tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post8089761604974979864..comments2023-10-30T09:58:30.080-05:00Comments on Interracial love and spice.....by Sara: WW! - If you don't want black children-please don't sleep with black men!!!Taylor-Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.comBlogger105125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-47966345462535037862008-10-30T00:21:00.000-05:002008-10-30T00:21:00.000-05:00Um, no, I said that I feel sorry for the victim an...Um, no, I said that I feel sorry for the victim and her family. If you had read the last part of my sentence, I was merely stating the need for mental help for these soldiers coming back from the war with mental problems and that just because they may not have visible scars, it does not mean they were not affected. I was talking about soldiers in the general case needing more mental help.How could that be interpreted as having sympathy for a murderer? In no way do I feel sorry for someone who killed an innocent person. I had a cousin who was murdered a year ago, so I DO NOT sympathize with murderers. I don't know how you could have misinterpreted that comment.FunkyStarkitty50https://www.blogger.com/profile/15759977398015806528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-37507169601474134302008-10-29T06:18:00.000-05:002008-10-29T06:18:00.000-05:00starkitty, Am I reading right? He tortured and mur...starkitty, Am I reading right? He tortured and murdered a young mentally disabled woman, and you felel sorry for him???<BR/><BR/>I feel like I'm in the twilight zone! Do you feel sorry for the monster who murdered J. Hudson's family too? You know the poor prison imate who ruthlessly gunned down 3 people over a car!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-27877887233584706782008-10-20T15:45:00.000-05:002008-10-20T15:45:00.000-05:00That is truly scary. But according to the story, t...That is truly scary. But according to the story, this young woman had learning disabilities, so she could not have been thinking properly to go with this guy. He took advantage of her and lured her into this tragic situation. I feel sorry for her and her family.There need to be more emphasis placed on getting mental help for this young soldiers. Just because some may not have visible scars, it doesn't mean they were not affected. Very sad...FunkyStarkitty50https://www.blogger.com/profile/15759977398015806528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-4591935450901797672008-10-18T22:26:00.000-05:002008-10-18T22:26:00.000-05:00Not to make light of this tragic situation but who...Not to make light of this tragic situation but who was adding the post to his Myspace account?<BR/><BR/>At Energize,<BR/><BR/>Yes and the deployments are getting worst. Its not uncommon to see units getting no more than nine months break between each rotation.Gloriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01742619542367946642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-44259631281286020452008-10-18T18:17:00.000-05:002008-10-18T18:17:00.000-05:00That was horrible Bougie.The military will be send...That was horrible Bougie.<BR/><BR/>The military will be sending a lot of mentally disturbed soldiers home to families and friends. They offer little medical assistance or monitoring of the long term effects of serving too many tours for a war that has gone on too long and now we are in another war - tragic. <BR/><BR/>Internet dating feels creepy to me. I know it's the trend and there are success stories, but it just feels so impersonal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-4562946382405608112008-10-18T16:04:00.000-05:002008-10-18T16:04:00.000-05:00Bougie thank you for that tip, you may have just s...Bougie thank you for that tip, you may have just saved someone's life!<BR/>Ladies, please heed that warning. It is extremely dangerous to have secret meetings with strangers, Please protect yourselves -SMTaylor-Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10105589774077925400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-80884910259636962552008-10-18T07:53:00.001-05:002008-10-18T07:53:00.001-05:00off topic but you gotta check this out http://blac...off topic but you gotta check this out <BR/><BR/><BR/>http://blackandmissing.blogspot.com/2008/10/judilianna-lawrence-raped-gagged.html<BR/><BR/>young bw met a soldier on myspace he tortures and kills her .This is the killers myspace page ,his writings should have been a warning that he was dbr, all women no matter who they date should be ON GUARD WHEN MEETING THRU THE INTERNET!!meet in public places ,don't let him know where you live ,let others know who you are meeting and let him know that friends family know you are with him ,it's to dangerous to try to have secret rendezvous with men over the web<BR/><BR/><BR/>http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=56640015<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>BougieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-2218175014262210302008-10-18T02:26:00.000-05:002008-10-18T02:26:00.000-05:00"Sky, me too. I'm focusing on the Alejand..."Sky, me too. I'm focusing on the Alejandro's, Chin Dao Lee's and Richard's of the world."