tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post8351587460887632392..comments2023-10-30T09:58:30.080-05:00Comments on Interracial love and spice.....by Sara: What's wrong with adopting a white child?Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-62468688631059590542009-04-07T11:08:00.000-05:002009-04-07T11:08:00.000-05:00Call me Dumb/ignorant, but I didn't know #1 Black ...Call me Dumb/ignorant, but I didn't know #1 Black people "COULD" adopt white children/babies, and #2 I didn't know that wht. children/babies were in demand to be adopted since all the wht. celebs keep snatching up Afrikan babies! {Madonna, <BR/>Tom Cruise, Angelina Jolie-Pitt}Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-40839024006454163832009-02-23T21:13:00.000-06:002009-02-23T21:13:00.000-06:00Our school physcian said that one of his cousins a...Our school physcian said that one of his cousins adopted a white child, a boy. They lived in a middle class neighborhood with advantages that most blk. kids would have evied. Years later the adoptive son is now an young adult and the son and his mother had a disagreement about something and before he left the house he told her, "I am tired of being a nigger"...well, that was some thank you for raising him.<BR/><BR/>The school's physician has no idea why his cousin adopted her son in the first place. In this city there are so many AA kids who would loved to have switch placed with him.<BR/><BR/>Side note- the physician is very light complexed and I am assuming his cousin is also. Maybe that is why she wanted a non-b child.<BR/><BR/>lynAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-55280472421071344542009-02-23T16:42:00.000-06:002009-02-23T16:42:00.000-06:00Sorry I commented and then disappeared. I thought ...Sorry I commented and then disappeared. I thought the thread was dead, but I hooked up the RSS feed wrong.<BR/><BR/>I'm backsliding a little on this. If this was common occurrence, I'd worry, because of unmet need, but I've been thinking about the huge symbolic pluses to this. The little girl is going to have an interesting life, and probably less identity confusion than a black child with white parents cuz there are affirming portrayals of whites everywhere.<BR/><BR/>If she has the creativity to write as an adult, that would be an intriguing book.<BR/><BR/>It would be interesting 20 years later to see who she was attracted to. Probably bm and wm and other. Maybe by then ir will be commonplace anyways.<BR/><BR/>This adoption is a radical (because it is so unusual) declaration of acceptance of whiteness by two black people. I can't guess the effect on bp, but many wp will find this reassuring.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you all progress.Eubie Drewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14084893415285960551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-8940767731605817232009-02-23T00:59:00.000-06:002009-02-23T00:59:00.000-06:00Hey Sara, hope you are having fun!Anon, I saw that...Hey Sara, hope you are having fun!<BR/><BR/>Anon, I saw that page and I wish, I wish, I wish. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-31533736316937178632009-02-22T23:01:00.000-06:002009-02-22T23:01:00.000-06:00Sara, black girls traveling in packs to Italy. Th...Sara, black girls traveling in packs to Italy. This is annual. It is almost filled up for 2009 trip!!!<BR/><BR/>http://www.blackgirltravel.com/pages/tours.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-80963023115282064272009-02-22T14:36:00.000-06:002009-02-22T14:36:00.000-06:00I think that it is great that this couple has deci...I think that it is great that this couple has decided to adopt a foster baby. Even though the baby is white, a loving family knows no color. Even though i would of like for them to adopt a black baby, at least this foster child will know what it is to be loved, this coming from a black former foster child. I wish this family all the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-88780715253784494302009-02-20T12:06:00.000-06:002009-02-20T12:06:00.000-06:00I do think that black community is also to blame f...I do think that black community is also to blame for the rate of black children in the foster care system. Black organizations fighting against transracial adoption knowing full well that there aren't many black Americans adopting. Some because of stigma, some because they don't know much about it etc. There are many reasons. I've heard many black people say why would you adopt when you can have your own etc. Then is it no wonder there are many babies and older children in foster care or being adopted transracially? If they want black families to adopt then they need to get out there and talk to the people in that community. A priest did this a while back. He encouraged his congregation and the black community as a whole to adopt at least one child. He had also adopted a young boy from a home and raised him. Adoptions rose. So that tells you that you need to talk to the people.