couple approached their car in the parking lot of our local market. (next to us) As they reached the car, the male took the child from the shopping basket, and got into the car. At first I thought he was simply going to place the child into her car seat and then get the groceries. But instead after he had placed the child into the car seat, he got in himself, and proceeded to smoke a cigarette. Me and a friend starred in surprise as the woman was forced to load, what must have been about 300.00 worth of groceries by herself-with a man sitting in the car smoking! She then turned and went to put the cart back. As she came back, she noticed us watching, and her worn young face filled with embarrassment. She knew the situation was unnatural, yet she allowed it to happen. Their car was very old and looked like it had long ago seen better days. As the woman started the car, it creaked, coughed, and groaned to life. The man in the car began to laugh and told her she needed to get rid of this piece of sh*t. The woman sighed, and snappily asked him where she would get the money since she had all the household bills to pay. At this point, he got an uncomfortable look on his face and shrugged. He had lost interest in the conversation. My friend shook her head as we drove away.

"What good is a man, if he can't do anything for you?" she murmured. "I don't know " I answered.

"But I do know I'd slam the door if he ever darkened my doorstep"

My friend was quiet a moment. Then she said sadly:

"Why do we bw always seem to carry all the damn burdens?-he didn't even put the groceries in the car, and now he expects her to find a way to get herself another car all by herself!-what the hell does she need him for???" I shrugged. she's a people watcher who always asks intense questions, but I knew there really was no answer. That woman obviously felt that was the best she could do. She was wrong, of course, but as long as she believes it, -that will be her reality. I thought about it again as I dropped my friend off, and passed another young mother struggling up a hill with 3 sacks of groceries, and no car. Obviously someone was sexing her as she had 3 small children with her. I wondered as I passed, why she would allow a man to leave her with 3 children, who did not have the initiative to even provide her with the most basic of cars..... Basically bw have been sold a false bill of goods that they must take on the man's role, in addition to their own. This is why so many bw will work 2-3 jobs, and still try to take care of numerous children, and play the part of the mule to for many people.....

Disappearing Acts.........

I was further reminded of the whole situation later that night, as I sat down with my family and watched a lifetime movie called Disappearing acts. It starred Westley Snipes and Sanaa Latham.

Basically, the main character, (Sanaa ) falls in love with Westley's character. They date and eventually have a baby. Unfortunately for her, he is a loser who cannot seem to get his act together. (Although it was patently clear that he was expected to get sympathy points for trying.) He had all these dreams, but nothing seemed to pan out. Probably because he puts a very minuscule amount of effort into all his endeavors. Anyway, when she gives birth to the baby, he's once again out of work, so she has to immediately go back to work as a teacher, and is forced to take a very abbreviated maternity leave. She's still suffering the effects of child birth, yet she cannot even stay home to make a full recovery! This causes immense tension between them, as she is very resentful, and unhealed. He pretends not to notice, as he flounders around making very brief efforts to find work. (often claiming it's too cold) He then leaves her to struggle paying all the bills while he lays around her apartment on the couch. She grows more and more frustrated, and angry as he 'forgets' to pick up their son, leaves the house filthy-even though he's there all day, and waits for her to do everything for the baby-in addition to her paying ALL the bills. She cries herself to sleep and basically worries all the time. I believe the final catalyst was her getting another bill she could not pay. They began to argue, and he asks her what she needs him for. She replies that she doesn't know. They stare at each other in shock. Then she goes into the bedroom and lays down quietly. A little while later, he comes in, and looks at her laying there looking beautiful. He immediately whips off his shirt and tries to make love to her. At first she responds and they begin to take off their clothing. But soon it seems as if the resentments overwhelm her, and she pushes him away, and tells him to be gone the next day. The following day, he seems to feel that she's wrong to ask him to leave and begins to bust up all her furniture with a hammer! Now keep in mind, that she has to take care of HIS child all by herself, as well as pay ALL the bills, and now replace all the things he has broken! She comes homes and cries over the damage. Despite this, she misses him (for some reason) and they soon get back together. I guess this is their version of a black woman's Cinderella. In my estimation this movie came much closer to a nightmare, than a fairy tale.

I resented this movie on several counts. First of all, lifetime NEVER makes movies in which ww are expected to settle for broke, down and out, unambitious, go nowhere men. Never is this 'choice' marketed to ww. They are almost always paired to men who have 'something' to offer them and their offspring. Almost never have I seen the ww encouraged to date, mate and marry the loser. And I certainly have never seen on ANY movie, a ww have to go back to work unhealed because a man can't provide-AND HAVE HER KEEP HIM! See they don't want ww to even consider doing anything so stupid-that's why you will never see it in a movie. As far as Sanaa's character goes: Now she gets to carry the baby AND THE MAN! This is no dream relationship, this is a nightmare. Along with bm who try hard to normalize this nightmare, I often notice the media, joining the coalition of bw subjugation at the executive level. They are ginormous culprits in the -use-a-sista-brigade. They seem hell bent on convincing bw that they have 3 functions in this world:

1. The Sapphire. (New York is an exp.) when you see a loud, vulgar, often ghetto acting, Ebonics speaking, flailing, neck twisting caricature on television, this is their version of the Sapphire.

She is there to make ALL bw look like gutter trash, who cannot carry on a civil conversation without resorting to an animistic scream: "Don't make me CUT you!!!"

She is quick to fight, or start arguments especially with precious ww who are innocent and in the wrong place at the wrong time. She is unfit for marriage or any societal union, as she is wild, untamed, and lacking the sense to talk out her issues without resorting to: "cuttin a hoe!"