<BR/><BR/>Lol, I thought I'd seen every variation of these names. Thomas/Andrew/Brandon/Bo/Beau/Baron/Chester, Serjio/Luiz/Jesu/Ignacio/Hector & Lee Ming/Tao Ming. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Hey you look for the Alejandro's and I'll be checking out the Sikanders.lolWelcomehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06873814449216446881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-34458623935006938052008-10-17T13:43:00.000-05:002008-10-17T13:43:00.000-05:00“SelenaI noticed this when ww are with their white...“Selena<BR/><BR/>I noticed this when ww are with their white husbands/bfs. I think its all about ww just being down right insecure period!<BR/><BR/>Whenever I'm out and about and a wm and his ww girlfriend/wife are approaching me, the ww instantly will grab his hand or place her arm around him or some other form of pda. Keep in mind it does nothing to stop the wm from staring LOL. I used to dart my glancess away but now I stare/flirt right back. BTW it seems like the looks and flirting is getting bolder and bolder from wm...”<BR/><BR/>~<BR/><BR/>Ha, ha, ha! I’ve been hearing a lot about situations like that lately. I had one experience with a white man, and Asian girlfriend/wife (not sure which) who just kept staring at me until I figured I’d just look him in the eyes and give him a good flirtatious look! I don’t think his woman noticed, she was to busy at the cashier, ha ha! But maybe I shouldn’t have done that cause he still didn’t stop staring! Ha ha ha!!!<BR/><BR/>~<BR/><BR/>“energize said...<BR/>And if the ww knows her bm is attracted to you, she may suddenly want to be your pal.”<BR/>~<BR/><BR/>I had a similar situation once, but it had to do with her interests in another white male who openly voiced his attraction to me. We weren’t “kindred” spirits but all of a sudden she wanted to talk me, and hang out. If I hadn’t have gone thru similar situations before I would’ve been completely blind to it but I wasn’t. After a while she wouldn’t really talk to me any more.Velvet Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01025310589945449403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-44207046867426127452008-10-17T13:09:00.000-05:002008-10-17T13:09:00.000-05:00real quick new vide of beyonce. looks like she got...real quick new vide of beyonce. looks like she got the message to.<BR/><BR/>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwORr1ys-mkAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-50545015758579978222008-10-17T09:25:00.000-05:002008-10-17T09:25:00.000-05:00@ anony. 6:25pm...My Dear we will have to agree to...@ anony. 6:25pm...My Dear we will have to agree to disagree and lets move on.<BR/><BR/>Have a nice day.<BR/><BR/>a.f.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-31341877068038035972008-10-17T09:18:00.000-05:002008-10-17T09:18:00.000-05:00"Yet, the moment this same woman’s daughter hit’s ..."Yet, the moment this same woman’s daughter hit’s 16, she is practically thrown out, expected her to get a man, start contributing financially to the household, etc. A good majority of these women lived somewhat miserable lives, and never had much happiness, or love. They begrudge anyone who has, ESPECIALLY if it is a fellow black woman."<BR/><BR/> I agree. Most of us take this type of position when it comes to our young daughters and this type of behavior needs to stop.<BR/><BR/> Yes, most of us expect the teen girl to act as if she is a woman and at the same time most of us will cuddle our sons. <BR/><BR/> I think most of the sons are so used to being cuddled that they do not realize or care that there is a difference between the way most of us are raising our sons and daughters.<BR/><BR/> This is America WE CAN DO BETTER.<BR/><BR/>a.f.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-41709611200745600442008-10-17T09:00:00.000-05:002008-10-17T09:00:00.000-05:00"I fear many WW moms may not even have a clue as t..."I fear many WW moms may not even have a clue as to how to raise, seekout, speak about, and expose their children to the beauty that is part of the black "race"".<BR/><BR/>And, this is why they should think before having a bi-racial child. When I had my son I wasn't given any sympathy. Just do the best you can to raise YOUR CHILD to be the BEST HUMAN BEING possible. <BR/>End of story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-33052502994869806192008-10-17T00:53:00.000-05:002008-10-17T00:53:00.000-05:00In my experience, black men and boys sometimes ref...In my experience, black men and boys sometimes refer to black women/girls as "females" when they are viewing them as things (i.e., playthings), as something to be "acted upon" by them, when they wish to deny the humanity of black women/girls. This is not always the case, but I see and hear this enough to know that this is often the case.