<BR/><BR/>Another thing is stop fighting against the children going to good homes. <BR/><BR/>Just because there aren't as many white kids as black and latino doesn't mean it's not bad. The children don't really care about any of that. They just want a home.Welcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06873814449216446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-23810103762044443472009-02-19T15:55:00.000-06:002009-02-19T15:55:00.000-06:00hey ladies, We're on a mini-vacation, and having a...hey ladies, We're on a mini-vacation, and having a blast! That's why the comments are being checked sporatically. We'll be back soon, and I'll update the post on here and WC-preferred. See you all soon... and have a good week end-SaraTaylor-Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-91656212744184496672009-02-18T21:09:00.000-06:002009-02-18T21:09:00.000-06:00How could you not see that there is a problem with...How could you not see that there is a problem with this? Why would a black couple decide to adopt and choose to adopt a white baby when everyone knows how many black children are in foster care waiting for adoption. I just can't fathom doing that. All of these people on here talking about how race doesn't matter are delusional. This is America, where race is definitely a factor and will be for a long time. Anyone who knows anything about the history of this country can't deny that.tasha212https://www.blogger.com/profile/05191746801740115475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-31179802116702762982009-02-15T00:53:00.000-06:002009-02-15T00:53:00.000-06:00This adoption was thru a personal connection, so i...This adoption was thru a personal connection, so it is not quite as stark a situation as it might appear. Just the same, and I hate to go against the interracially loving people at this site, but to my mind it is about where the need is.<BR/><BR/>As a white man, I would be willing to adopt across race lines to alleviate some of the need. I can excuse other whites for being unable to face such a challenge. I am not angry, but I am disappointed that a couple perfectly set to help avoided the opportunity.<BR/><BR/>Healthy white babies practically fly of the shelf. It's not even important why this is. By adopting a baby of color, or a white baby with problems, one is potentially eliminating a whole childhood of foster care.<BR/><BR/>But I do wish them love and happiness.<BR/><BR/> --- AabaakawadEubie Drewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14084893415285960551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-91843490026485750592009-02-15T00:05:00.000-06:002009-02-15T00:05:00.000-06:00Anon(s)If you read the article you would see that ...Anon(s)<BR/><BR/>If you read the article you would see that these people did not seek out a white child. <BR/><BR/>It seems to me that it was synchronicity/serendipity that things turned out this way. <BR/><BR/>The Wares are Christians and a close minister friend of theirs (whom I assume to be white) knew that they had trouble with becoming pregnant and also ran a home for pregnant women/girls.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-11768003411908591102009-02-14T18:58:00.000-06:002009-02-14T18:58:00.000-06:00Boy the trolls came out on this one didn't they? ...Boy the trolls came out on this one didn't they? And am I crazy or do two of the latter posts sound like the same person?Welcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06873814449216446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-70967870628739506162009-02-14T17:46:00.000-06:002009-02-14T17:46:00.000-06:00How about asking the children, "Do you have any pr...How about asking the children, <BR/>"Do you have any problems with being adopted by another race family or would you rather stay in this group or foster home until you are 18 years old?<BR/><BR/>Think about all those children who are missing out on not being with a family or a single and self sufficient parent(s)?<BR/><BR/>a.f.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-7352787295117359882009-02-14T15:55:00.000-06:002009-02-14T15:55:00.000-06:00OK it sorta making me sick how everyone here is ta...OK it sorta making me sick how everyone here is talking about babies like you would talk about livestock.People have a choice in who they want to adopt and its THEIR choice no one elses.So what white people adopt black children because they don't want to wait for a white child, wouldn't that be a good thing;the black child would finally have a home.As for this couple a few people have mentioned the fact that their friend told them about this bay that needed a home;the opportunity was their and they took it despite the race of the child.This couple is obviously have no problem with black children because they tried for years to have a child of their own and they couldn't,but i hope they do succeed one day.If they do have a child of their own or for all we know ADOPT a black child I believe they wont treat both children the same,but not in a negative way.As far as social issues its sad to say but they will treat them differently because their different races will bring along different challenges.As far as love and care goes,well that should be the EXACT same.