2. The Jezebel. This bw is the ready slut that movies often use in the background. She has no moral compass, and no human qualities, or any qualities that would endear an average movie goer to her. She is there merely to satisfy the lascivious needs of the men, as well as provide a ready target for white female aggression. She is almost never attractive, and is so pathetic, and un-enticing, only the most scabby abnormal men of any race would find her appealing. This does not mean however, that she is not used by numerous men as a sexual toilet and defiled, and dehumanized on a regular basis. After all, she is barely human-what difference could it possibly make....

3. last but not least is the MAMMY. This is a cinema favorite, and the only role in which a bw is usually given accolades. She is asexual, unattractive, and usually very overweight. But she is also very helpful, knows her place, and 'Yesm's" with a knee jerk response. Like a professionally trained monkey. She loves the family or friend she adores with all her over- sized heart, and fails to realize that she is never really loved in return as much as she is depended upon and needed. She is quite happy go lucky, as her undersized cranium does not allow her to see the stage of derision and inequality upon which, she plays her part. She gets her sense of self worth and kudos from 'pleasin the white folks' and rarely ever thinks of her own needs. After all even she knows she does not count, and is simply there to provide a service. Although she is allowed to pretend she matters which the other two players are not. (Think the fat black maid in Gone with the wind. ) she was a perfect mammy.....

These are the 3 roles, Hollywood is most comfortable with a bw playing. All 3 are soul destroying paradies, and all 3 are extremely unappealing, and do considerable harm to a bw's self image, as well as our collective public image. You see, Hollywood has to do this: Too many wm would express open interest in bw if not for the negative publicity, and open malignment rained down on bw. There is a method to the madness. And that is the keep the bw as unappealing as possible in order to keep the number of IR romances/marriages down, while simultaneously keeping white male dollars in the pockets of deserving ww. And make no mistake about it. If Hw. were not afraid of IR, and the resulting collapse of the ww's pedestal, then they would not need to corroborate these images, and caricatures again and again. This is why so many semi-attractive, older bw are used constantly. While the younger, and far more beautiful bw are held in obscurity (always in the back ground, and given dismissive parts) Notice how ww who are semi- to -very unattractive, are held up as somewhat pretty (Sarah Jessica Parker) (Melissa Gilbert) (Jaime Curtis) etc This is because they get a certain amount of beauty points -bps just for being white, and of course a wg should ALWAYS get to play the princess regardless of looks.... Harry was always the expert at breaking down this type of conditioning. But we'll delve further into that later.. Thanks for tuning in....

Why we must have HIGH Standards......

The kind of man you get will be a direct reflection of the kind of standards you hold....

Why do you think the Dallas Cowboy cheerleaders are the best in the world?

I can tell you in one simple word. *Standards* It's because they have the highest STANDARDS of any cheerleaders in the world. Standards are the parameters of behavior in our lives. They determine what is acceptable to us, and what is not. I remember watching an episode of the DCC on tv, and being awed by how perfect the routine was. As I watched the girls trying to make the team, it was quite evident just how extremely high the criteria was. The women had to be very attractive, very thin, very athletic, toned, physically strong, good dancers along with grace, stage presence, and gymnastic abilities. The standards were so high in fact, that many girls began to cry upon finding out what was expected of them. They 'knew' they did not have what it took to reach them. The two women who head the team told one girl that her face did not look young and fresh. (yes, she was young) but they said it was completely obvious to them, that she had engaged in many anti-social behaviors that were now showing on her face, and that she was not a candidate for training school, and that she would never be. Another girl was dismissed because she had naked pictures on the Internet, and they told her that this was conduct unbecoming a DCC candidate, and that she was dismissed as well. I watched them send girls home for weight, body shape, lack of charm, lack of dance skills, lack of etiquette etc. Time and again, I noticed that as hard as they were on the white girls, they were harder still on the black girls. One wg was warned 3 times about her weight before she was dismissed. Yet I watched as one bg was dismissed with her very first bad performance. She cried, and begged to have one more chance, but they refused. This was a recurring theme, the bgs were given one shot deals again and again. Now this is not fair, but it IS life. The truth is the high standards for others, will always be higher still for us. No bg/bw can afford to delude herself about this. We must always be on our A-game. The most interesting part though is that of the bgs left, they were the best of the best. One was considered the best dancer on the team. One won for most athletic when she beat everyone in the competition, and one was considered as having the most stage presence etc.... The point is the bgs knew they had to be the best of the best in order to make the team -and they were.....

But lets apply this to another area for a moment.

I have a male cousin who is a typical damaged bm in a blk enclave. He's in the hospital right now due to the fact that one of the females he cheated on (There are 6 that we know of!) stabbed him when she found out that he had 3 other girls pregnant, while living with her. In fact, at a recent family reunion, one of 'his women' came with one of the babies, and he had to ask her his son's name!!! The reason many bm act this way is because the standards for a good bm have become so lackadaisical as to be almost non existent. Once upon a time the standards for being a man were much higher in the bc, and this is why we had men like my grandfather who, although he was Native American, married my grandmother, and worked to give her the best life he possibly could. He knew her family would not tolerate her marrying a bum. This is the reason that all their children were born IN wedlock, and me and all of my sisters and brothers were born in wedlock. It's also the reason that so many blk children today are NOT born in wedlock. Back in time the standards were so much higher across the board. The truth is if bm collectively and consciously decided to raise their standards of just fatherhood, the bc would be a far different place than it is today.