<BR/><BR/>_________________________<BR/><BR/>That's kind of how I thought it was.<BR/><BR/>We are all female, but not all females are women.<BR/><BR/>Female what?<BR/><BR/>Dog?<BR/>Cat?<BR/>Chicken?<BR/>Pig?<BR/><BR/>Wo-Man denotes what kind of "female" you speak of. <BR/>A Hue-Man(for we are many) that has a womb.<BR/><BR/>You can look and dress like a female. Verses looking and dressing like a woman.<BR/><BR/>You can act female verses acting like a woman(in the sense of being a lady).<BR/><BR/>I think we can all use 'female' at times but there is a certain -usage- of the word female that *can* be viewed as negative.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-43602625626673957992008-10-16T19:55:00.000-05:002008-10-16T19:55:00.000-05:00What sad stories. Its not easy being a mom. You ba...What sad stories. Its not easy being a mom. You basically have to put your own life on "slow down" mode and be self-less for a bit. Not something a selfish person can do.<BR/><BR/>Also, as a black mom to bi-racial kids, I am glad to BE the mom, because the mom is the one who thinks 'okay, the kids need x to have self esteem, and exposure to y to see things clearly, etc'-- At a very young age!<BR/><BR/>Guys don't USUALLY think like this especially when the child is very young -too young to ask questions or show where she's holding esteem wise.<BR/><BR/>I fear many WW moms may not even have a clue as to how to raise, seekout, speak about, and expose their children to the beauty that is part of the black "race".Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06067406973014144499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-89919858434882769482008-10-16T18:24:00.000-05:002008-10-16T18:24:00.000-05:00"yet the moment this same woman’s daughter hit’s 1..."yet the moment this same woman’s daughter hit’s 16, SIXTEEN, she practically throws her out, expects her to get a man, start contributing financially to the household, etc. A good majority of these women lived somewhat miserable lives, and never had much happiness, or love. They begrudge anyone who has, ESPECIALLY if it is a fellow black woman."<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>JMaster you know. You have spoken the truth.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Golden Silence the odd thing is that I tend to be alienated/targeted by those kinds of black people. They don't rush to me- they shun me. Not that I seek them, but in the past I had to work with some of them.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>"Quite frankly, evil stares like that are capable of anything, absolutely anything."<BR/><BR/><BR/>Velvet Queen, you articulated what I couldn't.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-88700091430147455772008-10-16T17:25:00.000-05:002008-10-16T17:25:00.000-05:00I am the Anon who mentioned that I dislike the use...I am the Anon who mentioned that I dislike the use of the word female instead of using the word "women."<BR/><BR/>I think a few people understood what I was getting at (like Sandra77)..and a few more undoubtedly. This is not a personal attack on a.f....not at all...<BR/><BR/>I still stand by my original statement of course. Any man who talks about "females" is an ignorant fella..and to be avoided at all costs. As I said before, there is nothing wrong with the word female....it just has to be used in the proper context...and I am sorry, but you are wrong when you say that most men (bm I assume) refer to women as women..I hear them use the word female all the time...it comes from a studious and abject ignorance of HOW to use words in the English Language. <BR/><BR/>Please never fool yourself into thinking it is acceptable...it is not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-76411957550316084512008-10-16T16:02:00.000-05:002008-10-16T16:02:00.000-05:00In my experience, black men and boys sometimes ref...In my experience, black men and boys sometimes refer to black women/girls as "females" when they are viewing them as things (i.e., playthings), as something to be "acted upon" by them, when they wish to deny the humanity of black women/girls. This is not always the case, but I see and hear this enough to know that this is often the case.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-37393804299529821002008-10-16T14:49:00.000-05:002008-10-16T14:49:00.000-05:00tc, I rarely ever see the same people on a regular...<B>tc</B>, I rarely ever see the same people on a regular basis during my commute (DC is a decent-sized city, and add in the suburbanites you have a lot of people commuting), but thanks for the advice.