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-19739617270252149722009-02-12T05:55:00.000-06:002009-02-12T05:55:00.000-06:00The problem is that too many black kids are growin...The problem is that too many black kids are growing up in foster homes. While white orphans are rare and in demand so they get adopted quickly when they're babies. Too many black folks aren't taking care of their children and need a home. And this couple, who could have helped out a black child, decided to adopt a white child? We love helping other people, but don't want to help our own. That's sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-23234221894856503492009-02-11T19:45:00.000-06:002009-02-11T19:45:00.000-06:00It's disgusting to see two well-off Black people c...It's disgusting to see two well-off Black people chose to adopt a white child, ESPECIALLY since white children are the ones who are most WANTED in the adoption/foster care arena, and Black children are some of the least wanted children. If Black and white kids were adopted and placed on the adoption "market" at the same rates, who cares? But for a black couple with the resources to adopt to choose to seek out a white child when a Black child was probably easier to find? Its so sad to me. I'm sorry, but as someone who knows a lot about how many Black children are out there just waiting for loving homes, you can't convince me that a white baby was the first one to pop up at their doorstep.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-34106451406294016572009-02-11T17:11:00.000-06:002009-02-11T17:11:00.000-06:00I can't say much about the Wares adopting a white ...I can't say much about the Wares adopting a white child. If that's what they wanted to do then, fine. I don't necessarily agree, either. If Mrs Ware ever does give birth, it will certainly be black children. As long as she understands this (I imagine she does) and does not go about playing favoritism, then it's all good.<BR/> <BR/>I don't really understand the whole "adopt a Korean baby because you love their culture" deal either. A baby is a small human, not a conduit for his race's culture or language. Just because you have a Japanese baby doesn't mean you will become Japanese or even understand Japanese people any more without actually going to Japan. Quite the contrary. An argument could be made that you would be placing a greater distance between your Japanese child and his parents culture, most likely to the detriment of the child from a social perspective. <BR/><BR/>Even the black people here on this blog don't get it. Saying that black people don't adopt kids and black people don't do that. You should do some research before running your lips about which you have no clue. Plenty of black parents (especially grandparents, whose children have grown up and left the nest) adopt black children at rates commensurate with white parents. Since there are fewer white children in the system than there are black, there are still more black children leftover than whites.<BR/><BR/>Check this website for stats:<BR/>http://statistics.adoption.com/information/<BR/><BR/>You ladies are engaging in the same kind of ignorant xenophobia as the people you are lambasting. It's really disgusting.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12893231479917215179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-77095377288429841122009-02-11T11:49:00.000-06:002009-02-11T11:49:00.000-06:00I once wrote a paper for school on trans-racial ad...I once wrote a paper for school on trans-racial adoptions and most of the families I spoke with said that when they were looking to adopt, they were steered towards adopting kids who were the same race or discouraged from adopting outside of their race. One white couple I spoke with specifically wanted to adopt two black children and they said it was a real fight to adopt them. They got negative reactions from whites and blacks (whites couldn't understand why they adopted black kids and blacks were pissed off that they adopted "their" kids), but a big part of the reason they decide to specifically adopt black kids is because they knew that the adoption rate was lower.<BR/><BR/>And yes, adoption rates for black kids are lower, but I have real issues with people who criticize black people who don't adopt black kids (or conversely criticize white parents who *do* adopt black kids), especially when the critics are not willing to adopt themselves. I take sort of a "put up or shut up" argument with those critics.<BR/><BR/>I'm actually a big fan of adoption and have no problems with trans-racial adoptions. At the end of the day, no one has the right to tell another person who they should or shouldn't adopt. Love is love and kids (white, black, asian, whatever) need love just like anyone else. My hat goes off to the Wares for opening their home to a child.American Black Chick in Europehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17612489402572134424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-61704451188891844422009-02-11T09:59:00.000-06:002009-02-11T09:59:00.000-06:00"And so what you Lubs de culture? What does adopti...<I>"And so what you Lubs de culture? What does adopting a drooling baby have to do with Kabuki, anyway?"</I><BR/><BR/>I hate to agree with an anonymous troll, but he/she/it has a point there. I don't get how adopting an Asian child because you love Asian culture is mutually exclusive. If you love Asian culture then study it, try the foods, take language courses, go to one of its individual countries, but don't adopt a child simply because you love Asian culture. That kid will have no ties to his/her Asian heritage unless you instill it in him/her through the above methods.