It makes me think of the bm of old, like for instance, I remember reading about Benjamin Banneker. This man was a mathematician, Astronomer, Inventor, and Surveyor! This man was so accomplished and so intelligent, that he correctly predicted a solar eclipse on the exact day it happened, using a complex mathematical equation. In 1792 he published an almanac that was so definitive, accurate and abstruse, that it caused Thomas Jefferson to reverse his contention that blacks were internally, and intellectually inferior to whites. Basically this man was a genius. Why? because he had the standards of a genius! (BTW-scientists have proven that geniuses are created far more often then they are born)

I also remember reading about Frederick Douglas, and the context in which he addressed the Dred Scott Decision. Dred Scott was a slave who sued his owner's wife, Ms Emerson, for his freedom (after the death of Dr Emerson) He felt he was entitled to live free because he had lived several years in free territories. He initially won, his battle (1850) but the decision was overturned by the Missouri Supreme Court in 1852. He appealed to the US Supreme court with the help of abolitionist friends and supporters. But in 1857, the US Supreme Court handed down it's decision:

***As a black man, Dred Scott was NOT a citizen of the United States and had no right to sue anybody. Furthermore, the court ruled, that congress could not prevent slave owners form taking their property (slaves) anywhere in the country.

This decision dealt a serious blow to the anti-slavery movement, because it then retroactively made prior anti-slavery laws, unconstitutional.

Chief Justice Taney declared:

"Blacks are an inferior class of beings who have no rights to which the white man is bound to respect."

Many blacks were ready to give up at that point, but Frederick Douglas roused them to fight on, with words to the effect: " The Supreme Court is not the only power in this world, and Judge Taney cannot bail out the ocean or pluck a silvery star of liberty from our Northern sky...." (In other words Taney was not God!) There was more, but I don't remember it verbatim. What I do remember is being deeply inspired by his fortitude, and strength. I remember asking my mother how ppl living in such oppressed conditions found the strength to keep going, to fight on, and march on in the face of such bigotry and hatred. She told me that they had very high standards for their lives that they were willing to die for. She said they knew they would probably perish before those dreams were realized. But they knew that if they fought hard enough, and long enough, and never gave up, that some day their children might come into the world, and have a better life....

Anyway, this is not a history lesson, but I will never forget those words. I think about these things all the time, and I wonder how our ancestors must think to themselves: I went through SOOOOOO much so that they might have better lives, and the right to live free and look how they have exploited and denigrated those gifts....and it makes me so sad.

The truth is, today, many ppl have no standards for their lives. Too many bw have high standards for their own lives (Education, career) but low standards for the men in their lives (any man will do, type mentality) Ladies, the truth is, anything you don't have standards for will fail in your life! You must have standards for everything you expect to be productive, and constructive in your life. This includes, but is not limited to: your children, your fiances, your career, education, and your HUSBAND. I'm a firm believer in using obstacles to your benefit. This is how many of our ancestors were able to keep pushing, instead of laying down to die. They saw that whites would not let them into their community, so they formed their own. They supported blk businesses, and helped each other all they could. The church is an old time relic from this nostalgic period of affinity, and brotherhood in the BC. But things are drastically different today. Today, bw must adapt to those changes, as well as others in this life. If the bc is no longer the bastion of love, protection and support, that it once was, (and it's def. not! -now it's a hovel of hell) then we need to move on. If a school you have your child in, is substandard, then remove your children and find a better school. If there is something you want desperately to do in this life, yet you lack the resources, -then find a way to get the resources to do it anyway. Life is fleeting, and short! Never keep putting off the things that you want. Never lower the standards you have for your life. And of course if bm cannot measure up to par, (don't meet your standards) then for heaven's sake-leave them where they lay, and move on!

The biggest problem in the bc today, is that we have lessened the standards so much. Our musical standards have lessened, and now we have trash 'simulating' music. Our standards of the youth have lessened, and now we have young children with no respect for their elders, or themselves. Cursing out women in the streets and walking around with their pants hanging around their knees etc. Our standards of etiquette have been lowered, and now ppl get on television and air all their dirty laundry. And our standards for bm have gotten so low, many bm will cop an attitude for being EXPECTED to take care of their own children!! We have got to life our standards back up, and stop accepting trash! Take a tip from our ancestors, don't lower the standards, find other ways to meet them.

The reason America is the best country in the world today is because our STANDARDS are the highest! When countries loosen the standards for their citizens (Iraq, Iran, China) come to mind, you can literally watch the lives of the citizens unravel, and deteriorate. (famine, wide spread abuse, internal wars, and high degrees of misogyny) to name a few....If you want to have a great life, and a great man, or even just a great career, then you must keep your standards up, and adjust your life to get what you want. You can have almost anything you want, but only if you are willing to put in the work, have high standards, and refuse to accept less.........

Read Karma story: -on white chocolate preferred....

The myth that white men only want black women for SEX!!!

Choose your man carefully. Prince Albert (L) is a man who is very attracted to bw, but obviously would not marry one.

On the other hand, MANY wm, are more than happy to marry bw-tune out those who say differently, they are misguided... (or lying)

Let's face it-

Many bw believe wm only want them for sex because they are told this on a continuous basis. Usually by bm (who want to use them first, and the bc-who need mules to carry the burdens) Bw are constantly told this is All wm could ever want them for. Even the media, seems to have a vested interest in corroborating this misconception. Usually, because they do not want bw to take the choicest white men. (Remember what I've told y'all. Never trust someone to tell you how to get out of a ditch, if he has a vested interest in you staying in it.....

Today, I'm going to answer this question for you once and for all.