<BR/><BR/>The only time I don't have too much of an issue with idiots trying to come around me is when I'm with a family member or group of friends, but mostly it's me traveling solo. I'm sick of being a magnet for idiots and scrubs!Golden Silencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17820962013206868422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-34113135776400024132008-10-16T08:19:00.000-05:002008-10-16T08:19:00.000-05:00@ Anon and Velvet QueenI guess I'm being a bit too...@ Anon and Velvet Queen<BR/><BR/>I guess I'm being a bit too sensitive about it. Eventually it got me real bad, it's just that I'm seeing through my point of view only and not his POV. My cousin heard him say it, and she got offended, well most of my folks. Guess that's how I got riled up. I'm usually an open minded person, but even little things like that still get me sometimes.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your inputs, I'll keep an open mind about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-3442473561592755022008-10-16T00:19:00.000-05:002008-10-16T00:19:00.000-05:00JaliliMaster said...“Velvet Queen said... “I reall...JaliliMaster said...<BR/>“Velvet Queen said... <BR/>“I really wonder how white women feel about those sorts of situations. They have children with black men…but it’s such a rough ride. As if they have to fight to keep them in one place. It’s sad actually. And when black men DO leave them, so many white women take it out on their children…as if a child was going to keep a damaged man put in the first place.”<BR/><BR/>Ok, not just ww do that. It is not uncommon in the black community, where women take their anger out on the children because they are angry at the father of the child who left them, is refusing to pay child support etc. Let’s not pretend that only white women do that ish.”<BR/>~ <BR/><BR/>Oh, I know that and its sickening if you ask me. But I was talking about white women not black women. Sadly, some women in general take their anger out on their children because of a wandering man… but I was talking about white women.<BR/>~<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>“JaliliMaster said...<BR/><BR/>Booty call, and also to make their non-black partners jealous. These men believe, deep down, that they are less than. You can bring the most run-down, trailer trash, unattractive, sloppy, no-good-piece-of-junk of a white woman, no man would look at her twice, even her fellow trailer trash white guy. But you know and she knows that she can get a black guy. Even a relatively decent one(i.e job, looks etc.). The bm would tell himself she is a catch, even thought she most obviously isn’t. He knows she probably couldn’t get a white guy with the sort of person she is and combined with the fact that she’s dating a bm. However, he knows that she could still get another self-hating bm. So he needs something to ‘hoick’ her in. That’s where black women come in. As far as he can let her believe that there are hordes of bw(and let’s be honest, up till today, there still are), who would be willing to take him off her hands, he can keep her on her feet. That’s why they try to get a reaction from you. To convince their white girlfriends that they are a catch, and for these non-black women to believe that this otherwise average bm is, atleast in the black community, a catch. She can tell herself that she ‘got one of the “good ones”’.”<BR/>~<BR/><BR/>This has always cracked me up. Clearly both that black man, and white woman are very delusional. It’s only understandable that they do delusional things. But I think those types are perfect for each other.<BR/>~<BR/><BR/>JaliliMaster said...<BR/><BR/>“I have to disagree with the posters who say it’s lust. It can be, but in most cases, it’s malice. These bm would only be lusting after the kind of bw that they’d have dated/slept with, not just any black woman they encounter. It was a very common thing for bw to say these bm who had non-black girlfriends/wives, secretly wanted them. It was only to make themselves feel better.”<BR/>~<BR/><BR/>I don’t think a man should be staring a woman down like that period to begin with (especially if he already has a woman). If its mostly malice, then there are oodles of black men who need to get deliverance…or at least therapy. As for them seemingly only to do so to “black women” (generally speaking) then they have serious issues. But what about the many black women who are beaten, AND raped? (And the numbers have drastically risen for some reason). Quite frankly, evil stares like that are capable of anything, absolutely anything. That’s why I said malice or lust (or both). It’s hateful. Not all black men are like this, I know that… but it’s seems like too many of them are. Much too many. I don’t mind the “check her out” looks (most of the time) but I’m sure a woman can tell by instinct when the look is just not right if she’s paying attention or is properly educated concerning those types of situations.Velvet Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01025310589945449403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-40009751883482173952008-10-15T23:51:00.000-05:002008-10-15T23:51:00.000-05:00@deethat wm prolly wouldve called her that if she ...