<BR/><BR/>But I agree with adopting a child and looking past race. Josephine Baker had her Rainbow children and she wasn't concerned with what race they were. Why should it matter what the race of the Wares new baby is?Golden Silencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17820962013206868422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-41102629817868981652009-02-11T09:26:00.000-06:002009-02-11T09:26:00.000-06:00I feel the Wares did a good thing. Good for them t...I feel the Wares did a good thing. Good for them to adopt a child in need and provide a stable setting for her, she is so precious too. How cute!Sophisticatedblkwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08786813030821366667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-76561976814277974572009-02-10T19:32:00.000-06:002009-02-10T19:32:00.000-06:00I absolutely see NO problem with a black couple ad...I absolutely see NO problem with a black couple adopting a whit babt,as long as the love and take of them,what does it matter?As for weather a black child can be raised by white people or vice versa, there are black people raised in black homes who are still considered "white washed" and don't fit in with black people so once again I see no difference.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-39612527209980019142009-02-10T14:11:00.000-06:002009-02-10T14:11:00.000-06:00I read about this couple last year. At first I tho...I read about this couple last year. At first I thought like many why adopt a non-AA child when there are so many AA babies who also needs a good loving family. <BR/><BR/>And, this couple seems so ideal...what a difference this couple could make with any child. <BR/> <BR/>I can understand this couple jumping at the idea of adopting a child when their wm friend brought the idea(and not the race of the child) up to them. <BR/>At first they probably thought that the child was blk. and realized they could not back out simply based on the child's race. <BR/>However, this couple could have adopted a blk. child if they really wanted to and why not add an Hispanic and then an Asian child if race really does not matter. <BR/><BR/>If I were a kid I would love to be adopted by this happy looking couple. Still, I wish the entire family and that includes that cute baby well.<BR/><BR/>a.f.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-91888842893686354992009-02-10T12:59:00.000-06:002009-02-10T12:59:00.000-06:00This is insane. The couple is the one that will h...This is insane. The couple is the one that will have the responsibility for the next 20+ years. They are grown people that have the right to decide what they want to do.<BR/><BR/>Anyone that is angry about this is doing NOTHING with their lives. People that have lives are too busy to even notice this other than to say that little baby will be in a loving home.<BR/><BR/>Have mercy.Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02625679179124409756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-58257154161857693962009-02-10T02:47:00.000-06:002009-02-10T02:47:00.000-06:00"According to this articlehttp://www.dallasnews.co..."According to this articlehttp://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/spt/football/cowboys/stories/082408dnspocowlede.4316aa2.html<BR/>their friend father's told them about a pregnant women looking for a good home for her child. What were they supposed to do? Say no thank you."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I saw this too. It makes me feel as if race wasn't an issue. It seems like faith was. When I read that article I got the impression that they all knew one another - the minister running the home, the birth mother (introduced via the minister), and the Wares. I get the impression that the Wares were considered a good Christian family, a loving home for a child and that was that. <BR/><BR/><BR/>"It's a bad idea to put a black child in a white home.... I think it's impossible for someone of one culture to teach another culture," he says. "You have to live it in order to absorb it." The influential National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) has taken this stance, suggesting that interracial adoption is a form of "genocide" and that "black children in white homes are cut off from the healthy development of themselves as black people." "Same race makes sense because it is what the child is accustomed to, what causes the least disruption in the child's life," <BR/><BR/><BR/>"Often when people are looking at 'love is all it takes,' they seem to overlook the impact race has on our society. Somehow when it's a case of adoption, race suddenly doesn't seem to matter anymore. [5]."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I am of the stance that this is ridiculous. I don't think there is a such thing as black culture. If there is I am missing it. I think there is a lot of pressure for "acting black" aka enacting stereotypes and dysfunction. <BR/><BR/>I also think its possible for a non black person to prepare a black child to deal with racism.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-54289247489617184092009-02-09T20:06:00.000-06:002009-02-09T20:06:00.000-06:00I came across an online community for individual s...I came across an online community for individual seeking interracial love. It is ++++((((---Blackwhitemeet. C O M))))++++ All singles there are seeking interracial relationships. Interracial is not a problem here, but a great merit to cherish!Interracialmatchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11572760854746186818noreply@blogger.com