The truth is: ----------SOME DO! ----And SOME DON'T-------------

The simple truth is, (regardless of race-) SOME men are jerks and will always try to use women. But for many men, sex simply becomes an unplanned opportunity that they could not refuse-when offered. Ladies, let me explain something. Sex to a man (this applies to most men) is like a good cup of coffee. It's hot, it's delicious, and it's over.... They'll wash themselves off, and go on their way. Many men will even have sex with women they don't like! As women, you have to stop mixing sex with love, they are NOT the same. Now I don't' think it makes a man a bad guy if he sleeps with a woman he is not in love with, or barely knows. I def. think it makes him stupid in this day and age, but that's another story... Bottom line, women need to be VERY slow to sleep with a man. like I've said many times before, men are just not smart enough to hide their *real* selves for long. All you have to do to vet him is keep your legs closed and your ears open. He will tell you EXACTLY who he is.....

As for the question, do wm just want bw for sex---- Let me tell you ladies something ----

ALL men want you for sex!!! He won't approach if he thinks he is NEVER going to be able to sleep with you, but that does not mean, that's ALL he wants....

It's interesting to me that so many bw write and tell me that they want to date out, but are afraid wm will try to use them for sex! Yet many of these same women will relate to me that they are unwed mothers or have been used, and hurt repeatedly by bm. My question is:

WHY AREN'T BLACK WOMEN WORRIED ABOUT BM USING THEM FOR SEX???

Because the majority of them, (BM) most definitely do use bw for sex, (and money, housing, laundry, etc) and yet many of you are so busy worrying about what wm are 'going' to use you for, you can't see that bm have been using some of you for years!!

Should you vet white men?? --Girl YES!-vet ALL MEN!!!--- but then close your legs, smile, and listen to what he's really saying/doing. Many women do not seem to realize that they are setting the tone, when they first meet a man. This is why your momma always told you to make a good impression, because you can never go back and re meet that person for the first time. In other words, if you come off as a tramp when he first meets you, then what exactly do you expect him to believe-except that you are a tramp? It' s so very important to set the tone in the beginning and establish in his mind that you are a lady, and that you expect to be treated like one. This is especially important because the jerks who have no intentions of treating you well, will begin to fade away, and the quality men will still be there. Always know that you are setting the tone when you first meet....Now back to men...

What many women do not know is that men will often put a women in 4 distinct categories when he meets a woman.

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a. friend/companion/confidante

b. sidepiece, week end fling-other woman

c. mother-like, maternal -relatives

d. WIFE-wife material!

He will NEVER tell you he is doing this, he will simply do it. You must NEVER allow him to put you in Cat B. Let me tell you a few things about sex that most younger women do not know...

Sex is NOT a bonding agent! You cannot use it to pull him to you. LOVE is the bond, Sex is just the expression of the love! Never pass yourself around like a box of chocolate! Even if no one else knows (say you move to a new state) In your heart you will still know, and your soul will ache. You are much too precious to be used as a sexual toilet!

Remember in the Color Purple when Shug says to Cilly (sp?) "You act like he just goin to the bathroom on you Ms cilly! "
And Cilly shrugs sadly, and replies:

"That's what it feel like. He don't ever ask me nothin bout myself or nuthin! He just climb on top of me an-do his bizness" .......

That's a perfect example of sex without love and intimacy. Her soul was aching because she KNEW she was being used, and sexed by someone who didn't give a damn about her. I see no reason for any women to WILLINGLY subject themselves to this self esteem killing behavior or have to live with the regret of indulging in this type of behavior. Save yourself for the one that matters!

Never should it be easy for a man to get you into bed (unless he's your hubby!) HONEY-when it comes to playing hard to get-you should NOT be playing!

... But back to topic. Vet all men because some wm simply love black booty, and will most def. indulge at every whim if given the opportunity. But MANY wm, are looking for someone to LOVE, someone to mother his children, someone to marry, and he is not concerned with color, if you're not....

Lastly, I think I told you ladies, to LISTEN and he would tell you... I want to give an example of what I was talking about. A few years ago, I was a consultant at a particular office in town. There were a few wm there who would *seem* to follow me around. One was always asking me out. He still wore his deceased wife's ring on his finger, and always spoke of things that meant a great deal to him. I noticed whenever he mentioned his wife, he would cock his head to the side, and look up to the left. Then a sweet smile would come over his face and he would tell me how much I reminded him of his late wife. I knew he was picturing her in the past and I could tell by the look on his face, how much she meant to him. But soon, he began to *chase* me in earnest, and when he spoke to me, I began to see him look up with that same dreamy look -to the right. I knew he was picturing me in his future, and I also knew he was falling hard.... The point is: by simply paying attention to the myriad of clues he was leaving, I could guess what was going on long before he confessed it.... Now the other guy always seemed to be talking to my chest instead of me. Even when he leaned over me, and whispered how pretty he thought I was, his eyes were on the top of my dress. I knew right away what *type* he was, and I avoided him. But he was very persistent, and always managed to be where I was. He also was annoyingly touchy-feely, and leering. One day he actually had the nerve to send me an email saying something to the effect of -he was going to throw me across my desk- and ravage me! This is how I handled it.

When he came to my office to ask me if I had gotten his email, I looked up, and blinked several times like I was an airhead. Then I turned and looked him right in the eye, and said. "Oh, I figured you had confused my email, with someone else, because I was sure you 'knew' better than to disrespect me like that!" I then finished it off with a blank look. He was suddenly embarrassed, and stuttered an apology to me.... Weeks later, he got involved with a bw officer, and sexed her until his wife found out, and got her fired! (Yes, the jerk was married!) When it hit the fan, he never came forward in her defense.... See, she was just a side piece to him......