@dee<BR/><BR/>that wm prolly wouldve called her that if she looked white too. white people dont see the big deal with stuff like this because theyve never experienced racism in the way black people do. if the mother doesnt say anything it means she knows for sure he doesnt mean anything bad at all, otherwise she surely would have stepped in and pointed it out to him, or more than that. when your in irr you have to have some patience with stuff like this or slowly (not abrutly) try to change it. this comes with the mom and dad being from such different backgrounds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-7353337576314249462008-10-15T23:22:00.000-05:002008-10-15T23:22:00.000-05:00“dee said...A close friend of mine, I'll call her ...“dee said...<BR/>A close friend of mine, I'll call her "Fay", and her hubby (who is white) have a lovely little girl, Rose, who is now about 5 months old. The only thing that's irritating is that he calls his beautiful little flower (of all names), monkey. For a man who is married to a beautiful black woman and has a child with her and has black friends, you'd think he should know better, but doesn't. He and friends laugh at this like this hilarious. I don't laugh at it, I either get up and walk away or ignore him! She doesn't defend her or tell him to stop.”<BR/><BR/>I had to comment on this one because my mother (who’s not black) would call my rambunctious baby sister a lil “monkey”. It stopped after my dad eventually got on her case about it but she didn’t see what the big deal was. I don’t think she does yet either, ha ha!<BR/>The way I see it is, if it wasn’t for the racial slur the term “monkey” has been used for historically, I think it would be a pretty affectionate way to refer to a rambunctious child (not saying his daughter is rambunctious because I don’t know). Many parents (who aren’t black) call their own kids monkeys, and some don’t see it as a big deal to call a black kid a monkey. I’ve noticed a lot of people (in my area of living) don’t even know about the racial history behind the slur “monkey” so I don’t blame them. <BR/>However, my mother had to be reminded but she thinks its not a big deal since we don’t live in those times (as it were then) anymore. But out of respect she doesn’t call my baby sister a lil monkey anymore. I think.<BR/>So maybe that’s kind’ve how her father thinks. He isn’t using the term “monkey” in a racist way, although others might but he’s not coming from that point of view. Although I still think there should be some sensitivity. But, she’s not my kid…so…not my call to say what’s right or not in this situation.Velvet Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01025310589945449403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-9666334445321708072008-10-15T22:59:00.000-05:002008-10-15T22:59:00.000-05:00Golden Silence, what you said about familiarity is...Golden Silence, what you said about familiarity is true. Trashy people like to claim we're all in the same boat, in essence, trying to to take credit for those striving towards greatness. In truth, we're all in the same boat, but while some of us are paddling as fast as we can, others are just along for the ride. <BR/><BR/>As for the train issue---Your best bet is to become acquianted with the nicer people you ride with. My shifts don't always allow for this (which is when I get pestered), but when it does, it's nice riding with a group. We share stories, laugh, and because there's several of us, the scary people can't get too close. Are there other women who ride with you? Better yet, are there any nice looking eligible, compatable men? I don't have any on my train (and I've tried all 4 cars, LOL!), but if there's a nice looking man around, see about making a conversation with him. I'm a bit bold, so I went up to one guy, saying we'd seen each other too much not be properly introduced. While he's not one of my "core riders," if my friends didn't work that day I'll sit with him. We're not compatible, but at least now I know instead of wondering about it from afar.TChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09288290055025815645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3046913066595294996.post-82942067389894633732008-10-15T20:46:00.000-05:002008-10-15T20:46:00.000-05:00What dbrbm says female. Men usually say WOMEN. Get...What dbrbm says female. Men usually say WOMEN. Get your facts straight and _itches about every little thing.<BR/><BR/>sheila eAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com