Anyway ladies, that's what I want to make clear to you. Most men will use you as a side piece if you let them. Nice guys, jerks, even religious men (IF you let them) They all have sexual urges, and they will use you to alleviate those urges IF you let them....

So trust your own instincts, you will come to know which wm is sincere and which one is just after a good time, and all you have to do is LISTEN!!

UNBELIEVABLE --- BET reaches an all time low!!!

Jaime Foxx starts off the evening insulting MJ fans, and insisting on calling Michael a black man -"He belonged to us!-and we shared him with the world!" he bellowed.

Any fool knows that's not true! Michael loved all people of all colors, and truly he belonged to the world-not just us....

Well BET does it again. It adeptly brings us to a new all time low, and just when you think the network just can't get anymore sleazy. My hat is off, Debra Lee, and her cohorts managed to pull it off. I'm referring of course to the so-called Michael Jackson tribute, that wasn't. In fact, Michael was barely mentioned. But what was highlighted, and presented to America, was a foul, gyrating, lyrical nonsense 'performance' passing as musical entertainment. It was then topped off in it's debauchery with a heaping dose of child porn. If you saw the show, then you saw Lil Wayne and his cohorts rapping to some God-forsaken garbage 'about f(*&^%) every girl in the world! This coonified, brain dead, little amoral puppet came out swaying, and grinning like a modern day minstrel show, while he brought black ppl to the bottom of the cesspool where he and his friends, no-doubt, live. While he rapped out this lyrical feces, out come 4 cute little (9-12) year old black girls. At this point, I'm shocked, thinking they are going to stop this nonsense, but no. Ppl kept bobbing and dancing in place while these little girls gathered around to be exploited. And it gets worse, as the lyrics went into rather graphic detail, and had to be bleeped out, I watched as one of Lil Wayne's damaged sidekicks began to chant how he loved to get the 'Spanish girls to 'scream "Oh Papi" as he stuck his d(*&) in. At this point I was so shaken and mortified, I had to leave the room. I'm going to try to post this video for those of you who think I'm exaggerating.... How long are bp going to actively participate in their own demise. Not one adult in that audience stood up and spoke up for those little girls. Truly, most of our enemies seem to be internal.... The only way to describe BET, and the amoral pygmies that run it-is HOT GHETTO MESS...

Don't bother writing letters BET does not care-don't you realize that yet? The only way to deal with these life-lacerating maggots is to get them off the air!

Go to what about our daughters-both videos are there (scroll down to see little girls)

http://www.whataboutourdaughters.com/

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The open letter sent to Clutch magazine -below-

FICTIONAL character.

Dear Debra Lee,
I’m Janita Patrick, a 15-year-old African-American female from Cincinnati. Recently, I watched the 2009 BET Awards and felt the strongest urge to reach out to the program. My family is of the typical middle-class variety; both parents and four brothers. See, I’m a junior in high school (got skipped), so naturally EVERYBODY in my age group watches BET. I’m used to seeing the sagging pants, tattoos, lack of emphasis on reading and respecting women that makes up your videos. People in my class live this out everyday, while teachers tell us that we’re acting just like the people in your shows.
In your shows. That struck me as odd, because I would think that with your show being the primary outlet for black entertainers and musicians, and considering the context of blacks in this country, there’s a social responsibility factor to consider. I would never blame BET alone for the way a great deal of my classmates act and talk and dress. Everybody makes their own choices. However, if anybody is aware of the power of television on impressionable minds, it’s the people running the television operations. If you are not aware, then perhaps you shouldn’t be running the operations.
Guess who watches your network the most? Not those who are intelligent enough to discern foolishness from substance, but those who are barely teenagers, impressionable and believing. It’s awfully cruel to plant seeds of ignorance in fertile minds. You know it’s really bad when the co-founder of BET, Sheila Johnson, said that she “really doesn’t watch it” anymore.
I am constantly fighting against the images and messages put forth on your program. What made you think that it’s okay to bring my classmates on stage to dance behind Lil Wayne and Drake to a song talking about boffing “every girl in the world”? Why does reality train wrecks have to be thrown in our faces? Are you aware of the achievement gap going in inner-city African-American communities? A report from America’s Promise Alliance, a non-profit group started by Colin Powell, recently stated that 47 percent of high school students in the nation’s top 50 cities don’t graduate. This isn’t because of BET per se, but I don’t see any episodes on your show doing anything to counteract this disturbing trend. In fact, your show is a part of this cycle of media depicting us at our worst.
My older brother told me something about profit being the number one goal for every business. I’m not sure I understand what that means, but I do know that your shows have to be entertaining enough to generate viewers, which is how you make your money. But surely our culture is rich enough to entertain without anything extra to “boost” ratings; why the over-the-top foolery? I listen to classmates talk about Baldwin Hills like it’s the Manhattan Project. It doesn’t take much effort to produce a throng of degenerative reality shows, nor does it take much to eliminate socially conscious shows off the air. MTV isn’t much better, but since when does two wrongs ever make a right? It’s one thing for white television shows to depict us in a particular way, but for black television shows to do it is just baffling.
Why do you hate us?
All of the values that my parents seek to instill in me and my brothers seems to be contradicted by a more powerful force from the media, and your show is at the forefront. Your network is the only network that features rap videos and shows exclusively to children of my color. I know that you have no control over the music that the artists put out, but you do have influence as to how you air these videos. I’m sure if a stand was taken to use the talent in your organization to actually crank out thought-provoking entertaining shows and videos, then artists will follow suit. Being that they need you as much as you need them.
There was one awkward segment in the BET Awards when Jamie Foxx singled out three black doctors-turned-authors, but the introduction was so powerless that many of the viewers had no idea who they were. Had they been introduced as Sampson Davis, Rameck Hunt and George Jenkins, three brothers who overcame major obstacles to become a success without the use of lyrics that berate women, the sell of substance that destroy communities or through raps about loose gunplay, then maybe my classmates would have come to school talking about more than Beyonce, T-Pain’s BIG ASS CHAIN and Soulja Boy Tell Em’s hopping out the bed.
But they weren’t introduced like that. It seemed like a throwaway obligatory tribute to appease some irritated fans. It missed the mark. Big time. Ask Michelle Obama if she watches BET or encourages Sasha and Malia to do so. Ask President Obama. It’s a reason he is the leader of the free world, and it isn’t because of Buffoonery Exists Today.
You’d be surprised how smart young black children can be with the absence of Blacks Embarrassing Themselves. If your goal is to deter engaged, forward-thinking articulate black minds, then consider your goal fulfilled. It’s hard-pressed to think that your shows are working to promote cultural betterment. However, it’s quite easy to conclude that the destruction of black children through the glorification of immoral behavior and rushed production is by design. Poison is being swallowed by every viewer who adores your network, and the worse thing is, these viewers - my classmates - are not even aware what they’re swallowing.
There is nothing edifying for black women on your show. I don’t judge people who do throng to your programs though; I mean, if a jet crashes in right in front of me, I’ll watch it too. That’s why I don’t flip by your channel…I don’t even want to be sucked in.
I have aspirations of acquiring a law degree and possibly entering the public sphere, so I can counteract conditions in my community perpetuated by the images on your channel. So I should thank you, because in a weird sense, your shoddy programming is the wind behind my back. And it is my hope that I can accomplish my dreams despite BET’s pictorial messages, because Lord knows it won’t be because of them.
Sincerely,Janita Patrick
Janita Patrick is a fictional character. Luckily for Janita, her heartfelt and articulate letter is a result from a lack of BET. Too many others aren’t as lucky.

Wow! --- and they call BW gold diggers!!!..........

Linda Hamilton, and Heather Mills. Two women who got very big divorce settlements for very short marriages. Below: Lionel Richie and second wife-Diane

Why is it that bw are so often called gold diggers??? That question really intrigues me especially sense 70% of the wealth of all AAs, resides with BLACK WOMEN!

I have seen bw called gold diggers for asking men to help with the bills, asking them to take them out once in a while, and even for asking them to help pay for THEIR children!

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I had to post on this because even the media will often call bw gold diggers (or they'll strongly imply it. Case in point, when Mike Tyson was divorcing Robyn Givens, the media often called her a gold digger, and claimed that she was arrogant, bitchy, overzealous in her need for control, and money grubbing. She was vilified in the press, and slandered repeatedly. She was so maligned the Enquirer at the time was calling her the most hated woman in America, and polls showed that 97% of the ppl felt that she should not get one dime in a divorce settlement! 97%! That's how effective the media was at portraying this woman as a gold digging, celebrity chasing tramp. You see them doing the same thing to Tameka Foster these days (Usher's soon to be Ex) She is also constantly vilified and crucified in the press. She is portrayed as a hood rat who chased and cornered a naive, highly talented rich singer. And somehow got her blackened fingers into him..... This is soooooo crazy because so often the REAL gold diggers are ignored while everyone is concentrating on bw who have the audacity to marry a man with money. The media will often hound and hunt down bw who have the temerity to marry up regardless of the man's race, and regardless of how much she herself brought to the table. But will often IGNORE ww who come to the table with practically nothing and demand large exorbitant paydays for short obligatory marriages. Case in point, do you know what the media said when Tiger Woods married Elin? They said she was mega-hot and he was lucky to get her!!! Lucky to get her!! Are you kidding me? She was a nanny (regardless of how they claim she was a top model -that's bull, she just had some swim suit pics) The truth is, she was the nanny of another golfer, and had practically no assets of which to speak, and yet when she marries a multi-millionaire world famous golfer, the media claims --HE WAS LUCKY TO GET HER!!!--- Lord have mercy! Can you imagine the furor if the situation had been reversed, and she was a blk nanny who married an international world famous rich white golfer??? The papers would have ripped her apart, and we all know it. But have you noticed that when it's obvious the woman is a gold digger, but is NOT black, the media is extremely reluctant to call her what she is.--- (Not saying that Elin is-just that she would be called one if she were black)---It seems, if said woman is white, she is almost never referred to in a negative fashion or accused of being avaricious, and opportunistic. I'll give a few examples of what I mean. Notice how of all 3 cases, these women are almost given license to fleece the men they CLAIMED to love! With the media practically defending them!

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LONDON — Heather Mills was a less than candid court witness whose $250 million divorce claim was exorbitant, a judge said in his ruling on her divorce from Paul McCartney.
The judgment by Hugh Bennett was released Tuesday, after a court rejected Mills' attempt to block publication.
On Monday, Bennett awarded Mills a $48.6 million divorce settlement after her four-year marriage to the former Beatle. Mills had sought almost $250 million, while McCartney had offered $31.6 million, including Mills' own assets.
In his ruling, the judge said Mills' claim "is and was unreasonable, indeed exorbitant."
He also said Mills' evidence was "not just inconsistent and inaccurate but also less than candid. Overall she was a less than impressive witness."
McCartney's lawyers didn't object to publication, but Mills claimed details in the ruling could compromise the security of her 4-year-old daughter Beatrice.
"Miss Mills believes her daughter will be put in real danger. It is most disturbing," said lawyer David Rosen, who represented Mills in court. She did not attend the hearing.
Mills, 40, walked away from court with a settlement worth about $34,000 for every day of her marriage to the 65-year-old McCartney. But it was only a fifth of what she had sought and a fraction of McCartney's $800 million fortune.
Mills declared that she was "very, very, very pleased."
The settlement included a lump sum of $33 million, plus the assets Mills currently holds worth $15.6 million.
Some legal experts were surprised the former model did not get more.
To me this is blatant gold digging of the highest order. Where does she get the nerve to ask for 250 million dollars??? She was married to this man for less than 4 years!!! He worked his whole life to make this fortune. Why should someone come in and be entitled to it because she was married to him for four years!!!

Then she tries to block publication of her outrageous requests because she does not want everyone to know just how greedy she really is.....

MARCH 2--Five months after filing for divorce from Lionel Richie, the singer's estranged wife has just weighed in with a whopping--and remarkably detailed--demand for at least $300,000 in monthly support payments. According to Diane Richie, 37, the couple has led an "extraordinary extravagant lifestyle" and that she had "no limit on what I could spend," according to the below Los Angeles Superior Court declaration filed last week. The Richie's, who wed in December 1996 and have two young children, live in a $40 million Beverly Hills mansion, with its 30 rooms spread over 18,000 square feet. "In addition to nine full time staff members, we also employ people to maintain our plants, detail our cars, care for our pool, groom our dog, maintain our aquarium and a painter for regular touch ups on the house," noted Richie. She also made sure to point out particular monthly expenses that Lionel, 54, needs to cover: clothing, shoes, and accessories ($15,000); dermatology ($3000); laser hair removal ($1000); massages ($600); jewelry ($5000); gifts ($5000); and vitamins ($500). There are plenty of other costs Richie listed--like $20,000 annually for plastic surgery and her nine-year-old son's $125,000 boarding school tuition--but TSG will let you discover those chestnuts. According to Richie, she began dating the pop star in 1984, when they met at the Summer Olympics in Los Angeles (she was an 18-year-old dancer). Since those teen days, the performer "paid my rent and/or mortgage, purchased automobiles for me, and regularly bought me expensive gifts," recalled Richie....
More gold digging, First of all, she stole him from another woman (Brenda) and then she cheats on him, while demanding that he take care of her in the style to which she has become accustomed! I would think that a woman voluntarily surrenders up that life style when she begins to have an affair!

James Cameron & Linda Hamilton -- (more than) $50 million James Cameron is the visionary filmmaker who gave the world grand Hollywood spectacles like the first two Terminator movies, in which Linda Hamilton starred, True Lies , and Titanic . The romance between the two reportedly began on the set of T2 in 1991, although they only got married in July 1997. But at that time, Titanic was released and Cameron apparently spent more time with one of his stars, Suzy Amis, than with his wife. During their 17-month marriage, which produced a daughter, they were separated for eight months. Cameron, whom Hamilton describes as an "absolutely miserable, miserable, unhappy man," was forced to give her more than half his revenues from Titanic -- over $50 million -- in 1999.W
I think this proves my point. Why in the world is a woman entitled to 50 million dollars for a 17 month marriage!!

This is what I mean. if you research any of these cases ( or many more) on the Internet, you will see that ww are given card blanch to rake men over the coals, while bw are expected to walk away with nothing regardless of how many years said couple is married. I am NOT saying that all ww are gold diggers or that all bw are innocent. Not at all-we all know that's not true. But what I am saying is that even when it's blatantly shown that SOME ww ARE gold diggers, they are never called this, and instead are excused, pampered, and protected. Lionel's first wife (bw) got almost nothing. Yet his second wife expects him to accommodate an extravagant lifestyle (she only lived because of him) for the rest of her life- regardless of the fact that she admitted to a long term and ongoing affair! The point is, when ppl call bw gold diggers -they really have no idea what an actual gold digger is, and even when they do, they are extremely reluctant to actually use the term, in connection with women who are not black....

So I want to be clear. I want bw to understand that wanting a better man is natural, that is not gold digging (because some women get it confused.) Wanting a man who is prosperous and can take care of his offspring is prudent, not gold digging. There is NOTHING wrong with that, and you should be trying to marry UP rather than down. I merely wanted to point out to bw the difference between wanting more, and being a gd. Wanting a man who has more and can do more is common sense. Asking for 250 million dollars after you've been married to someone for 4 years is Gold digging-there is a distinct difference. So absolutely want more, look for more, and marry more (up) don't allow the world or the bc-and the cartoon characters in it- to fool you anymore into thinking that you should be marrying down, and 'helping a brotha out!' Look for men who can definitely elevate you to a better life, and understand that only rapacious greed makes a gold digger, not simply wanting more, and wanting more for one's children.....

Don't let the ' white girl song' bother you.....

Instead of worrying about silly songs, focus on the life you want. The man you want, and happiness you want. Put your focus on that which EMPOWERS you.....

This post is not really about the white girl song, not exclusively anyway. It's about how many of you fall right into a state of anger and rage when bm do something you consider disrespectful and then internalize the pain. I'm going to show you how to handle anger much more constructively. First off, I need you ladies to understand that bm are FREE AGENTS!!! They can do what they want. Please- whatever you do -stop getting upset about seeing bm with ww! It's really no big deal. Many of you take it as some personal affront and it's not. Your attitude should be indifference. Do you want him? Probably not, so let it go. When you show upset over seeing bm with ww, that means you are still emotionally tied to them, or you think bm BELONG to bw. Honey, -they don't -Thank God. Wish them well on their path and let it go....

Second, I need you ladies to stop seeing ANYONE as your enemy. No matter who it is. You can NEVER consider a whole group of ppl your enemy. You could be alienating alot of good friends. Some ppl of whatever type may treat you bad-leave that (singular) PERSON alone. Yes, I definitely advise bw to be wary /careful of bm as a group, because too many of them are damaged and dangerous. But don't hate them. Anything you hate and despise weakens YOU. That's why you should be Pro- BW, not against BM! You should be pro-bw dating out, not against bm dating out. When you see a wg slobbering all over a bm, giving you snide and smug looks, you should be totally unmoved. Never get upset about something like that, those ppl have a right to do as they wish. The most wonderful part though-is so do you! You have a right to go out and get yourself the sexiest, finest wm you can find. You have a right to marry him and bear his children. You have a right to hold him close, and love him like there's no tomorrow.As long as you are bitter, and filled with hate, you block YOUR own good. Never have hate in your heart at other IR couples, because then you block the same thing from coming your way. It's almost like ppl who hate rich ppl, but secretly want desperately to be rich. As long as they're hating someone else for having riches, they are driving it away from themselves, but they don't even realize it.....

As for the WGS- Many of you have emailed me about this new song. Telling me how it puts ww on a pedestal and once again puts bw down. So what's new about that? They've been doing that for a while now, they're just more bold about it now. Personally, I just don't give a damn. Why would I? And why would you? I have what who I want, but even if I didn't, I certainly would never want a color-struck self hating man-would you? When are you ladies going to realize when you are being played? That song was deliberately intended to piss bw off, and many of you are falling right into character. And when someone is trying hard to piss you off, the best thing you can do is be nonchalant. Nothing gets under an agitator's skin like nonchalance. There's nothing bm want more than to control bw, and keep them off balance, scared, depressed, and available for multiple uses. The last thing in the world we need to concern ourselves with, is what bm want. You need to ask yourself/ves what YOU want? What do you want out of life? WHO do you want? What to you dream of at night when no one else is around. What do you want so badly that you would do it for free? That's what you need to focus on!! Not some stupid song, designed to provoke you to want to fight ww for bm. (And let's face it-that's the whole point of the song) Don't fight anybody over a man-regardless of his color. When women fight over men, the only one who wins is HIM!

The WGS, is designed to feed the ww's ego, and tear down the bw's ego, once again. The best thing bw can do is A. ignore it. or B. grab a WHITE BOY get on the dance floor and act as if the lyrics are reversed. But if it's bothering some of you so much, then why are you listening to it? Why are you dancing to it? Some of y'all really need to develop tunnel vision. See only your goals, and men who will love and respect you. Hear only what you NEED to hear, from those that matter in your life. LOVE ONLY THOSE WHO LOVE YOU BACK!!! Ladies this is not rocket science. Tune out those who don't have your best interest at heart and tune in those who do. And don't bother telling me you can't tell from the start when a man it totally about nothing. Women are very intuitive. Even when he's a master manipulator, we have great intuition. Learn to listen to it. A good rule to follow is:

What to avoid...

a. Have nothing to do with violent criminals

b. Have nothing to do with men with hair trigger tempers.

c. Have nothing to do with men who seem to disrespect women in general

d. Have nothing to do with men who seem to have no game plan for their lives and simply try to live off other ppl. (you'll be the one he'll try to live off soon)

e. Have nothing to do with any man who consistently gives you bad vibes

(that's your intuition trying to warn you of something.)

f. Have nothing to do with men who seem to think the world 'owes' them something. These are the type who go off because someone won't give them money or something. The world owes us nothing but a chance-the rest is up to US...

What to look for:

a. Look for men who generally have respect for all women whether he knows them or not.

b. Look for men who treat you like a lady, and have manners and kindness

c. Look for men who share your interests, and your MORALS.

d. Look for men who are good ppl, WHEN NO ONE ELSE IS WATCHING

e. Look for men who are ambitious, and motivated to do something with their life.....

I think you all get the picture. Even when he tries to fake it. Men are just not smart enough to fake it for long. All you have to do is open up those pretty eyes of yours and really SEE who he is......

Now what to do about the bm who make songs that are designed to put ww on a pedestal......

What sista's need to do is flip the script. Instead of worrying about ww having their massive egos' made bigger. We need to learn to fight fire with fire. Put a fine ass WM on the cover of a BW's magazine! Make a white boy song! Walk proudly down the street with your vanilla prince and stop giving a damn about the stares/glares from bm. Declare to the world, that we no longer care what bm think, just as the Asian women do. They (Asian women) are quick to let everybody know that they are looking for wm, and that they are OPEN! They never waste time worrying about what Asian men think, they simply do what's in their own best interests. And do you know that because of that thought process, there are over a MILLION marriages of WM and AW! The truth is wm marry out far more than ww! But many ppl do not realize this. And did you know that marriages between bw and wm, are the fastest growing IR union??? Well, they are. We need to follow the Asian sistas and do what's best for Us and stop worrying about the constant disrespect coming from bm. Show them by deed we are done. Many men tune a woman out when she's screaming and carrying on. He will not believe she means what she says until she cuts contact. Stop worrying about bm loving up on some wg. I told y'all before. Drive him to the wg's house and leave him there. Let her have him! Get your own swirl on and stop worrying about his. Put your focus and attention on WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE-that's how you get it......